name board vent

taylorfriend · February 2011

I don't understand why.. if people say they are 100% in love with a certain name and are decided on it... that people still have to throw their negativity out there... I'm not telling you her name to get your approval.. I'm telling you because I'm super excited about it!

This hasn't happened to me, but I see this all the time on the name boards... people have their first name picked out (no turning back) and the only thing they are asking is help with the middle name... why do people have to point out the fact that they absolutely hate the name choice? Don't ruin people's excitement!!

mbritto4 · February 2011

On occasion I've seen some pretty horrendous names on the BN board, even I'd likely speak up if I saw one totally off the wall. Like if someone was on a medication and thought it'd just make an awesome baby name. I typically don't say anything unless asked if it's a horrible name, or I'll say NMS (not my style). But some people have pretty strong opinions on baby names, and if a name is written there they'll get an opinion on it. Good or bad.

Also, BTW, many people on here frequent Baby Names. And people on other boards tend to "lurk" on other boards so this post may not go over so well with some of the BN regulars. The general rule over there is if you don't want honest opinions don't post?

LnR70707 · February 2011

The name board is there for people to voice their opinions and get ideas. If people don't want opinions, they shouldn't post there. I don't understand why someone would post there at all if they are dead set on a name already.

GracieLou Freebush · February 2011

It's a public message board to specifically discuss baby names. This should not shock you.

Have your read their unofficial guide? They get this reaction all the time. *shrug*

taylorfriend · February 2011

GracieLouFreebush*:

It's a public message board to specifically discuss baby names. This should not shock you.

Have your read their unofficial guide? They get this reaction all the time. *shrug*

I understand that it is a baby name board... that is why the board is called "baby names"... lol I'm not shocked. My point was just that some people are just wanting ideas for a middle name.. not a put down on the first name. And if people do have an opinion on the first name that they should give it tactfully... that's all..

jdm7 · February 2011

mbritto4:

On occasion I've seen some pretty horrendous names on the BN board, even I'd likely speak up if I saw one totally off the wall. Like if someone was on a medication and thought it'd just make an awesome baby name. I typically don't say anything unless asked if it's a horrible name, or I'll say NMS (not my style). But some people have pretty strong opinions on baby names, and if a name is written there they'll get an opinion on it. Good or bad.

Also, BTW, many people on here frequent Baby Names. And people on other boards tend to "lurk" on other boards so this post may not go over so well with some of the BN regulars. The general rule over there is if you don't want honest opinions don't post?

So are you saying Lunesta and Ambien are bad names? Smile Stick out tongue

Temp856430000003146 · February 2011

What I don't understand is when people post there saying, "We decided to use Gertrude as our baby's name! What do you think?"

If you've already decided, why are you asking for opinions?

boogerbearoriginal · February 2011

tavia_martin:
What I don't understand is when people post there saying, "We decided to use Gertrude as our baby's name! What do you think?"
If you've already decided, why are you asking for opinions?

This.

Granted I've never even lurked on the babyname board so I have no real opinion of what goes on there. But really - if you don't want opinions why are you on a board whose sole purpose is to give opinions on names?

ring_pop · February 2011

I like their honesty. Maybe you need to grow a thicker skin.

Five_letter · February 2011

jdm7:
mbritto4:

On occasion I've seen some pretty horrendous names on the BN board, even I'd likely speak up if I saw one totally off the wall. Like if someone was on a medication and thought it'd just make an awesome baby name. I typically don't say anything unless asked if it's a horrible name, or I'll say NMS (not my style). But some people have pretty strong opinions on baby names, and if a name is written there they'll get an opinion on it. Good or bad.

Also, BTW, many people on here frequent Baby Names. And people on other boards tend to "lurk" on other boards so this post may not go over so well with some of the BN regulars. The general rule over there is if you don't want honest opinions don't post?

So are you saying Lunesta and Ambien are bad names?

Don't forget Seasonique, Yasmin & Mirena

jdm7 · February 2011

Five_letter:
jdm7:
mbritto4:

On occasion I've seen some pretty horrendous names on the BN board, even I'd likely speak up if I saw one totally off the wall. Like if someone was on a medication and thought it'd just make an awesome baby name. I typically don't say anything unless asked if it's a horrible name, or I'll say NMS (not my style). But some people have pretty strong opinions on baby names, and if a name is written there they'll get an opinion on it. Good or bad.

Also, BTW, many people on here frequent Baby Names. And people on other boards tend to "lurk" on other boards so this post may not go over so well with some of the BN regulars. The general rule over there is if you don't want honest opinions don't post?

So are you saying Lunesta and Ambien are bad names?

Don't forget Seasonique, Yasmin & Mirena

Ooh, I forgot about those. Might move Seasonique and Mirena to the top of my list, as well as Nuvaring (Nuva for short)

GracieLou Freebush · February 2011

taylorfriend:
GracieLouFreebush*:

It's a public message board to specifically discuss baby names. This should not shock you.

Have your read their unofficial guide? They get this reaction all the time. *shrug*

I understand that it is a baby name board... that is why the board is called "baby names"... lol I'm not shocked. My point was just that some people are just wanting ideas for a middle name.. not a put down on the first name. And if people do have an opinion on the first name that they should give it tactfully... that's all..

My point is that it's a public message board so anyone posting there should expect honest responses of all kinds and not boo hoo when people pick apart their names.

tosababy · February 2011

To me, the name board is about discussions about names. If you're 100% sure of the name, why post? Or, if you do post, stand behind your choice. People shouldn't post if all they're looking for is validation.

