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Scared of Sex

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So.... I've made it through the scary first trimester. According to my LMP I'm supposed to only be 12 weeks on wed. but when I had my US last week the doctor said the baby was measuring a week ahead. 

Now the hard part. I've been on pelvic rest for the whole first trimester because I've had 2 previous miscarriages and an ectopic. The doctor never really put me on it. I put myself on it. The doctor didn't disagree either though. Probably just to ease my mind. But now that first trimester is over and hubby is ready to go.... it's been a long time because I found out really early. I am scared to death though. I don't know what to do. I've never been this far in a pregnancy and I'm just so worried that somethings going to go wrong. I know sex can't cause a miscarriage but it doesn't make it any easier. 

Any suggestions on easing my way back into the groove? I do miss the intimacy with my husband I just want to be able to enjoy the moment and not be terrified. 

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  • shanna82shanna82 member
    Maybe talk to your DH about giving you whatever type of foreplay you like the best?  That way you won't be able to help yourself and you will WANT it  :)  Also, use lots of lube!  :)  For me, it's more sensitive down there and lube has made a huge difference.  Make sure to O, because the difference between non-pg O and pg O will make you want more :)
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  • ashleyrsotomayorashleyrsotomayor member
    I wish I could help you, but DH and I are both still afraid. We have done it only once since the BFP. I was also put on pelvic rest at 17 weeks due to some spotting. That has been lifted but we are still afraid to do it. I wish we could get over our fear!!! I hear it's great!
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  • goalieamy24goalieamy24 member
    What if you were to first just do touching, no actual intercourse?  Maybe after feeling comfortable with orgasming pregnant you would begin to feel more comfortable with having sex?  I will forewarn you that a pregnancy orgasm is different.  Not to scare you, but don't be surprised if you feel some cramping after your finished.  Orgasming makes your ute contract, and because your ute is getting larger you're probably going to notice it.  
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