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Can he come home?
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We finally got our bfp 2 days ago(yipee!), but soon realized that our due date is within weeks of my husband getting home from ait. So obviously we are very new to military life. If the baby decides to come early, or things take a little longer is there any chance he could come home for a day or two? A coworker told be def not but her father was in the military before she was born, but somehow still thinks she knows everything about it. haha. He is in the army if that makes any difference, and will be doing ait in Texas, and we live in Wisconsin.
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Re: Can he come home?
Normally they do not have much freedom in their training schedule as they can only miss so much time before they get recycled in the course. He may be granted an emergency leave for the weekend, but it can get denied. Best case, he asks permission and sees what happens. He will have to let his command know early, but don't get your hopes up because there is no guarantee.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you!
My husband was in a school with few privileges and a very tight training schedule (which will be the case with AIT) when I had an early emergency delivery. He happened to have a very understanding CO who agreed to let him have 2 days off and then either recycle to the next class if he wanted to take some emergency leave, or rejoin his class and make up what he'd missed the following weekend. We opted for him to rejoin the class because he was 3 weeks from finishing and recycling would've set him back 6 weeks. However, I also delivered in the area where DH was stationed, so he was an hour from the hospital, not the time/distance of flying like in your case.
It sounds like you're just concerned for a worst case scenario, so hopefully you'll have a healthy full term pregnancy and the dates won't matter, but for planning purposes you could assume his command will either say no or will allow him emergency leave and he'll have to recycle (obviously the nature of the emergency would play into the decision, as well). Each class has a set limit of training hours you can miss (he can ask what it is in advance) and/or mandatory events; if the travel fell during a specific event he cannot miss, then the odds would be against him being sent home.
Ditto- depends on command. He better be on his best behavior, alert them early to the situation, and never act like he's entitled to anything. If he asks for any other favors or frequently reminds them, they are likely to say no because they think he is trying to get special treatment.
He will have some weekends off by that point, but depending on how well his class is doing behaviorally and academically, you can't depend on that. And he may not be able to leave the area even if they have pass.
I was in college when I did AIT (I was Nat. Guard, but the same AIT as everyone else) and had a mandatory return date in my file, since the Army was also paying for college. They had to have me on a plane by a certain date, so they just accelerated my last few days- they were just turn-in and graduation practice anyway. That's your best case scenario, and it can be done, but I wouldn't say it's likely.
It basically comes down to his command and what the training schedule is. There's certain MOS's where the schedule is tight and then there's MOS's where they have a more laid back schedule.
Plan for YH not being there. If he does manage to make it, horray. If not, your bases are covered.
When I lost our baby @ 18 weeks, DH was re-classing, which is somewhat similar to AIT. They told him that he could come home, but if he wasn't back by the following morning, he was going to have to repeat the training from the beginning. He couldn't miss that particular exercise and continue. I imagine they won't be as flexible bc this is YH's actual AIT.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!