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LO is 6months and we co-sleep. She naps on us from 8pm-11pm and then we go upstairs change in to PJ's nurse and crash.

I had complications from my emerg c-section so DH and I weren't allowed to have sex until around 12-14weeks, we did once and well it wasn't as bad as I thought but it was akward.

 Now my problem is I have very little desire, and can't find the time. I'm about ready to call a grandparent to take her so we can have an hour to ourselves...or even 15mins.

How is everyone else finding ways to still be husband and wife?

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  • StrawberryAlarmClockStrawberryAlarmClock member
    We wait until DS is deeeeep asleep and sneak downstairs. The first time we felt like bad kids which made it fun. Now, I'm kinda over the couch, the buzz of the baby monitor, kicking the remote,.... Wish I had better advice for you. I guess it's Mother Nature's Family Planning. LOL
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  • SteelCityBrideSteelCityBride member

    imageStrawberryAlarmClock:
    We wait until DS is deeeeep asleep and sneak downstairs. The first time we felt like bad kids which made it fun. Now, I'm kinda over the couch, the buzz of the baby monitor, kicking the remote,.... Wish I had better advice for you. I guess it's Mother Nature's Family Planning. LOL

    Yeah, I think this is my philosophy too.  I'm too exhausted to put forth the extra effort most days. I know that many people say that's how marriages fall apart because people get lazy, but DH & I talk about it & are both fine with it. It won't last forever, but right now our energies are more focused elsewhere.

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  • nekoraynenekorayne member

    Sex has been very exciting since we had LO! Well maybe not at first, but once I recovered (I to had an emergency C-section) and we got comfortable again. I don't know why, but it has added so much excitement.

    When we coslept we would wait tell LO was in deep sleep and sneak away like PP. Sometimes for naps we would wear him tell asleep and then lay him in his bed so we could have time in our own bed.

    We would also (and still do) simply kiss at red lights in the car, holds hands while we were at the grocery store, cuddle on the couch as a family. The sweet contact is just as important as sex.

    We also do date nights every 2 weeks where DS stays at MIL for an hour and two. We get to talk and just have fun. It is a bit to far to justify coming home for sexy time, but just that time to talk and hold hands is great for our marriage. 

    TMI WARNING: We have been creative on our dates once or twice. One very stressful week we ended up jumping each other in the back of our van like teenagers. It was really exciting and I suggest everyone do it once, LOL. Not something we do often, but sometimes we just need that time. Sometimes we make out at the park and just enjoy the intimacy that simply kissing gives.

    My mom comes off the road every 2 weeks and she has a place down the street from us. So when she watches him we get an afternoon home alone once a month!  I never leave him overnight yet, but an hour or 2 is so great! 

    Now that DS sleeps most the night in his bed it has gotten much easier.  We especially enjoy nap time. But always keep your since of humor, if baby interrupts by waking up it comes in handy to be able to laugh and keep it light instead of getting frustrated. 

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  • flippy1234flippy1234
    This is a sore subject at my house... we haven't had sex since our 6.5 month old was born. Part of it is lack of sleep and desire, but part of it is DH refusing to use condoms, and me refusing to take a chance on getting pregnant lol. I have an appt. in a couple weeks to go on the mini pill.. 
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  • SinafeySinafey member

    imageStrawberryAlarmClock:
    We wait until DS is deeeeep asleep and sneak downstairs. The first time we felt like bad kids which made it fun. Now, I'm kinda over the couch, the buzz of the baby monitor, kicking the remote,.... Wish I had better advice for you. I guess it's Mother Nature's Family Planning. LOL

    Exactly this.  I'm pretty excited for us to get into our house so that we can reclaim the bed again.  Finding other places to do it might be new and interesting for a bit, but we've both been over it for a while now.

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  • SteelCityBrideSteelCityBride member
    imagenekorayne:

    We would also (and still do) simply kiss at red lights in the car, holds hands while we were at the grocery store, cuddle on the couch as a family. The sweet contact is just as important as sex.

    We also do date nights every 2 weeks where DS stays at MIL for an hour and two. We get to talk and just have fun. It is a bit to far to justify coming home for sexy time, but just that time to talk and hold hands is great for our marriage. 

    I think nekorayne makes a very important point here. As long as there is still affection in your marriage, it's OK if the sex is less than regular for a little bit. As long as that's mutually agreeable to both partners.

    But for those of you who find the energy & desire to have sex just as much now, more power to you! And I'm envious! :)

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  • 3003girl3003girl member

    what is this "sex" thing you speak of? 

    I just got on the mini-pill so things are picking up, but it's hard to find time and/or desire - or more to the point, a time when I'm not exhausted.

     

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    imageflippy1234:
    This is a sore subject at my house... we haven't had sex since our 6.5 month old was born. Part of it is lack of sleep and desire, but part of it is DH refusing to use condoms, and me refusing to take a chance on getting pregnant lol. I have an appt. in a couple weeks to go on the mini pill.. 

    I could have written this exactly...except the mini pill part.  I'm terrified what BC will do to my milk supply.  Also the lack of sleep and desire is killing me. 

    I want to want it.... but I just don't.  I thought I was the only one with a 6 month old who hasn't done it.  We tried once and the pain was horrific!  I went back to doc who said I had a build up a scar tissue and I had to have the spot lanced.  I need a little desire again before I'm willing to try again.  My poor DH is very romantic though and tries very hard.  We also do the holding hands, snuggle time as a family, etc.  We also talk about it, I think the communication part is as important at the physical.

    I should add that Coop (when he isn't sick) sleeps in his own room, so co-sleeping isn't really an excuse for us. 

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  • LyssapeeLyssapee member
    The few times we waited for her to sleep and snuck out of the room.  it's sad that our DD is almost a year and we are yet to go through a 10 pack of condoms.
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