Buying diapers for a friend - used/new?

maramarrie · February 2011

I'm buying some CDs for a friend who is getting ready to have a preemie. She's not in a position to invest in a lot herself, and I want to make this work for her so I'm trying to basically provider her with a complete stash. I know I can get a lot more for her if I buy them used, but I'm not sure if that's "ok" since they will be a gift - should a gift be new? Is it ok to ask her if she is open to used diapers or if she wants them new? I may even have some from our stash that I can give her, but I'm not sure if that's ok either....I would have to know how she feels about having used diapers. Do you think this is a question I can ask easily and tactfully?

lesleytaylor · February 2011

gently used diapers from Jillians Drawers look brand new. If you have some from your stash I would ask her if she minds but explain to her how buying used diapers is very common and that they would be stripped and clean. I would maybe buy a couple of new and then some used (from Jillians) as well.

Your cheapest route would be to buy prefolds and covers

Allie30 · February 2011

I understand your hesitance. I would also hesitate about buying someone else used diapers, though I have a ton myself.

Perhaps you can recast them as "vintage?"

Mrs.B6302007 · February 2011

Has she expressed an interest in a certain type of diaper like pocket or AI2? Are you planning a mixed stash or one type of diaper? What works on one baby may not work on another so if you try to give her enough diapers for an entire stash, she might not be able to use them all. Plus, with that baby being a preemie, it's going to be awhile before diapers are going to fit well to know how they work on him/her. Is this something that you could do as a present once baby is here? Maybe give her a portion of it up front (like what they put together for a diaper trial) and see what brand/style works for her baby and THEN buy her enough to complete the stash?

momofmanyinthemitten · February 2011

If she's not in a position to buy them herself, but really wants to use them, she would probably be ok with them being used (especially if you're buying a whole stash for her!). If it was me, I'd be grateful with anything I received. I would just run it by her-I wouldn't be offended.

maramarrie · February 2011

I know she registered for "50 or so", but I can't find her registry. Based on that number I'm sure they are prefolds, but I'm 99% sure that they would be Gerbers. So I was hoping to get her a full stash of quality prefolds/covers in preemie/newborn sizes. Buying new I can spend about $100, which is great; but I do worry that having a preemie and cloth diapering might be a heavy toll on her and she might not stick with it. Since we're not super-close I don't really want to waste $100, if you know what I mean. But if I get the same thing gently used for $60 I'd feel a lot better about it.

I bought my starter stash gently used and wasn't grossed out by it, but like some of you said, it is for someone else so I'd want to make sure she's not grossed out.

kaswanson · February 2011

It kind of depends on your relationship with her. It seems like you know her pretty well? I think if you think she'd be okay with it then just trust your instincts and go for it... I'm sure it would be fine. Personally, I don't really want any used diapers for my baby (it's my first). I'm not really sure why... but if I was in a bind financially I'm sure I'd be all for it.

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