Babies: 9 - 12 Months

Opinions wanted

So over the weekend, I threw a baby shower for a friend.  She is due 4 days after my son's birthday.  Charlie was 9 days late, and I joked that if her baby was anything like Charlie, she'd actually have an April baby.  I never thought that one comment could create such an uproar.  There were quite a few preggos there, as well as mommies with young babies.  They all went off, saying how you should never wait that long, that I should have been induced, that they "would be induced on the due date."  I had waited it out when I was pregnant because I thought that was what was best for the baby.  I had a 41 week ultrasound, and there was plenty of amniotic fluid and everything looked fine.  Charlie was a healthy 8 lb 4 oz, and my labor and delivery was incredibly great.  I never would change a thing about it.

 

What are the opinions out there?  Severe medical issues aside, would you choose to be induced or wait it out?  I figured a few more days of peace and quiet trumped a difficult delivery (which is what I had heard about inductions but could also be a myth).  I just felt like every person thought I was crazy....

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  • The women at that shower are idiots. 
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  • imagekategw:
    The women at that shower are idiots. 

    This. I completely agree with you. DH and I were actually prepared to go past 41w (gasp) as long as everything looked ok. We didn't get the chance though, due to pre-e and HELLP (I was induced at 40w5d)

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  • I can only speak from my experience. I chose to have a 100% natural birth and luckily everything went smoothly. I was completely prepared to go past my due date (however Sky came at 39 weeks.)

  • If I didn't have GD (like you said, medical aside) I would have waited it out.  Since I did have GD and likely will with the rest of my pregnancies, I will likely be induced.  Luckily, my body decided he was ready to come because my water broke 10 days before my due date and a week before they scheduled my induction!  In my case they were worried about weight. 

    You can tell me if I am wrong, but I thought studies show that inductions lead to more C-Sections?  I really wanted to avoid a C-Section if possible.

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  • I would wait it out.
  • imagekategw:
    The women at that shower are idiots. 
    That pretty much sums it up. I was going to have an induction on my due date because I had GD and I was praying to go into labor on my own. Induction is something I wouldn't wish on anyone!
  • I Wouldn't have induced. As long as everything is going ok, let the baby stay in there. If the doc isn't worried, then it is alright.
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  • imagekategw:
    The women at that shower are idiots. 

    THIS! Those woman are complete assshats; it is completely normal for first time moms to go a week past their due date, if not longer. You did absolutely nothing wrong; your comment was half joking anyway, and they all need to get their hormones in check, lol!

  • Liam came at 38 weeks 5 days so  I can't really relate but I would have waited up to a week to a week and a half after my due date before being induced.  I would have been a bit apprehensive waiting longer than that just because then you have to start thinking about the possibility of the placenta beginning to break down which can be harmful.  But, I'm pretty much for letting 'em bake for as long as possible!  Those women are just silly.  It's not dangerous to go a few days over your due date.  It's not like it's an expiration date, haha.   


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  • If I new the baby wasnt going to be huge I would have waited it out.  But due to the fact that I didnt want to take a chance and deliver a possible 9-10lb baby I chose to be induced.  My dr. gave me the choice.  He told me I was measuring a little large so it was up to me.  I'm glad I did the induction DD was 8lbs 4oz.  That was large enough for me.  Inductions are a very touchy subject with so people.  Some believe in them other think how could you do that to your baby.  I believe every PG is different and so is evey person and every delivery.
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  • I've only gone into labor on my own once. I have a risk of stillbirth so they always induce me before my due date. If I did not have that risk I would wait it out.
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  • I would definitely wait it out.
    Effing crazy people.
  • I was induced at 40 weeks (as a result of GD) and it sucked. My OB said if I didn't have GD she would have let me wait another 5-7 days, which I think I needed. My body wasn't anywhere ready and labor took forever. I would have waited if I had the chance!

    I think that it's so much easier and faster if your body goes into labor naturally. To be induced just for the sake of reaching 40 weeks is stupid. If your OB isn't worried and everything looks good, why force labor? Those women at your shower overreacted big time.

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  • Yah, I agee with you completely. Sorry you felt attacked.

    I was induced (long story - went into labor and was regularly contracting but not strong contractions). My doctor didn't want to send me home because they were worried about DD being too big for me.

    She ended up only being 6 lbs but my doctor was watching my pelvis area and was worried it was not accomidating the baby well (my last few visits). Thank God he didn't send me home because they did end up having to use the vaccuum after I pushed for nearly two hours. My doctor said my pelvis just didn't relax and widen like it normally does in women.

    I feel like some situations warrant being induced, but if it is not medically necessary... I totally don't agree with it being out of convenience. No way.

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  • Thanks for the affirmations!  I just felt so wrong (and ganged up on), but I am glad you guys agree with me!

     

    Oh, and just FYI, I did have an induction scheduled on Sunday night, but labor started late Friday/ early Saturday on its own (thankfully!)  I was dreading Sunday!

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  • I don't think people realize that 40w0d is not the magic number.  That is why it's an estimate due date.  I was induced with Kendall the day after my due date because she was a giant baby (10 lbs).  I totally understand wanting to be done and have the baby by end, but after going through an induction I always tell people to try to be patient.  If your body isn't ready, it's not ready.

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  • Even if I had pleaded with my OB, she doesn't induce before 42 weeks unless it is medically necessary.  I went at 40 weeks, so it didn't affect me, but she said she's had many women crying in her office, but she just doesn't feel it's the right thing to do.
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  • My mother was 12 days late with each of her 4 children.

