Sad for DH

kpowersw · February 2011

After two successful pregnancies, we had three m/c last year - the last one late at 17 weeks. While we're happy to be pregnant, DH and I haven't talked about it much. Our 1st u/s is tomorrow, at 6 weeks. DH and I were talking about it a little this weekend and he admitted he was scared and said "It's hard for me to see a positive outcome anymore". That made me so sad. I totally understand where he is coming from as I sometimes feel it to...I just wish it wasn't like this for us.

For those who have had recurrent m/c....how do you cope? Do you ever start to feel confident?

TrickyLittleMinx · February 2011

First off.. I am sorry for your losses.

I can't say that it gets any easier - for me anyways.. I still don't feel confident and I am terrifed every day beyond belief. Right now I am googling "small pregnant belly @ 24 weeks"..

GL at your appointment tomorrow. I wish you all the best! H&H 9 months!

quezzo · February 2011

I'm sorry for your losses. Do you guys have any idea why you've been miscarrying? Maybe that could give him some comfort? If your last loss was at 17 weeks it seems like they would know why, maybe? It made my husband feel better when we found out reasons for our miscarriages, and me too. Although, it does not make the paranoia of this pregnancy any better.

Good luck and your appointment tomorrow! T&P's for you and your LO.

kpowersw · February 2011

quezzo:

Do you guys have any idea why you've been miscarrying? Maybe that

Unfortunately we don't. A cause for our late loss couldn't be determined and after extensive testing on both of us everything looks normal...which is good, but bad at the same time. I really wish there was something we could fix.

1Thess517 · February 2011

We had to wait 3 months after our second loss, and I think that time really helped us. The losses weren't as fresh on our minds and we could move on easier. Plus we just moved, and we were not in a great place before (H hated his job, I hated his hours, far from both families...), but we are now. We just made ourselves be optimistic, and it's helped. We couldn't talk about it at all the first few weeks after we found out, but it's getting easier and we're feeling better about things. Plus we are back with the MW we used with DD and we love her, she's so supportive and just there, where the one we used with both losses was not.

Hopefully the peace will come to you and you'll both be able to think positively. And hopefully this is your sticky baby!

quezzo · February 2011

I'm sorry they don't know why it happened. That isn't a good place to be. The only thing I guess I can tell you to tell him is to take it day by day. Each day is a mini milestone and an accomplishment in my mind.

rock-elle · February 2011

I agree with a pp, I don't think it gets any easier. You have had two successful pg so you know you can carry a LO to term. I hope that this is your take home baby and that you and DH support each other through this pg.

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