S/O updating during labor

jlsimon56 · February 2011

For those who won't be glued to FB while pushing....how and when will you update your friends and family? How often? What will you say and what won't you say?

I don't really want a ton of visitors waiting in the waiting room for baby to arrive....so we were thinking we'd wait until baby was here before calling anyone. But what about our parents and our siblings? Should they wait in the waiting room if they wanted to? That's 16 people! To me, that's a ton! I don't know where or how to draw the line. DH is no help, he wants to shout from the rooftops so he wants EVERYONE there. We haven't really discussed it lately b/c we disagree on it all.

You?

sammyb1017 · February 2011

Maybe have just your parents waiting in the waiting room and open it to sibs later?

Thankfully we have a small family so they are welcome in the waiting area and if all comes who I think will it will only be 6 people.

We will tell friends after the delivery.

egpitt22 · February 2011

We'll do the same thing we did the last time: called our parents & my BFF once we were admitted to the hospital. Both sets of parents came to the hospital (mine only live 40 minutes away, but DH's parents are 5 hours away) once we called. So my parents & IL's were in & out of the room while I was in labor, but everyone left once I started to push, then came back in to meet Jake a little while after he was born.

Our siblings were both in school at the time & didn't come until that weekend, once we were home.

Other than that, we called a few close friends after he was born with the news. I wasn't on facebook at the time, so I didn't have to worry about updating there

ShandaB · February 2011

I was just going to update my BFF via text and she can spread the word with other close friends. DH was going to make calls to family when I go into labor and when I have the baby.

CarlaAndJames · February 2011

With family we'll probably keep them updated, but there are only 4 that live in town. We certainly won't encourage them to come sit in the waiting room all day, but I'm not going to tell them not to. It's their choice whether they want to sit and be bored or just come up when we tell them the baby is here.

We'll let friends know after delivery.

Nickiechan · February 2011

My DH, Doula and Midwife will know when I am in labor. I am not planning on telling people until LO is here. I don't want to be bugged about "Is he here yet... " etc. I think I'll be less stressed out this way. Once LO is here then we will let family members know and then most likely do a FB status update soon after that. (Most of all my family and his family is on there.)

Edit: Also the hospital is pretty local to all family members so once LO is here they don't have to drive far to get to see us.

MommaA117 · February 2011

Most likely my Dad and MIL will be in the waiting room. Maybe FIL.

As far as updating, I have most of my Family back home in Florida so will most likely post updates on FB. I'll post when we are on the way to the hospital, we have a while to go, shes almost here and shes here. Stuff like that. I know these messages will be relayed to my Grandparents and Godmother by cousins and aunts so we won't be bombarded with calls...or should I say my Mom wont.

IdigDirt · February 2011

My parents will be 7 hours away so after I go to the hospital and it is confirmed that I will be having a baby that day one way or another DH will text them and maybe his parents who are about 1 hour away.

After delivery I will probably text close friends and then maybe the next day do a FB update. My dad and step mom won't be coming until early July so I will probably text him when I text my mom since I know there isn't any chance of him waiting around in the waiting room.

MammaBear81 · February 2011

We had A LOT of people in the delivery room (mom, MIL, kids, DH, sister and BIL). We called everyone when we went into labor to let them know and to call my cell phone if they wanted updates otherwise we would call them after the baby was born. It was nice to talk to people during labor, it kept my mind off of those fabulous contractions! Since people had different schedules they would call at different times. I have to say that my labors were only about 4-6 hours long and up until the last hour I was able to chat with people comfortably (if I was having a particularly bad contraction DH would answer the phone). I know this isn't typical though.. having babies is a family affair for us

DowagerCountessofNJ · February 2011

I think we'll wait until baby is here before we tell anyone. My mom and I waited for my sister while she was in labor. It was pointless but if they hadn't told me she was in labor I would have finished out my work day and come over to the hospital after she delivered.

waterfall11 · February 2011

We will tell our parents and siblings when I go into labor and (if they are able) they will come to town. We live 2 hrs from most of them, 5 hrs from my sister. DH will probably keep them posted on progress, but I told him absolutely no posting on FB until baby is born. The play by plays drive me crazy.

bestmaid6 · February 2011

I have no plans to update facebook during labor. I've had friend/their husbands post things like "epidurals are wonderful" or "it's almost time for splashdown." That was a little too much for me. I'll let the hubs post something AFTER the little guy is here, but I think we'll stay away from facespace for a while.

