BFN

pennynjon · February 2011

I am pretty sure this cylce isn't the one. I got a BFN today. I am only 12 dpo, but I used a frer. Last time I got a positive on an internet cheapie at 10 dpo. I just hope AF shows up soon. I am going to be out of town for a work conference three days in March. And if AF doesn't come soon it will be when I O:( The thought that next cycle won't work out either crushes me, because that means I won't have a take home baby in 2011 either.

KristysRedBarn · February 2011

I'm sorry. I hope AF shows soon and the next cycle works for you.

suntoto · February 2011

Try focusing on the positive rather than the negative and the what if's . If you continue down this road of "oh no 2011 baby" it drains you mentally and can eventually cause rifts in your marriage and other relationships.

csquared426 · February 2011

I'm sorry!

pennynjon · February 2011

suntoto:
Try focusing on the positive rather than the negative and the what if's . If you continue down this road of "oh no 2011 baby" it drains you mentally and can eventually cause rifts in your marriage and other relationships.

Pot calling the kettle black

suntoto · February 2011

pennynjon:
suntoto:
Try focusing on the positive rather than the negative and the what if's . If you continue down this road of "oh no 2011 baby" it drains you mentally and can eventually cause rifts in your marriage and other relationships.
Pot calling the kettle black

LOL not hardly, considering the fact that I have actively been TTC for more than +6 months. I have been doing it for YEARS! ETA: see when I originally had issues with you it was b/c you have not actively been TTC for more than 6+ mo. There is a mentality that you do not have yet, b/c you have not been trying that long. If you had it you would not have posted a whiny bfn post on a board where many of us have already been there done that. It wasn't b/c you have been through hell. It's just something you would have already known.

pennynjon · February 2011

suntoto:
pennynjon:
suntoto:
Try focusing on the positive rather than the negative and the what if's . If you continue down this road of "oh no 2011 baby" it drains you mentally and can eventually cause rifts in your marriage and other relationships.
Pot calling the kettle black
LOL not hardly, considering the fact that I have actively been TTC for more than +6 months. I have been doing it for YEARS!

Hate to break it to you, but you don't come off as an optimistic person. You have made it very clear that you don't think I don't belong here and that you don't like me. But I don't care.

EntropicEpona · February 2011

Sorry about the BFN, penny. They never get any easier.

That said, it's a special kind of hell when you've been trying for years and years and face the same BFN cycle after cycle after cycle. I'm not trying to start an "us" vs. "them" argument, but try not to get too discouraged. Although it doesn't feel like it, in the big scheme of things you haven't been trying that long. (and I'm not trying to mitigate any of the pain you feel, either)

I hope you don't ever have to experience the devastation of years of infertility, but try to cut those of us who do just a *little* bit of slack, OK?

suntoto · February 2011

pennynjon:
suntoto:
pennynjon:
suntoto:
Try focusing on the positive rather than the negative and the what if's . If you continue down this road of "oh no 2011 baby" it drains you mentally and can eventually cause rifts in your marriage and other relationships.
Pot calling the kettle black
LOL not hardly, considering the fact that I have actively been TTC for more than +6 months. I have been doing it for YEARS!
Hate to break it to you, but you don't come off as an optimistic person. You have made it very clear that you don't think I don't belong here and that you don't like me. But I don't care.

Sigh. It is not that at all. It is the fact that you have not been actively ttc for +6 mo so you don't " get" the mentality at all and are ignorantly insensitive to it. It's the exact same reason why I did not welcome you to the board with open arms- b/c you just don't get how your post stings.

pennynjon · February 2011

EntropicEpona:
Sorry about the BFN, penny. They never get any easier.

That said, it's a special kind of hell when you've been trying for years and years and face the same BFN cycle after cycle after cycle. I'm not trying to start an "us" vs. "them" argument, but try not to get too discouraged. Although it doesn't feel like it, in the big scheme of things you haven't been trying that long. (and I'm not trying to mitigate any of the pain you feel, either)

I hope you don't ever have to experience the devastation of years of infertility, but try to cut those of us who do just a *little* bit of slack, OK?

