Naming second son after daddy??

maureen456ann · February 2011

My husband and I named our first son Hunter Michael because my husband loved that name. Now we're having another boy and he said "why not name him Thomas after me". We are thinking of using a differant middle name so he wouldn't be a JR. Thinking Thomas John. I just don't want my son Hunter to have his feelings hurt because he wasn't named after his daddy.

Can you name your second boy after his father? IDK.

BrideBuddies · February 2011

Of course you can.

However, if your first son has his "own" name, why not do the same for your second child?

I'm just not a fan of naming a child after the father. It just seems a bit arrogant to me.

krissyh21 · February 2011

My friend is a second born named after his dad. The only issue he has with it is that everyone assumes he is the oldest brother because of it. Why not use Thomas as a middle name?

maureen456ann · February 2011

Using Thomas as a middle name has crossed our minds. We love Dylan Thomas too, I was just wondering if anyone has name their second child after their father and how it affected the first child.

1medicwife · February 2011

I would definitely go with Thomas as the MN.

ETA: saw your 2nd post ... my H has been through this with his brother, but it doesn't affect him b/c they are 14 years a part and with a different mom.

Although, H is now adament about making our future son MN after FIL .... joys! Huh?

krissyh21 · February 2011

maureen456ann:
Using Thomas as a middle name has crossed our minds. We love Dylan Thomas too, I was just wondering if anyone has name their second child after their father and how it affected the first child.

With my friends family, it really had no affect. Actually the oldest son is closer to his father then the younger son. If you are open and honest to the child as to why you chose naming one over the other, there is not going to be bitterness about it.

ckmommy · February 2011

My family situation is a little bit different but could be something that happens. My Dad and his first wife had three children. Two boys and a girl. He was really insecure in his marriage and to this day swears his first son isn't actually his; so he didn't want him to have his first name for his mn (a tradition on his side of the family). The second son has my dad's name as his mn and it actually has caused quite a bit of animosity between my two oldest brothers.

alliejo725 · February 2011

No big deal.

And I don't think your first son will have his feelings hurt. There are plenty of reasons to enjoy having your own name, and not having to share it. He'll be fine.

krissyh21 · February 2011

ckmommy:
My family situation is a little bit different but could be something that happens. My Dad and his first wife had three children. Two boys and a girl. He was really insecure in his marriage and to this day swears his first son isn't actually his; so he didn't want him to have his first name for his mn (a tradition on his side of the family). The second son has my dad's name as his mn and it actually has caused quite a bit of animosity between my two oldest brothers.

I think the whole situation probably causes the animosity between brothers, not just the name thing.

Sunshine is mine · February 2011

My DH is the second born son and he named after his dad....Neither he or his brother care about who was named after their dad. IMO I'm not into naming a child after their father (luckily DH isn't either) because there are SOOOOO many names to pick from! why have two people named Thomas in the same household! It gets confusing! I do like the idea of using Thomas as a MN though.

but for the record, DH's older brother has a better relationship with their dad

ckmommy · February 2011

krissyh21:

ckmommy:
My family situation is a little bit different but could be something that happens. My Dad and his first wife had three children. Two boys and a girl. He was really insecure in his marriage and to this day swears his first son isn't actually his; so he didn't want him to have his first name for his mn (a tradition on his side of the family). The second son has my dad's name as his mn and it actually has caused quite a bit of animosity between my two oldest brothers.

I think the whole situation probably causes the animosity between brothers, not just the name thing.

Could be. All I know, is whenever a new baby's name is being discussed around the family, the whole brother A didn't get dad's name but brother B did, is a landmine. I hate being there when it explodes.

kjr · February 2011

We gave our second son DH's name as his middle name. His family tradition called for our older son to have that middle name, but his initials would have been A.S.S.

You can definitely give him the first name, but people might think he is older. The middle name is also a nice option!

Littledeer84 · February 2011

I think it probably will depend on the family dynamic. I do have cousins where there were 6 kids total (4 boys and 2 girls). The second son was named after his dad. I dont think it caused any problems there - the second son was the best man at the oldest son's wedding!

amwadas · February 2011

Sure you can. My aunt and uncle did it with their boys. Their first set of boys were twins so maybe that is why they waited for the 3rd boy to come along, but I think it is fine.

hisaak · February 2011

If we have another son, his middle name will be in honour of his dad (not quite the same, but same root). With DS, we made a point of not using it as my DH is from a long line of males being named after their fathers (to the point that DH has three names) ...

At the time we were just completely against it. Now, we both like the idea. I hope there would be no animosity because of it!

queenbone · February 2011

The only family I know that did this is DH's g-pa's family. His grandpa was the 1st of 13 kids, the 5th son was named Francis after the father. Not sure if there was every an issue with that. I think names are the least of your worries with 13 kids. Wink

PhilsWife07 · February 2011

I would not do this. I wouldn't want to give my first son a complex.

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