As far as notifying family, once I'm for sure in labor I need to call my parents so they can get on the road. They live seven hours away and come hell or high water, my mother will want to be here ASAP. My sister and the in-laws live in town, so I'll probably just give them a heads up that labor is a go, but to keep doing their normal routine. Once we go to the hospital I'm sure MIL and my sister will want to be there. Other family members (aunts, uncles, cousins) will find out via text, though I only plan on telling one of my cousins when I'm in the labor. The rest will probably find out after he's born.

Telly21182 · February 2011

We'll let our parents know when we go in and have them tell everyone the baby is on the way but not to come until he's here. Both of our brothers live OOT so they won't come in until they can arrange it but SIL is in town and will have a newborn herself so I don't imagine anyone other than parents being in the waiting room.

We'll also let some friends know he's on his way as well but we wouldn't expect anyone in the waiting room since you never know how long things will take!

mlasecki10 · February 2011

jlsimon56:

For those who won't be glued to FB while pushing....how and when will you update your friends and family? How often? What will you say and what won't you say?

I don't really want a ton of visitors waiting in the waiting room for baby to arrive....so we were thinking we'd wait until baby was here before calling anyone. But what about our parents and our siblings? Should they wait in the waiting room if they wanted to? That's 16 people! To me, that's a ton! I don't know where or how to draw the line. DH is no help, he wants to shout from the rooftops so he wants EVERYONE there. We haven't really discussed it lately b/c we disagree on it all.

You?

I am in the same boat you are..on my side alone will have 16 people and then my Husbands side is like 10 more people.. we have decided that my parents are going to be incharge of delagating between my family on who is coming and going at what time so we dont have 50 millon people at the hospital. what is good is both my mom and dad will be in the delivery room with my DH and me so they will be there the whole time to make sure that we arent overwhelmed. As for my DH's side they are more the call before they come type so my Husband will just tell them if its a good time or not most likely they will wait to come until after the baby get here. As for going about telling people i said to my husband, my parents and him are the only important people i need to notify (my Dh's parents passed away a couple years ago.) So of course my husband can notify his family since there really is no one else to do it and my mom will notify my family. I told my mom there will be one call on that morning (or night) and that is to my mom anyone else she can call. I already told my family that they can come and visit they have to call and check with my mom first (of course during the labor process).. My cell phone will NOT be near me in labor. My family knows who is allowed in the actual pushing part and that NO ONE is allowed to try a sneak in. I only want DH, my mom and my dad in anyone else will be kicked out.

Its not my job to make sure that everyone is notified or to delegate when people can come, my main job is to squeeze the watermelon out of my vajayjay.

Ambeerose · February 2011

I will be letting my parents and DH parents know right away that we are in labor since they both live 5hrs away, and my mom and MIL will be in the delivery room. All of our family lives 5hrs away so those will be the only family there at the hospital. I have friends and church family that will visit after he is born, pretty stress free...except MIL's comments, better stay to a minimum! lol

LIa0909 · February 2011

The doctor will be deciding when this baby comes and due to the surgical procedure, I believe my husband will be the only one in the room. We will notify our parents thats its "the day". As of right now, I would really like to not have a ton of people sitting around the waiting room all day wondering particularly if the little one is early and will just be going to NICU anyway. But that could change. I could wake up that morning really wanting my mommy.

