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need advice- re: work and PPD

Bubsie1020Bubsie1020 member
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My doctor has diagnosed me with PPD (actually, Post Partum Anxiety).  I've been taking meds for about 10 days and am starting to feel better.  Because of the PPD, she is not letting me go back to work at 6 weeks as planned, but now will send me back at 8 weeks.  I'm going back only part time to start, and will return full time in May (this was always part of the plan).  My question is what to tell my boss.  She and I are actually friends (we were friends before we worked together).  She's very anti-medication and I'm a bit afraid to tell her that I'm going to be out 2 weeks longer than expected and the reason is PPD.  She's one of those people that tends to think whatever is wrong you just need to put on your big girl panties and deal.  How would you handle this situation.  On one hand, I'm tempted to lie and make up some other reason that doctor is keeping me out longer, but I want to believe that I can be truthful and she won't hold it against me. I have a meeting to discuss the details of my return this week and have no idea how to handle the discussion. Thoughts girls?? 
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Re: need advice- re: work and PPD

  • momrandamomranda
    I would just tell your boss that you cannot return to work due to medical reasons. At my employer they just require a letter stating you CAN return to work, and everything else is handled through HR. If you have FMLA you should be covered for job security.
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  • flhokieflhokie
    I would just say that the doctor was concerned about some complications at your checkup and is requiring you to stay out the additional time. She does not need to know the details. I believe (not certain) that by law she cannot ask for the details, just that the dr ordered you out longer (if you are on disability, etc, the doctor will have to put a reason on the paperwork that goes to the disability insurance company). 
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  • KelleyBelly11KelleyBelly11 member

    I say just be honest and truthful... I think they'll be more understanding if you are honest. 

     

    imageBubsie1020:
    My doctor has diagnosed me with PPD (actually, Post Partum Anxiety).  I've been taking meds for about 10 days and am starting to feel better.  

    Tell me more about this Postpartum Anxiety... I'm intrigued because I feel there is something wrong with me but it's not exactly PPD. 

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  • Bubsie1020Bubsie1020 member
    I had a real overwhelming sense of worry and unease.  I still have a bit, but the medication helped.  I would worry that the bottles I washed were still soapy or the DH was going to leave us because DD has colic (irrational, because in my head, I know he never would).  It was to the point that I couldn't nap on the rare instances when DD was asleep that I couldn't sleep because my mind would be racing.  I spoke to my doc and let her know that I felt like I was missing out on my baby's first moments because I couldn't stop my brain from being on over drive. It was like nothing I never experienced in my life.  I would just cry sometimes because I felt like I couldn't handle it.  If you're feeling anything similar definitely speak to your doctor.
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  • KelleyBelly11KelleyBelly11 member

    imageBubsie1020:
    I had a real overwhelming sense of worry and unease.  I still have a bit, but the medication helped.  I would worry that the bottles I washed were still soapy or the DH was going to leave us because DD has colic (irrational, because in my head, I know he never would).  It was to the point that I couldn't nap on the rare instances when DD was asleep that I couldn't sleep because my mind would be racing.  I spoke to my doc and let her know that I felt like I was missing out on my baby's first moments because I couldn't stop my brain from being on over drive. It was like nothing I never experienced in my life.  I would just cry sometimes because I felt like I couldn't handle it.  If you're feeling anything similar definitely speak to your doctor.

    Thank you lady! I will be talking to my doctor because I feel worried about silly things. I know they are silly but I can't help but feel worried. Plus I'm dead tired and can't fall asleep right away during night or naps because the mind won't shut off.  

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  • Bubsie1020Bubsie1020 member
    No problem.  Believe me, just vocalizing your concerns will make you feel better.  I was a crying mess in the doctor's office with the nurse handing me tissue after tissue (crying because I was scared, embarassed- a wealth of emotion).  I was hesitant about going on the medication (I've never taken anything before) but I also knew that me being this way was not good for me and especially my daughter, so I bit the bullet and so far, so good.  I wish you all the best.  I'll be around on this board if you wanna talk.
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