Last night my H told me that his ex-gf wants to put SD(5) in preschool and she asked if he would split the costs. What is the best way to do this? Get a new CO drawn up, pay his portion directly to the school? I ask because it isn't stated anywhere in the court order about splitting shcool/day care costs.
Currently CS is based on H only having SD 7%, and at the time everything was drawn up BM wasn't working much, at all. Her income is listed as $1300 a month. Therefore taking all that into consideration, H pays $1,250 in CS each month. My first response is that he should get it in the CO, and also re-evaluate the amount of CS he pays, based on BM working a full time job? A while back she agreed to lower the CS because she is working now, but then said that he needed to go through the court so it is "fair", so why should this be any different?
I totally agree that he should spilt the cost of childcare/pre-school, but my concern is more that bm is working, so I think he should go through the court to make it "fair" as well? And he is also getting SD way more than 7% of the time now.
Re: SD starting pre-school, best way to handle additional cost?
Where we live in CA, CS is based on income (both parties) and % of time the child is with the NCP. So her income will have an effect on the child support. Plus, my H made about 10K less in 2010 than he did when the support order was first put in place.
We do have a decent relationship with BM, so we'll see. Although if he says that he wants to have the court determine things, it might push her into not being nice anymore. It's taken 2 years to get to a decent place with her. I'll give my H all the info, and he can decide what he wants to do.
I would have him say to her that, "hey remember a while back when you suggested that we should go back to court to get everything written up (and fair), I think you were right and I am going to file but in the meantime I can pay half of her preschool fees but I think for documentation sake for the court it is better for me to pay the school directly...and he should ask to check out the school with her if he has legal right to do so, not saying fight over it but have an interest.
I think this is a great way to present it! He is going with her on Monday to check out the school.