nervous abt coming out of the PG closet....

mdotm0904 · February 2011

my mom (my #1 support thru all this, as there is no DH/DF/DB at the moment) asked if she could share the news w/the rest of the family after I first heard the heartbeat @ 10wks. I cautiously told her she could tell my grandma because I know how tough it is to keep a secret from your mom lol. So she told her & slowly over the last few weeks my family has been finding out. But for some reason, I'm still uncomfortable with people knowing I'm pregnant (I still rarely say the words myself). At first, I didn't want to share because I had a miscarriage @ 7wks almost 4yrs ago and EVERYONE knew about it & it was just tough going through that almost publicly it seemed.I had a successful NT scan @ 12w1d & baby looked perfect & now i'm in my 2nd trimester....but still....cautiously sticking my foot out of the closet. We had a birthday party for my aunt last night & i felt so [insert strange feeling emotion here] saying thank you as people continued to offer me "congratulations"

Not sure what it is, but i'm hoping the day will come when I can proudly shout. YES I'M HAVING A BABY AND I'M SOOOO EXCITED ABOUT IT!!! cuz i'm really not there yet =/

Anybody else extremely nervous about coming out or who have yet to come out at all?

SugarQueen101 · February 2011

I've come out in stages--my family knows & some friends. My work place doesn't know yet because they don't have a good track record with dealing with pregnant women. It does feel awkward sometime when I have people trying to touch my belly and/or size my growing belly up. I don't like being touched nor stared at...who does for that matter?

If it makes you feel any better, the chances of losing again at this point in a pregnancy have gone down a lot. I've had 2 miscarriages sadly and was afraid to get attached to this baby for fear of losing, but I take comfort in the knowledge that my chances this time are pretty good. (It feels so surreal that I've made it this far. Yes!)

You will start feeling confident again in no time. You'll see!

YisraelAmmi23 · February 2011

I felt that way too-- we didn't tell anyone until 10wks (except for my mom because she's a nurse and I wanted advice) because we had miscarried a year earlier and DH's mom had blabbed to half the country...

It took a while to feel comfortable, but it does happen--I think for me it was around 14 wks when I first felt my LO move!

kroftygal · February 2011

I feel the same way you are feeling. After our first two pregnancies ending in loss, it is hard for me to feel connected to this pregnancy because all I know is a negative outcome. However, it has helped me to share with my close friends and family because they are so excited and supportive and it makes me feel like this is going to happen. I have not told extended family or people that I am not close to. We have been careful to just tell those that we would want to be there for us should something go wrong. I imagine it will be quite strange to tell people when we feel the time is right - probably after 20 weeks. I am hoping it will feel more real once we have the anatomy scan and know the gender.

Good luck to you in your baby journey! Each day we are closer to meeting our baby...

CactusGirl · February 2011

I am not nervous about telling people because I really don't care who knows I am pregnant. However, I DO think it is an awkward thing to bring up. I just have trouble talking to someone and then being like "oh by the way, I'm pregnant". It is just a weird thing to casually bring up, lol. However, now that I am actually showing I don't really have to tell anyone anymore since it is visable.

tikitomban · February 2011

I was super-cautious. My mother had 3 miscarriages (and my parents couldn't have kids for 10 years), so in my head I was always concerned I'd have problems. As a result, when I got pregnant right away, I felt like it was too good to be true. My husband and I didn't want to jinx it, so it was about 14 weeks when we told our immediate family (parents, an aunt, and a grandmother) with a request that they hold off on sharing it with others quite yet, due to our concerns. Then we slowly started telling our closest friends/co-workers around 16 weeks. We also decided against posting anything on Facebook or anything, just because we figure everyone close to us knows now anyway, and we kind of like our privacy. I'm finally 25 weeks ... I think I'll kind of breathe a sigh of relief around 31 weeks -- or when the baby is born and I find out she's healthy!

deskok · February 2011

I had an unexpected pregnancy, and it was really hard to tell people. First off I am also not married, engaged and only dating my boyfriend. Some of my family members did not take it too well. And I had a hard time saying thanks and being happy because I felt judged. Many people asked me what are you and so-and-so going to do now, get married? move in with each other? etc. No we are not getting married, no we are not living with each other. I am just going with it. Its hard and you have a ways to go so you will become more comfortable along the way.

*Laney* · February 2011

I'm with you. We told people in stages. Mom and MIL found out when we did, some friends later and I still haven't told anyone else and I don't really want to. I'm sarting to show and I wish I didn't have to tell acquintances with my first one everyone was so annoying with the pregnancy jokes and trying to touch my belly and the constant... "get your sleep now" comments and all the unsolicited "advice" The worst was, since it was my first baby, all the women felt the need to tell me about their birth experiences.

I'm just not ready to have to share and have to listen to "advice"

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