Anyone else terrified of having another LO?

CCCPitt · February 2011

DH and I are TTC #2. I am 70% excited and 30% terrified (some days it's the reverse). I am worried that it will be so difficult to have a toddler and an infant. My DS is rather 'high maintenance' and I worry how he will respond to a baby. Anyone else feel the same? Any words of wisdom from those with >1 LOs?

monkeyqueen · February 2011

I'm terrified to have another, but that may have more to do with the fact that I already have three kids and have no plans for future children:)

Words of wisdom: go with the flow:)

Doylesa · February 2011

I feel the exact same way on DS is really mellow. It's just the thought of having 2 that makes me nervous!

Princess_Lily · February 2011

I 100% understand.

Two factors in us TTC #2, and delaying the decision is I want to lose more weight (too vain?) I was chunky pre-preg and I dont want to be on the next go round.

Second factor is, DS is a spirited toddler...and we're not sure how much more stress it will be when we add another addition.

I still want one more though, so DS could have a sibiling.

nicinnewyork · February 2011

i totally get it. my DD is actually a dream and i am worried that #2 is going to be hell. i've always been one of those A-type/ control freak personalities, so having 1 has calmed me down a bit- and i am thinking the 2nd will have to do the same- i hope! my hubs has been ready for #2 for a while- but it is still significantly more investment for the mommies. (im a SAHM too.) i told him we are waiting until DD is 2 and more self sufficient (4 months away). i could probably start TTC now, but i am enjoying this time with DD now. i nursed DD for a year too, so i finally felt a sense of freedom in her 2nd year and im also not ready to let that go just yet either. so yes- excited and nervous. i think the advice from pp to "go with the flow" is the way to do it.

alli&pat · February 2011

I'm still terrified - but she's here now so I'm facing my fears Stick out tongue

I think the best part about being a 2nd time mom (even in my short # of days) is that a lot of the anxieties that I had when DS was a newborn are not there this time around - fearing that I wouldn't figure out how to calm him, how to BF, how to manage having a newborn, etc - I feel so much more at ease with those things and am finding that my emotions are not such a roller coaster. My fears are new, of course - worry that DS will have difficulty adjusting, worry that DD won't get enough undivided attention, etc.

But, I will say that feeling more at ease with DD has made for a fairly good transition so far. DS is certainly expressing some struggles and difficulty but so far, I'm really glad that we made the choice to have 2u2 and hope that they have a wonderful relationship!

groovygrl · February 2011

yes but it is b/c I have 2 and we do not plan to have any more...

SMA! · February 2011

Yep. I SAH, DH works 80+ hours a week and we are 1000's of miles away from family. I thought that I only wanted one for a long time, and I am just starting to think about our family with more kids. That being said I don't think I will be ready for another until DD is in preschool so another 2 years or so.

jess0104 · February 2011

I'm terrified of having another LO too. I work a lot of hours so I'm most worried about being able to give both children enough attention. I know if I got pregnant again we would make it work out but in the meantime we are going to wait awhile. I do really want to give him a sibling but I am in no rush.

DEBBIE33CASEY · February 2011

I'm terrified as well. We quit my hormonal BC in December and are planning to TTC starting in April. But the closer and closer it gets and I find myself getting cold feet. I'm not sure if my fear is justified or not....

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