Miscarriage last week...first day back to work tomorrow : (

nancy&chris · February 2011

Found out last week at my 13 week ultrasound that we had lost the baby. I had a d&c on Thursday. This is my second miscarriage. Tomorrow is my first day back to work and I am absolutely dreading it. I know the longer I stay out the harder it will be to go back, and the more questions people will ask about why I was out. Ahhh. I am praying the day goes smoothly. I am a Child Protective Services caseworker, so its not exactly an easy job to go back into after suffering the loss of a child you loved and wanted more than anything else. The job is already hard enough, dealing with people who abuse and maltreat their children. It makes me want to scream out at them, don't you know how many people desperately want to have a child and you can't and you treat your child like this???!!!! Or people that abuse drugs while they are pregnant and have perfectly healthy children....when I gave up coffee the moment I found out, so I could "make sure" I had a healthy pregnancy! Somethings just don't make sense.

Anyway, sorry this turned into a vent...but like I said, dreading work tomorrow!!

Anyone else have especially tough jobs to go back too?

Best wishes to everyone.

keyorie · February 2011

I am a sixth grade teacher in a very low ses area, so I understand. Tomorrow is also my first day back, but thankfully I wasn't as far along nor did I require a D&C. Know my thoughts will be with you tomorrow. If you shed a few tears, I probably will be as well. HUGS!

Caud2010 · February 2011

My heart goes out to you as I was in your very same position about 3 years ago. My husband and I lost 3 pregnancies. I had an ectopic pregnancy, then a regular miscarriage, and then a D&C after the fetus was no longer viable. Through all that, I was also a child protective worker and I can really sympathize with how you feel. It is incredibly difficult to keep your anger/resentment in check because the whole thing just doesn't feel fair. Why do people who really shouldn't have children reproduce with no problems???? I have to say that is still a mystery to me.

You have sufferred such a difficult loss and my advice-don't answer any questions you don't want to. You can just say you were sick....The only people I discussed stuff with were those at work I was closest to (ie. my boss and a few co-workers). Ultimately, I had to leave that job because I couldn't take it all anymore. I switched to a child welfare related job doing adoption work. I started to heal from all the loss (and all the stress and trauma involved in child protective work). About a year and a half later I got pregnant and now have a 3 month old daughter. I can definitely say she was worth all we went through but seeing your post reminded me of just how difficult those days were. I really wish you all the best and I truly feel for you and all you are going through. Take good care of yourself.

thippolite11 · February 2011

I know that god sent me to this board to heal because I also work as a Child Protective Specialist and I know the dread you are feeling and the questions going through your head after all the abuse and neglect we witness . The questions about how a mother who abuses drug throughout her pregnancy is blessed with 13 children at a time but I get to lose my first . You are strong I am not ready to go back to work tomorrow. Best wishes tomorrow .

lavril · February 2011

I'm so sorry. I don't have a job like that, but I can appreciate how hard that must be for you. Best wishes tomorrow - my T&P will be with you.

ktchurch86 · February 2011

I just found out tonight that I'm having a m/c and I don't have to go back to work tomorrow, but I work at a pregnancy care center where women come in for any pregnancy need. A lot of these women don't take care of themselves let alone can take care of a baby. some of them don't even want to have children, some do drugs. i dread going back and seeing these women who are pregnant or coming in for a pregnancy test or whatever and i have to sit there and comfort them for what they are going through (being pregnant unexpectedly), when I wont even get to see my October baby. sorry to ramble about me. I will be praying for you tomorrow, I hope you can try and be patient around the families you see tomorrow even though you'll be screaming in your head.

badtzmaru22 · February 2011

I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope today went ok for you.

My job isn't child-related or terribly stressful, but there is a pregnant woman in my department, and it's so hard to watch her go through things I thought I'd be right behind her in doing, and now I'm not.

::hugs::

Miscarriage last week...first day back to work tomorrow : (

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