Last night I got turned down for some sexy time. When I asked why DH said it's weird now. So I'm thinking he was having an issue with "poking him" but no, it's because he's more in the way now. I'm already having self esteem issues with my weight especially since I had to move from my pregnant clothes into my really pregnant clothes.. I guess I really am turning into a whale
I think I may need a good pampering day..
Re: No more sexy time for me I guess..
I'm in the same boat. MH can't wrap his head around having sex with a fully formed baby inside of me.
Poor DH must have miserable blueballs because doing the deed just hurts too much and I feel less confident while I manuver my new body in bed and try to be sexy so we haven't done it at least a month. He keeps saying "6 weeks after Aubrey arrives... it's ON!" lol.
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Sorry you feel this way. Don't be so down on yourself, we only have a little bit of time left before we all get our bodies back and we can feel better about ourselves.
If it makes you feel better, we haven't had sex since SEPTEMBER! Oh man that's embarrassing.... but oh well. MH keeps saying the same things, "Man i cant wait till Ellie is here, then we can have sex all the time! " ..... haha.... between breastfeeding and changing diapers I guess!
We just came up with other was of having sexy time. Mostly me on top because then I have the control stopping if it hurts and belling isn't in the way. There are other positions that have worked as well.
We don't have it all the time I am usually too tired or emotional to care.
This is what I'm saying. I think we should take advantage of the time we have now. I can't imagine going six weeks plus postpartum without any sex.
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I thought the same thing the first time around, until I actually had DS. But it was really easy! Poor DH. My stitches hurt so bad and I was engorged and had PPD so I didn't want him anywhere near me for over two months after.
When we finally did try, it took a few times and a lot of lube to finally get down to business.
My husband can't keep his hands off me, but I'm NEVER in the mood. Poor guy has never been so rejected in his life. (It's weird that having sex now doesn't freak him out, but when we were TTC he got really weirded out by what we were doing. I'd have to initiate when I was ovulating and not tell him that it was THAT time to be having sex).
The last few times we have done it, it was semi-painful, and we didn't have any lube. He's thinking that once I hit 39 weeks that we'll be doing it everyday to see if it helps induce labor. I don't have the heart to tell him otherwise, lol.
DH is afraid that having sex will induce labor. However, it took very short work to convince him that you can't induce labor unless my body is already thinking about it lol.
Oh jeez.. we haven't had sex in over a month and even then it's been completely sporatic through out the pregnancy. First it was because I was feeling so nauseous, and then it would give me massive heartburn, and now we both just feel so uncomfortable, it's hard to manuever and he's completely weirded out by it lol.
We've already decided that after peanut is born we're gonna have to make time during the day for sexy time while peanut is napping in her room lol!
I've been on restriction for over a month, and before that we'd manage to do it maybe every 1-2wks. I am hoping to get the OK this Thurs at my appt!
For me, pp sex was super painful (even with lube) due to hormone changes. I think the first time was at 3mos pp, and it got slightly better. It didn't really get better until I stopped BFing completely at 7mos.
If I get approved from doc and DH turns me down, I'll be really annoyed