JennV514 · February 2011

I love the Baby Names board, and I appreciate their honesty.

mnmgirl078 · February 2011

I get what OP is trying to say. If someone posts on the BN board and says, "I've chosen Beatrice for a first name, need help choosing a MN to go with it." Then what she is asking for is opinions on a middle name, not your thoughts on her already chosen first name. The honest opinions are certainly appreciated and I understand the whole public message board thing, but give opinions on what an OP actually wants your opinion on. That's what I think the OP here is saying.

Kitten80 · February 2011

mnmgirl078:
I get what OP is trying to say. If someone posts on the BN board and says, "I've chosen Beatrice for a first name, need help choosing a MN to go with it." Then what she is asking for is opinions on a middle name, not your thoughts on her already chosen first name. The honest opinions are certainly appreciated and I understand the whole public message board thing, but give opinions on what an OP actually wants your opinion on. That's what I think the OP here is saying.

this! Well put, mnmgirl!

GracieLou Freebush · February 2011

mnmgirl078:
I get what OP is trying to say. If someone posts on the BN board and says, "I've chosen Beatrice for a first name, need help choosing a MN to go with it." Then what she is asking for is opinions on a middle name, not your thoughts on her already chosen first name. The honest opinions are certainly appreciated and I understand the whole public message board thing, but give opinions on what an OP actually wants your opinion on. That's what I think the OP here is saying.

Let's say someone posts something like this--

"I'm cheating on my H! My boyfriend and I want a weekend away...should we go to Vegas or Napa Valley?"

Responders can't help but address the first part of the post, the cheating, even though the OP didn't ask for opinions on her relationship.

Obviously this is an extreme example but that's honestly how I feel when I see someone post "We are definitely going to name our DD Chuck! Does it flow better with Ann or Grace? TIA!!"

ETA: So I think it comes down to your personality type. It's a public message board so you'll get all kinds and some are on the brutal honesty end of the scale while others are on the puppies and rainbows end...with everything in between.

MrsCase1 · February 2011

if i cant say something nice, i say nothing at all. i am totally incapable of pretending to like a name. totally. i have seen some pretty horrfic ones, lol.

mytwobabies · February 2011

I was asking for advise on a boys name and said that my name of choice was Declan but df didnt like it. some stupid B told me that when she hears the name Declan she pictures a socially awkward kid. I was like seriously? didnt i just say I LOVE that name!?

AsOctoberFalls · February 2011

mytwobabies:
I was asking for advise on a boys name and said that my name of choice was Declan but df didnt like it. some stupid B told me that when she hears the name Declan she pictures a socially awkward kid. I was like seriously? didnt i just say I LOVE that name!?

Um, wow, overreact much? You said you loved it. She said it makes her picture a socially awkward kid (I've heard much worse on that board, FWIW). I can't believe that you are upset enough to call her a "stupid b."

And I like the name Declan. Stick out tongue

mytwobabies · February 2011

AsOctoberFalls:

mytwobabies:
I was asking for advise on a boys name and said that my name of choice was Declan but df didnt like it. some stupid B told me that when she hears the name Declan she pictures a socially awkward kid. I was like seriously? didnt i just say I LOVE that name!?

Um, wow, overreact much? You said you loved it. She said it makes her picture a socially awkward kid (I've heard much worse on that board, FWIW). I can't believe that you are upset enough to call her a "stupid b."

And I like the name Declan.

yeah, I didnt really ask for your opinion. I was replying to the original poster who got *** on the entire thread. FYI I didnt reply to the person who commented on my thread but yes I think she is a *** and no I'm not over reacting. You dont tell a person the baby name that they picked is a bad name when they didnt ask for your feedback. That is no different than me seeing your ticker and the name you plan to name your child and saying "when I see the name ___ it makes me think of a socially awkward kid" that pretty much ruins a name.

AsOctoberFalls · February 2011

mytwobabies:

yeah, I didnt really ask for your opinion. I was replying to the original poster who got *** on the entire thread. FYI I didnt reply to the person who commented on my thread but yes I think she is a *** and no I'm not over reacting. You dont tell a person the baby name that they picked is a bad name when they didnt ask for your feedback. That is no different than me seeing your ticker and the name you plan to name your child and saying "when I see the name ___ it makes me think of a socially awkward kid" that pretty much ruins a name.

If you post ANYTHING on the bump, you're leaving yourself open for other people's opinions. If you post on the baby name board, you pretty much are asking for advice. And your response to my post confirms that you are a MAJOR over-reactor.

GracieLou Freebush · February 2011

mytwobabies:
AsOctoberFalls:

mytwobabies:
I was asking for advise on a boys name and said that my name of choice was Declan but df didnt like it. some stupid B told me that when she hears the name Declan she pictures a socially awkward kid. I was like seriously? didnt i just say I LOVE that name!?

Um, wow, overreact much? You said you loved it. She said it makes her picture a socially awkward kid (I've heard much worse on that board, FWIW). I can't believe that you are upset enough to call her a "stupid b."

And I like the name Declan.

yeah, I didnt really ask for your opinion. I was replying to the original poster who got *** on the entire thread. FYI I didnt reply to the person who commented on my thread but yes I think she is a *** and no I'm not over reacting. You dont tell a person the baby name that they picked is a bad name when they didnt ask for your feedback. That is no different than me seeing your ticker and the name you plan to name your child and saying "when I see the name ___ it makes me think of a socially awkward kid" that pretty much ruins a name.

If you put so much stock in something an internet stranger thinks to the point that it ruins a name for you, you have bigger problems than the name Declan.

12bailey18 · February 2011

JennV514:
I love the Baby Names board, and I appreciate their honesty.

Me too.

e_uecker · February 2011

L&R70707:
The name board is there for people to voice their opinions and get ideas. If people don't want opinions, they shouldn't post there. I don't understand why someone would post there at all if they are dead set on a name already.

Agreed. They're only saying what everyone else will be thinking.

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