I can't imagine what trying for ten years would be like. I am so sorry that you have been trying that long. I just don't understand how I am not cutting any slack? I never meant to minimalize what anyone has been through. And I don't understand how my post could have been taken that way. People get on here everyday and post about what is going on witj their cycle. The board is titled ttcal greater than 6 months. I lost my daughter almost a year ago. Why is it that suntoto jumps on me everytime I say anything?

mdm2137 · February 2011

I'm sorry

suntoto · February 2011

pennynjon:
EntropicEpona:
Sorry about the BFN, penny. They never get any easier.

That said, it's a special kind of hell when you've been trying for years and years and face the same BFN cycle after cycle after cycle. I'm not trying to start an "us" vs. "them" argument, but try not to get too discouraged. Although it doesn't feel like it, in the big scheme of things you haven't been trying that long. (and I'm not trying to mitigate any of the pain you feel, either)

I hope you don't ever have to experience the devastation of years of infertility, but try to cut those of us who do just a *little* bit of slack, OK?

I can't imagine what trying for ten years would be like. I am so sorry that you have been trying that long. I just don't understand how I am not cutting any slack? I never meant to minimalize what anyone has been through. And I don't understand how my post could have been taken that way. People get on here everyday and post about what is going on witj their cycle. The board is titled ttcal greater than 6 months. I lost my daughter almost a year ago. Why is it that suntoto jumps on me everytime I say anything?

I only say something when you are being ignorantly insensitive, which is what a " oh poor me no 2011" baby post is doing to a group of women who may never get a baby, have been ttc and been through the woo is me attitude so many times already. Yeah you don't know that b/c you are lucky enough to not have been here yet. TTC +6 is not a cool club. No one wants to be at this for that long. When you have been actively ttc for this long you will understand how insensitive this is. In the meantime be grateful for what you have and don't worry if you don't get a 2011 baby.

KristysRedBarn · February 2011

suntoto:
pennynjon:
suntoto:
Try focusing on the positive rather than the negative and the what if's . If you continue down this road of "oh no 2011 baby" it drains you mentally and can eventually cause rifts in your marriage and other relationships.
Pot calling the kettle black
LOL not hardly, considering the fact that I have actively been TTC for more than +6 months. I have been doing it for YEARS! ETA: see when I originally had issues with you it was b/c you have not actively been TTC for more than 6+ mo. There is a mentality that you do not have yet, b/c you have not been trying that long. If you had it you would not have posted a whiny bfn post on a board where many of us have already been there done that. It wasn't b/c you have been through hell. It's just something you would have already known.

FFS. Play nice Suntoto. A loss is a loss. The only time you post on here these days is to criticize someone else, not even to offer support.

suntoto · February 2011

KristysRedBarn:
suntoto:
pennynjon:
suntoto:
Try focusing on the positive rather than the negative and the what if's . If you continue down this road of "oh no 2011 baby" it drains you mentally and can eventually cause rifts in your marriage and other relationships.
Pot calling the kettle black
LOL not hardly, considering the fact that I have actively been TTC for more than +6 months. I have been doing it for YEARS! ETA: see when I originally had issues with you it was b/c you have not actively been TTC for more than 6+ mo. There is a mentality that you do not have yet, b/c you have not been trying that long. If you had it you would not have posted a whiny bfn post on a board where many of us have already been there done that. It wasn't b/c you have been through hell. It's just something you would have already known.
FFS. Play nice Suntoto. A loss is a loss. The only time you post on here these days is to criticize someone else, not even to offer support.

Oh Kristi, I love you but that isn't true at all. And fwiw, yes a loss is a loss and that is what regular flavor is for, +6 is different. I am not on much, but today I am in a hospital waiting room, so I have some time on my hands. :-). I am not trying to minimize the pain she has been through, but there is a difference when it comes to mentality that is missing. All I am looking for is awareness.