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EC/PLers - Help please

webMistress0609webMistress0609 member
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We've been fairly lax about EC for a few months now b/c Ari has been in a power struggle on & off over it. If he's heading toward a pause, we've basically backed off totally. He actually was staying dry for really long periods & asking to go a lot a few months back, then went through another pause.

Well, now he doesn't want to go on the potty, but doesn't want to go in his diaper either. If he has to pee, instead of asking to go, he starts throwing temper tantrums & gets really fussy. I didn't connect the 2 until a week or so into it. But if I say "let's try going potty", he freaks. Tonight, after bath, he announced he had to go poop & marched over to his potty. I let him sit on the potty for 45 minutes, & no go. We read books, I left him for  a bit (I've noticed he often won't go with an audience), nothing, & he asks for his dipe. I figured he would just go in the diaper, no biggie. Then he can't go to sleep b/c he has to poop, so finally an hour later, he asks to potty again, does his biz, & is asleep in 10 mins. We've had more trouble over poop than pee - it's almost like he just can't go, but he's not constipated.

Obviously we don't want a complex about going potty, but if he's asking to go, then I don't want an hour or 2 long ordeal about it. I've tried giving him plenty of control (choosing which potty, undressing himself) as I've found if "Ari do it" that means less struggle, but still. We've had this problem on & off for awhile now.

I'm thinking some serious nakey time is in order. Any other tips? 

 

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Re: EC/PLers - Help please

  • EmmieBEmmieB member

    Baz went through that stage so we bought seat reducer and sat him on the big potty with comic books. He now "tries" every time he sits down. Sometimes we have a catch and sometimes we don't.

    All pauses pass. Good luck!

     

    ps - Nakey time is always a bonus!

     

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  • DreamsBride411DreamsBride411 member
    My babe is quite a bit younger, but I find when she starts in with a potty pause changing the location of her potty helpa tremendously. I move it into the livingroom, give her a toy and that usually helps. Also, if you're using a rim, try facing it the other way so he's sitting back toward you - that helped my LO a few times too. Good luck!!
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  • Jelliebean1982Jelliebean1982
    Try rephrasing it. It seems like this is an area that HE wants control over. Instead of asking if he needs to go potty or suggesting that it's time, say, "Let me know when you need to go potty." This puts control over his bathroom habits in his hands while allowing you to suggest it when you notice his cues. We went through that exact same tantrum over the potty phase. It sucked! The way I phrased it made a huge difference. I hope it works for you too.
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  • webMistress0609webMistress0609 member

    imageJelliebean1982:
    Try rephrasing it. It seems like this is an area that HE wants control over. Instead of asking if he needs to go potty or suggesting that it's time, say, "Let me know when you need to go potty." This puts control over his bathroom habits in his hands while allowing you to suggest it when you notice his cues. We went through that exact same tantrum over the potty phase. It sucked! The way I phrased it made a huge difference. I hope it works for you too.

    I like this idea. I think the more control he has the better. I would just say screw it, we'll stick with diapers for now, but he's not happy with that either. 

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