KPiekarski · February 2011

My sister, Mom and DH came to the hospital. We thought since it was our first that we'd be there for awhile so my Husband's Dad and Gram came to visit and were going to get lunch and then my Aunt and cousin (who work at the hospital) stopped up to say hey at the same time and it turned out that our little girl was all ready to come out so everyone left the room except for my Mom and DH. After a few pushes DD came out and when she was cleaned up everyone came in to meet her. Then my dad came and my Gram and my Aunt. It was no big deal; however, that night everyone and their mother came to the hospital and it was a bit overwhelming. I was up at 4:00 and though I napped during labor, I was still really tired and wanted left alone. So, I'm not sure what will happen this time around.

bcspagirl · February 2011

my dh,my momand dad will know when im in labor my mom and dh will be in the room my dad will most likely be watching my kids oh and cant forget my bff she will know..........dh's family is NOT allowed to know until i say so which may very well be a week after baby is born ( I ABSOLUTELY WITH OUT A DOUBT HATE AND CANT STAND THEM, this dh knows and agrees with my reasons for feeling this way towards them) and dh will be allowed to update through my fb only whenever he pleases.we will skype my brother (he is 13 and will be in australia on a student embassadorship program) after baby is born!

for those of you wondering why i may wait a week w/ my inlaws it is because when i was in labor with my second son mil wanted to make fun of me b&m about everything and make everything about her and then when it came time to push only my mom and dh were allowed in the room well she through a huge tantrum tried to fight my mom bc she got to stay and then after baby was born she wouldnt let anyone see my son except her and fil and then my bil and his kids came while i was in the bath after and i find my 4 yo neice holding my brand new baby by herself!?!?! my inlaws should be commited to a nut house literally and dh has even said so himself so they are not allowed until i say!

my inlaws dont even know when my due date is and they never will all they know is june.and to be i b itch we will not be telling them the gender either simply because i know it'll piss them off which i deserve to do after everything i have put up with

mil even told me when she found out i was pg that SHE WOULD BE IN THE ROOM NOT MY MOTHER ....hahaha B ITCH better think again

sorry this turned into a rant

EMLYNNLERETTE · February 2011

We are not having anyone at all there. My husband is worried about him botherig me! lol. We have two plans for now since our life is so up in the air at the moment... Plan 1-Texas: We call when I go into labor. This gives my in laws time to book, get on the plane, arrive and wah lah baby is here. My parents aren't welcome until about 1 1/2 weeks later. They are way too abrasive and have no boundaries! Plan 2-Wisconsin: We go into labor and call his parents to tell them we are in labor. They are considerate enough to leave it at that and stay at home until we tell them we are home and they can visit. My parents will be notified when the baby is born so they can make the 6 hour drive. Hehehe my meticulous plan!

Sazhrah · February 2011

The only people that will know I went into the hospital is one my BFF so she can watch DD and the dogs for me and 2 my boss since I wont be into work. I think DH will want to tell people I am admitted to the hospital cause he is excited but I will not allow anyone to come visit. I am sure DH will text his BFF and my BFF to let them know my progress and luckily DH is not internet savvy so no way that it will be posted on FB. I don't want him telling his family what is going on so they don't drop by unwelcomed which I know they will do.

sunset+skies · February 2011

Once I'm admitted to the hospital, we'll be calling our parents first. Mine live 3000 miles away, so they won't be here, but my IL's are about 40 minutes away, so if they want to come to the waiting room, they can. Only DH will be in the room, though.

Everyone else will be texted as we have time, but we've already made it abundantly clear that, even if they show up at the hospital, we're not welcoming visitors immediately after the birth, aside from my IL's.

LoveOfMikesLife · February 2011

As soon as we are sure we will call my mom and DH's parents! All live about 3 hours away. My sister will probably come with my mom. Other than that my mo And sister will keep family updated, but I don't want anything on Facebook until after the baby is born

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