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somebirdseatseeds
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FIL vent - cant get past it
somebirdseatseeds
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It's been almost 5 weeks since I left the hospital with LO. I had a c-section so it was a little bit before I got to see her once she was born. My DH finally was able to bring her in and I held her for a little bit then immediately started to breastfeed her. DH's parents were waiting outside of the room. I covered up with the hospital gown and said they could come in. FIL proceeds to walk over and lifts my gown up and sees LO and my boobs.
I know it's been awhile but today is the first time we are going to see him since they left the hospital. I am having a hard time getting over it. My DH says that FIL is a socially awkward person. He can get up in front of big groups and talk just fine, but one on one he has no skills. Even so that is no excuse to lift up my shirt and see everything. Who does that? He didn't even say sorry or act embarrassed.
Vent over 
thank you for reading. I have tried to talk to DH about but he just gets all offended and mad because I haven't let it go.
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Re: FIL vent - cant get past it
Oh don't worry DH means dumb husband today.
Try to feel better knowing that FIL didn't think anything of it. If it happens again make sure you speak up to FIL because I agree... it's awkward.
Good luck Mama!
I agree - if he comes near you again when you are BFing and seems about to uncover you just say "Excuse me! I'll be done in a few minutes." and if that doesn't work say "Please, I have this cover on for a reason" - be as matter of fact as you can since he was very matter of fact about it with you.
Here's an outsider's perspective on the situation: you just had a baby, and your excited MIL and FIL are waiting outside your room to be able to come in and see the baby.
Your socially-awkward FIL comes in, and without thinking any further, says to himself "oh, I get to see the baby now," and lifts up the cover. I think it was a stupid but honest mistake. Bad timing on your dh's part to invite them in to see the baby after you had just started nursing and both of you were covered up, maybe.
Anyway, build a bridge and try to get over it. It happened and I don't think anything pervy or sinister was behind what he did, and he's probably embarrassed too and is afraid to even bring it up again to apologize to you. Not very mature, but it's time to move on.
BFP 1/18/11, EDD 10/1/11. Born at 37w5d on 9/15/11.
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