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February 2011 Moms
I let her cry it out . . .
So I feel like a horrible mom, but I let DD cry it out tonight. I'm praying its just 3-6 week fussiness, but she crys every night from 6-10/11 whenever we can finally get her to let go and go to sleep. DH gets so upset with her, but I'm the only one who gets up in the night, so I'm exhausted. I fed her, burped her, changed her, etc. but she just kept screaming. I couldn't take it anymore so I put her in her crib and let her cry. Now I'm in tears because I feel like the worst mom. If I could just get more than 2 hours of sleep in a row I swear I'd feel like a new woman, but she is still up every 2-3 hours to eat. Please tell me it eventually gets better??
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Re: I let her cry it out . . .
Oh hun, I know it's so hard. Don't beat yourself up.
My LO is ALWAYS fussy from 5:30 til 10pm. No idea why, she just is. The only thing I can do to help her is swaddle, pacifier, and pat her back. She eats every 2 hours during this time, it is super hard. My H encourages me to let her CIO but that stresses me out and makes me have letdown so bad my boobs feel like they're going to pop.
Do you express at all? I found my LO always wanted to eat all. night. long. if I breastfed, but since I've been expressing for her to have a bottle she's been sleeping 3-4 hours a night. It at least gives me a little more sleep than I'd be getting if I were nursing. Or, (shoot me if you don't like the idea) try a bottle of formula at night to give you some sleep. You need sleep more than she needs your breastmilk, which she gets all day long anyway. You won't be jipping her if you give her one or two bottles of formula at night. And, maybe after you give her the formula, your boobs will be full enough to express enough milk for the next feeding? That would mean you could start a pattern of bottle feeding her at night, and then pumping her next bottle. (I do this.)
I know it's really hard. Do you have a friend or a relative near who could come one evening and attend to the baby while you get a REAL bath, and take a REAL nap? I know what it's like to have a frustrated DH who doesn't help much. M DH was like that with my first child and it was horrible. Also, look into what you ate 8hrs before your LO gets fussy. That could hold a key for the fussiness you see. Like, 8hrs after I drink milk, she's fussy and has painful gas. When I stopped drinking milk, the fussiness and gassiness decreased to a more manageable level.
You are not a bad Mom. And when you reach your breaking point and your child has her physical needs met, its OK to take a break and walk away to gather yourself. I highly recommend getting the book or DVD of Happiest Baby on the Block. It was God-sent when DS was that age.
And yes, it does get better - and you will even forget how horrible those days were and instead revel in how wonderful being a Mom can be - and you will dare to do it all over again!
GL Mama!
DD - February 2011
In my VERY humble opinion, I think you should try to find something that soothes her. Be it standing near white noise and swaying with your LO or rocking till the rockers fall off the rocking chair, lol. This time WILL pass. Also, I am the person getting up with my DS right now and I would love to have some decent sleep as well. My H is back to working his hectic schedule and traveling some so he really does need his sleep. It is hard to be sleep deprived and be the only one caring for a baby. Especially a cranky LO.
Good luck:). Don't beat yourself up over the CIO.