    And we are all healthy, and just fine :)

  • I think that your doctor should be the one to make the call.  LOTS of women go over their due dates with no tragic restults.  I actually went a full week over and my doctor was prepared to let me go 2 weeks over.  Unless you're charting your cycle 100%, due dates are all an aproximate anyway.  I trust my doc. Unless he tells me that my baby is overcooking, I say leave it in until they start wiggling to get themselves out!  
  • Personally I wouldn't want to induce without medical reason before 41 weeks, and I know my doctors don't allow patients to go past 42 weeks because of the risks involved, but I understand that some women and even doctors feel strongly about not going past the due date. I have a girlfriend who was induced on her due date with both of her kids based on her doctor's recommendation.

    That said, I opted for an induction when I was 10 days overdue with DD1, and I was scheduled for a second induction with DD2 but ended up going into labor on my own at 41 weeks exactly, two days before I would have been induced. Both of my due dates were about as accurate as possible, based on ovulation and confirmed by ultrasound, yet both times they just came and went.

    Like you joked with your friend, my March baby ended up an April baby!

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  • Most of the time a due date is just an estimate anyway, so going past the due date could just mean that the baby needs more time to develop. Why rush it? I just don't see why everyone is so set on being induced and thinking that going overdue is such a harmful thing. If mama and baby are remaining healthy and stable, what is wrong with that? Don't let what those ladies said bother you.

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  • imagekategw:
    The women at that shower are idiots. 

    Agreed. I refused to be induced until my BP skyrocketed and I knew I had to do what was safest for my LO.

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  • My water broke, and nearly 24 hours later, there was absolutely no progress. I waited it out as long as I could before having to be, technically, induced.

    It was hell, and I'd never want to be induced on my due date just for the sake of not giving the baby their own time frame. I was uncomfortable at 9 months pregnant, sure. But there was absolutely no medical reason (prior to the water breaking and nothing happening) to have him out.

    I think the ladies at the shower are surging with hormones.

  • I also want to add that unless you've gone overdue, you really don't know it feels. You have this end date in your head, and to see it come and go, even though you know it's only an estimate, can be incredibly disheartening. My first pregnancy, I was fine up until I hit 41 weeks, but to hear I had no progress then was such a letdown for me. The second time, I really thought I wouldn't go overdue again, so when I passed 40 weeks and realized there was a chance I'd still be pregnant or in the hospital on Easter a week later (and I was), it hit me hard.

    I think it's easy to say you'd never induce if you haven't been through that.

     

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    I also want to add that unless you've gone overdue, you really don't know it feels. You have this end date in your head, and to see it come and go, even though you know it's only an estimate, can be incredibly disheartening. My first pregnancy, I was fine up until I hit 41 weeks, but to hear I had no progress then was such a letdown for me. The second time, I really thought I wouldn't go overdue again, so when I passed 40 weeks and realized there was a chance I'd still be pregnant or in the hospital on Easter (and I was), it hit me hard.

    I think it's easy to say you'd never induce if you haven't been through that.

     

    I was overdue and I wouldn't induce unless medically necessary. 

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  • Like a lot of other posters, I had GD, and was very strict about my diet and doing wonderfully and fully prepared to go up to 2 weeks past my due date to get the natural birth I really wanted. 

    Instead, I had to be induced due to the fact that I had almost no fluid, and it was a horrible experience and I would never ever suggest someone elect to be induced earlier than 2 weeks late. Due dates can be off, and you are pretty heavily monitored at that point anyway. 

     

    ETA - I was induced the day before my due date and wound up in an emergency C-section with DD being born hours before her due date, so I know what its like to be pregnant 40 weeks and feel like it will never end. 

  • kategw, I understand that not everyone who has gone overdue takes it as hard as I did, but I still stand by my statement that it's easy to say you'd never induce if you've never been overdue.

    Just curious, how far overdue were you? And how long would you and/or your doctor have waited if you hadn't gone on your own?

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  • I went 13 days over. DD is healthy and fine. My OB said they will let you go up to 2 weeks over after that they will induce you.

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    kategw, I understand that not everyone who has gone overdue takes it as hard as I did, but I still stand by my statement that it's easy to say you'd never induce if you've never been overdue.

    Just curious, how far overdue were you? And how long would you and/or your doctor have waited if you hadn't gone on your own?

    Don't get me wrong, it sucks at the end, we all know that.  I went into labor a week after my due date.  Barring any medical reasons, my doctor won't induce until 10 days after the due date.  They considered inducing me earlier than that because they thought she was "too big for me" and estimated her at upwards of  9 lbs.  She wasn't.  She was 7lb 5oz and I had an easy L&D.  I was prepared to wait up to 2 weeks past my due date so long as me and baby were healthy. 

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  • I was induced because I had GD. I had a very difficult labor and narrowly escaped a c-section. I guess I'll never know, but something tells me that my labor would have gone more smoothly if I had had her naturally.
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  • I think its one of those "I'm pregnant, I've read books, I know everything" mentalities that hit hard on the 3rd tri board. There were so many happenings that people have so easily changed their mind about when the time actually changed. So many of them said "I would never use pain medication" and in their birth stories say "It was much harder than I thought it was" It doesn't make either choice right or wrong, but they just have their mind set on something because that's what they want right now. We've all been there.

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  • I was 9 days overdue, went into labor and avoided induction.

    I would wait as long as 2 weeks this time, since I am doing a home birth and that is what my MW allows.

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  • My doctor wouldn't induce until after 42 weeks.  Or I think they would schedule the induction  after the 41 week appt. and wouldn't go past 42 weeks.  

    They would, however, strip membranes if you wanted, etc.  

    The women at that shower were loony!!! 

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