At my first RE appt., last month, he gave me a slip for my DH to get b/w to check for Hep B and C. My DH is very resistant to getting blood drawn or needles, etc. Actually - he is very resistant to do anything medical related to help himself, but that is another story. So the reasoning last month that he didn't go in for it (or his repeat SA) was that he was hopeful I would get pregnant during our med break month. Well, that didn't happen. So we sat down together last night and talked - I told him he needed to do the SA this week and to schedule the appt. And that he needs to go do this blood test.
He scheduled the SA today - but when I asked about the b/w - he was again resistant and started to get mad. I don't know really how important it is that he has to get it done - but the RE obviously wants it. I don't want to get into a big fight about it - so I'm thinking if he doesn't get it done by the time I go into the RE next week for my follie check - I'll ask them how important it is. But in reality - I just want him to take care of it himself! Especially after I had about 8 vials of blood drawn this morning!!!
Re: Did your DH have to get b/w done? (& vent)
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My DH has not had to- and they didn't mention it. I think he would probably be the same way. I know I could probably talk him into it- but he wouldn't like it. He was surprisingly accommodating about the SA though- so who knows. He did say that he was extremely opposed to any sort of testicular surgery and luckily he won't have to worry about that...
And I hear you about the vials of blood- I gave up like 10 for all my various testing- then had to go back a week later for two more. I look like a heroin addict- and am all bruised!
Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
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Yes it is required by law (in my state at least) for a partner to be tested for all STDs before an IUI can be done (or IVF).
My DH was a little resistant to the SA also but then once we were diagnosed with MFI he came around and did everything the doctors asked. I hope yours does as well.
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Feb.2012 = Hail Mary IUI #4 = BFN
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My RE requires it - I think it is a law in CA - to test for infectious diseases. They refuse to do an IUI/IVF without the testing. They told us at our IUI seminar that the first rule of medicine is "do no harm" and if they did an IUI on someone with sperm that potentially could pass on a disease, that is considered harming someone.
I would remind your husband of all of the unpleasant things you have had done - b/w, HSG, ultrasounds, etc. There is nothing about this process that is fun! My DHs biggest complaint about the b/w was that he had to leave work to get it done. He just started a new job and it's awkward starting a new job and telling them we are having IF issues. Ironically, when he told them, he found out one of his co-workers just went through the same thing.
Yes my DH had to have b/w done. Maybe if you go with him it will be better. I still have to lie down for b/w but this whole IF process has made it a lot easier.
Good Luck and I hope YH gets it done!
f/u - I brought it up again - and he said he will take care of it. He's still not happy about it though....
Thanks again for all of your input! I hate going through this and its nice to know that others understand!
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My DH did, after his abnormal S/A. At that point he just wanted answers, so he didn't fight it.
Sorry your husband is apprehensive!
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Yup this.
DH was very resistant to the SA b/c he was afraid of the outcome but after I got my HSG done and had already done at least 10 vials of b/w, he finally got it done. After we did realize it was MFI, he has been on board ever since.
Infectious disease testing isn't required in MO and my DH's SAs were fine. So, he never was required to have b/w done. That being said, MH has seen what all they have put me through and tells me he wishes he could take on some of it. It is hard for him to sit by and have me go through so much.
I know b/w isn't fun, but it is definitely something YH should bite the bullet and do. Good luck, hon!
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IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN
IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.
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IVF #4: BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #5: MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #6: (New RE): Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN
FET#1: BFN
DH just got his done last week for our upcoming IUI. They never called so I called today on the results. She said "we told your husband we'd only call if there was something bad." uuummm, yeah he must have forgot that. So happy I called him at work to say "You're STD free!" not that I was worried, but still. Happy none the least.
IUI#4 1/23/13 on 75iu x9 Follistim = BFP then chem preg m/c (Feb 2013)
IUI#5 BFN (April 2013)
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