Visited my friend today who just had a m/c

ashleyrsotomayor · February 2011

My friend m/c this week at 9 weeks, right after her first appointment. This was her first pregnancy and she had been trying for a very long time. I knew how much it meant to me to have people to talk to who understood, so I asked if she wanted me to come by and she said yes. I also gave her my huge supply of ovulation and pregnancy tests because she had asked for those too. I felt bad going over there because I know how hard it is to be around pregnant people when you are going through a loss, but she said she wanted me to come over so I did. I feel so bad, she was trying to be really positive the other day on the phone, but she broke down when I was over there. We talked awhile and I hope I made her feel better and not worse. I hate seeing someone I care about in that position. It's a terrible place to be. I hope she knows that I am there for her when she needs me.

MrsAtch · February 2011

You are a good friend for being there for her. I know having supportive people who loved me was the only thing that got me through my most recent loss. I'll be keeping her in my thoughts.

D&D4Ever7 · February 2011

You are such a great friend. It is so nice to have someone talk to you when you are going through such a difficult time. I wish more of my family members were open enough to talk to me about my m/c. I had to rely on counselors.

sunflowr0803 · February 2011

That's really nice of you to be there for her, especially when and in the way that she wanted you to be. I'm sure she truly appreciated your time & your friendship.

tew213 · February 2011

You are such a great friend! I am sure she really appreciates you talking to her. It is such a hard thing to go through, I wish I had a friend IRL who I could of talked to about it all, one who truly understood how I felt.

Karen1998 · February 2011

((((Hugs)))) That was really sweet of you to go over and help her through this.

Junebug060609 · February 2011

It was good of you to come over.

FWIW, literally the day that I m/c I had my bff over (she had planned a trip cross country months before). She was 20 weeks pregnant at the time but had suffered a m/c with a previous pregnancy. Being able to talk to someone who "got it" in person was priceless. Kind of hard to believe that she's now ~36 weeks and I'm now pregnant again.

Jordan1234 · February 2011

It sounds like you were very respectful of her needs and wishes. I wish that I had had someone like you to be there for me.

slgbreeden · February 2011

You did a wonderful thing for your friend. That was so sweet of you to go to her for support when she needed it. I hope she gets her take home baby soon.