Attachment Parenting
KelliLynee
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Trying for #2 since July 2010
BFP 8/1/10, missed m/c, D&C 9/15/10.
BFP 1/8/11, chemical pregnancy.
BFP 3/4/11, measured behind all along, no more HB 4/18/11. D&C 4/29/11. HCG didn't drop, Repeat D&C 6/17/11; confirmed molar pregnancy 6/23/11.
Forced break, including two Hysteroscopies in October to remove retained tissue.
BFP 12/29/11! Betas @ 10 dpo = 85, 14 dpo= 498, 22 dpo = 7242
Heard HB 1/24/12. 144 bpm!
Luca Rose born 9/9/12! More than worth the wait!
Tips/articles for family support/education about breastfeeding?
KelliLynee
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As I just posted below, my BFF just had her baby girl yesterday, and she is breastfeeding. She has a great start, and baby is doing great too. Unfortunately her mom is not a big supporter of breastfeeding and keeps making comments about giving her a bottle of formula (because she seems "hungry" or because she didn't "nurse enough"). My friend is doing all the right things- frequent feedings (that are long enough), skin-to-skin with baby, etc., and baby has well surpassed the recommended number of wet & soiled diapers both today ad yesterday. There is no reason at all to do anything differently (feeding wise). My friend knows she is doing all the right things, but she needs help dealing with her mom. Not only does she just want her moms support, but her mom is going to be watching the baby full time when she goes back to work. She is afraid that she will sneak her formula when she is at work. I told her that she is doing all the right stuff for her breastfeeding relationship and not to doubt herself or fall into her moms pleas to give formula, and that she needs to tell her mom that she understands not many people breastfed in her day of mothering but we now know how much better it is, and she is committed to doing it, and that she needs her mother to put aside her beliefs and just be supportive. In addition, I am willing to bet there are some good summary documents available to give to family members as sort of a "how to" on supporting someone who is breastfeeding. Can anyone help me out here? She is Chinese, so I am looking for something that is short enough to be translates easy (or something available in multiple languages!). Thanks so much ladies. In the meantime, I will continue my google and Kellymom search : )
Trying for #2 since July 2010
BFP 8/1/10, missed m/c, D&C 9/15/10.
BFP 1/8/11, chemical pregnancy.
BFP 3/4/11, measured behind all along, no more HB 4/18/11. D&C 4/29/11. HCG didn't drop, Repeat D&C 6/17/11; confirmed molar pregnancy 6/23/11.
Forced break, including two Hysteroscopies in October to remove retained tissue.
BFP 12/29/11! Betas @ 10 dpo = 85, 14 dpo= 498, 22 dpo = 7242
Heard HB 1/24/12. 144 bpm!
Luca Rose born 9/9/12! More than worth the wait!
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Re: Tips/articles for family support/education about breastfeeding?
things in breastmilk not in formula:
https://www.drjen4kids.com/soap%20box/what's%20missing%20in%20formula.htm
https://www.analyticalarmadillo.co.uk/2010/10/ask-armadillo-whats-in-breastmilk-but.html
you could show her why supplementing is bad:
https://thebabybond.com/InfantDeaths.html
https://www.naturalfamilyonline.com/go/index.php/227/deadly-influence-formula-in-america
or this has almost everything:
https://milkmatters.org.uk/over-101-reasons-to-breastfeed/
Little Rose is 2 1/2.
I can appreciate these articles as pro-breastfeeding and have to say that most of the stuff in them is ok. However, I did see quite a few things stated as fact or blanket truth statements (meaning that they would be true for every person who breastfeeds) that are in fact not. Example: at least one of the articles stated that breastfeeding was an acceptable form of contraception. This is not true at all. Does is work for some people? Yes it does. But I know of MANY people who exclusively breastfed (or breastfeed) who started regular cycles again at 6 weeks or at least before 6 months. So I would say that these articles are ok and contain good information, but to realize that not everything in them should be read as fact but rather highly probable or something of that nature.
Daughter #1 - February 12, 2010
natural m/c March 11, 2011 at 8 1/2 weeks
Daughter #2 - January 11, 2012
Ectopic pregnancy discovered November 6, 2012 at 6 weeks
Daughter #3 - January 19, 2014
Started our exploration into the world of international adoption June 2012. We have no idea what this is going to look like but we are excited to find out!
Hi
Thanks for sharing my link
I believe my entry was factual, but you are welcome to shout if there's something you think may be incorrect? https://www.analyticalarmadillo.co.uk/2010/10/ask-armadillo-whats-in-breastmilk-but.html
Re contraception - LAM is a reliable form of contraception when the criteria are met. One of these is that there has been no further blood loss since postpartum bleed.
https://milkmatters.org.uk/over-101-reasons-to-breastfeed/ is another but not sure how easily it would translate into Chinese!
AA
Oh man, that is so frustrating that her mother isn't being supportive. I agree that she seriously needs to sit and talk to her mom and let her know how hurtful it is that she isn't willing to support her decision. It sounds like dealing with her mom is going to be her biggest hurdle.
Otherwise I've always turned to kellymom.com for breastfeeding information.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18