Would this bother you?

VeilSdeGTO · February 2011

I had a 2nd tri loss in my early 20's with my then BF. We had names picked out for both a boy and a girl. We never found out what I was having by the time I naturally m/c'd, and didn't know enough at the time to have any testing done.

Fast forward and now that ex has had two boys, and he re-used the middle names we picked for our boy. It bothered me at the time, but not so much. However, his wife is now pg with a girl, and he is using the entire name we picked for our girl.

I'm not sure if my losses are playing a role, but it is bothering me more than I'd like.

Would this bother you?

P.S. This would be baby #7 with 4 different daddys. Ugh!

itsmegin · February 2011

Hm, I think it would. When you said he was just using the middle names I kind of thought it was nice, like in memory of your lost child with him, but it seems kind of weird to take the entire name.

Scout05 · February 2011

Yes, that would bother me very much.

alexa08 · February 2011

Yep, I think that's weird. And not very orginal on his part.

Does the mom to be not have an opinion of her own on names? Guess if you're on baby 7 you might run out. Confused

shaysmom05 · February 2011

Yeah that would bother me a bit. I would hope my ex (whom I was with during my first m/c) would have enough brains NOT to use the names we chose.

gwennythepooh · February 2011

Yes, it would definitely bother me.

camdenfaithful · February 2011

O definitely. That would bother me a lot!

ravenorchid · February 2011

I think it would bother me. Seems strange that he would want to do that...I'm sorry, sweetie.

Karen1998 · February 2011

Um, yeah, that would bother me. I'm sorry you're dealing with this nimrod.

VeilSdeGTO · February 2011

itsmegin:
Hm, I think it would. When you said he was just using the middle names I kind of thought it was nice, like in memory of your lost child with him, but it seems kind of weird to take the entire name.

Nope. He's not the type that would ever do that.

Junebug060609 · February 2011

Yeah, that would bother me.

Someone really needs to work on his origionality...

normajeane6126 · February 2011

That is really weird. Honestly, when you split up with someone, the baby names you picked out together are off limits. Would his wife still have agreed to use the name if your pg then had been successful with a boy?

sunflowr0803 · February 2011

Oh yes, it would reeeeeeeeeeeally bother me.

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