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May 2011 Moms
fraservalleybride
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Hospital or Home...Natural or All 4 Drugs?
fraservalleybride
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Choosing hospital or home and why?
Are you going all natural or going with drugs if needed and why?
Is your husband support yes or no...?
I am choosing a Home birth simply because i feel it is the right choice for me this time around. To make perfectly clear i am not against ob's/hospitals but when i had my 1st pregnancy it was less than memorable. I wanted to have a different experience this time. I've read alot about it did my research and talked to friends who have had home births.
I am planning an all natural birth because for me i believe i can do this, be so empowering, and be best choice for me /baby.
My husband is currently not supportive he is concerned with if something happens and cleanliness of doing it at home. Concerns that are totally understandable but i think more likely to get something in a hospital with number of people/patients around and we live so close to hospital i know my m/w would not hesitate if she thought me and baby were in danger. I know this is his child too and his birth experience but i wish he was more open minded and saying well i am very concerned but i would like to talk to m/w first before making a final decision.
I would respect his decision if he still in the end didn't want to do it at home. but then i would have a VERY VERY VERY DETAILED birth plan and would have to talk to mat ward staff about it and include it when i register so EVERYONE knows ahead of time.But as i know things dont go according to plan , but i hope staff would respect my decisions.
I hope this thread can stay as friendly as possible 
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Re: Hospital or Home...Natural or All 4 Drugs?
I'm planning another natural hospital birth.
I had a great natural birth experience with DS. I had an OB in a hospital. This time we're using midwives simply because we want to have someone more used to natural births (also one of the OBs in our old practice was NOT supportive of natural birth).
We live too far away from a hospital for me to be comfortable with a home birth, but I had wanted to use a birthing center. Unfortunately the hospital that the birthing center uses as a backup is not my preferred hospital so we decided to just go with the midwives who work out of our preferred hospital.
DH is very supportive.
We are having a natural, hospital birth.
Hospital because I feel more comfortable if something were to go wrong being there, rather than at home.Natural because I feel that I can, and it will be better for my child. I am open minded though, knowing that situations can come up where drugs are necessary and I don't judge what other people do. To each their own, same as during pregnancy.
Husband is support, but we will also have a doula present for extra support for both of us. Since it is our first, we feel that having an extra person that will be there for us only will be a huge benefit. Plus, he's happy to have some of the pressure off him, so that he can enjoy it as much as possible, instead of freaking out. Totally not for everyone though, Doulas aren't cheap, and I get how some people just wnat to be left alone.
I think everyone can stay friendly, no need for debates when sharing our plans. *fingers crossed haha.
I'm having a med-free birth at a hospital. I feel more comfortable being in a hospital in case of an emergency.
I do not intend to get an epidural but if I find the pain to be too much, then I will ask for one.
Why? I had a med free birth with DD and had the most wonderful, empowering, magical experience--better than I could've ever imagined and if possible, I want the same experience with this LO.
We are having a hospital birth. I will go med free if I can, but am open to an epidural if I need it. I am on the older side and feel much more comfortable having medical facilities on site, should it be needed. (My recently born nephew probably would have died if he had been born at home, so that is certainly fresh in my mind). The hospital we are going to has 24-hour midwife care, lots of pain management equipment available (soaking tubs, birthing balls, squatting bars) and the lowest c-section rate in the city, so I feel comfortable with my options there.
DH will be my support because there is no one I trust or rely on as much as him. He's my rock and my partner.
Hospital - I really didn't give other options much thought. I'm doing hypnobabies and am hoping it can get me through natural - but if I need drugs I need drugs and don't have a problem getting an epidural.
We have most of the folks in our class doing home births or birthing centers. H asked what happens if there is an emergency - I had no clue. So question - what does happen? Does a midwife deliver you at home and could they do a c-section there if it was absolutely necessary?
This. For myself, I am ridiculously pro-epidural. I don't care what other people do, though. DH says it is up to me, since he doesn't have to experience the pain. I think if I wanted a home birth, DH would definitely need some convincing.
I am not sure but i will find this out and deliver a correct answer .
I believe if an emergency comes about they will call the ambulance to transfer you to the hospita, i am also assuming will let maternity know you are coming !
I dont believe also they will deliver you at home or are trained to do a csection
M/W are i believe involved in Low Risk Births
Any reputable midwife will be well trained to recognize if things are going poorly and should be able to transfer you to a hospital in plenty of time, though obviously there are exceptions and sometimes things do go south quickly.
Midwives are not surgeons and are not able to do c-sections.
If all goes as planned I will have a med free natural delivery at a hospital with my OB delivering.
If I have to have meds, I have to have them. If we have to have a c-section we have to have one but I'm going to do my best to avoid both.
The one thing I will say about home birth (which I would love to have but isn't an option now) is that you and your partner should both be comfortable with it. If it were something I really wanted and my partner wasn't comfortable I would inundate him with information on the topic, just to ease his mind. Have you guys watched the Business of Being Born? That was really informative and definitely pro-home birth. You may want to check it out.
Thanks - I know in some states mid-level providers do surgeries (like PAs, NPs, a mid-wife is an NP with specialized training - no?) but now that I think about it they probably don't go solo but merely assist in surgery.
Hopefully med free at the hospital.
I seriously considered a home birth, we're less than 5 minutes from the hospital, and less than 500 meters away from the ambulance dispatch in my area. Ultimately I decided that I really didn't want to deal with all the stuff going on at my house during labour.
Our little hospital is also a very happy place for me. When I was little my dad was a psych nurse there and we used to visit him at work all the time. There are still a lot of nurses there that he used to work with and they all know me. When the psych ward closed most of the psych nurses became maternity nurses so it's very homey and friendly for me.
Yes!
Me too!!
Planning med-free water birth at a beautiful, free standing birth center with a licensed midwife- I'm so excited. I would not be comfortable at a hospital. To me it's a place for sick people and I have negative feelings about the unnecessary interventions that seem to happen in many low risk births there. I work in healthcare, so I also hear too many stories about hospital contracted illnesses or mistakes from lack of continuity of care.
I'm glad the hospital is there if an emergency happens, but feel very comfortable that my midwife can handle most situations without transferring and will be there with me the entire time to be able to assess early on if a transfer is necessary before it becomes dire.
I have considered home birth and sometimes still do, I'm not against it. I'm still choosing the birth center because I like the idea of a clean environment that I don't have to deal with preparing and being separated from visitors in the waiting area when I want to be. The birth center also has a huge solid tub and walk-in shower that I wouldn't have at home.
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I am going for a hospital birth in the hospital. I had such an amazing birth experience with DD2 (medicated hospital birth) and I hope to have that again. With DD1 I felt everything (even with an epi) and I really have no desire to go through all of that again.
I'm actually terrified of not making it to the hospital in time for an epi. I do not live close to the hospital and it's worse during rush hour.
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I'll be delivering in a hospital. Home births aren't allowed in my state.
I'm hoping for an unmedicated birth, and have hired a doula to assist. If needed, I'd be accepting of medication (by needed, I mean medically, not because of pain).
DH is very supportive! His mother had all six of her children naturally, and he doesn't think it's strange that I'd want to try for that experience.
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I am going to the hospital. There is no way that I will stay home and have the chance of something bad happening without immediate care next to me (and by that I mean doctors and all of the options that they have in the hospital and not at home).
My cousin's wife was delivering, all seemed fine, and then they noticed the baby's cord around its neck. She had to go in for an emergency c-section. If she were at home, God only knows what could have happened.
I want a wonderful experience, but more than anything, the safety of my baby is first.
Yes, please.
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