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Question re: first week or two home w/LO?

ambicklionambicklion member
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I posted this over on Nursery/Baby Gear but have only received one response which of course was "don't sleep w/baby in bed bc of SIDS". Well I can't imagine the first week or two we will actually be getting much sleep which is why I would like to have the LO a little closer therefore below is my post, any suggestions are appreciated minus telling me not to do it since I'm not asking for an opinion...I guess she didn't get the question.  Not trying to sound tacky just trying to be honest with what I'm asking here.  Thanks!!

I am wanting to have the baby in with us (our bed) for the first week or two after coming home but don't want to buy a whole other crib.  I have looked at the Snuggle Me Cushion (I like not having a mesh wall in-between us) and have seen the Summer Infant Sleeper as well but not sure if there is something else out there?  I would also like it to be something I can possibly put in the crib if possible for a weeks as well since the crib will be sooooo big compared to baby?  Any suggestions are appreciated!

 

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Re: Question re: first week or two home w/LO?

  • kwinters87kwinters87 member

    It's perfectly safe to bedshare without the use of any device if you feel comfortable doing so.  Just be sure to read up on the "rules" of bedsharing before hand.  :)

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  • Allie30Allie30 member

    My sleeping arrangements were not conducive to bedsharing (pillow top mattress, lots of pillows, duvet, dog, etc.) so we used a Fisher Price Rock n'play and I can't recommend them highly enough. They're very inexpensive compared to the Arm's Reach co-sleeper, etc. They are small, they push up right next to the side of the bed so she was never far from me, they can easily be moved all over the house. She slept in hers every night and naps for the first two months and then we just moved it into the nursery. Once she got used to sleeping in the nursery, we put her in the crib. It worked great. She still uses it for naps.

    The other nice thing about it is if you travel you can just fold it up and take it with you so she has something familiar with her. In fact, I recently went to visit my mom and even though she had a pack n play my baby wouldn't sleep in it. we wound up buying another FP Rock n' Play  and as soon as I put her in it she felt right to sleep.

     

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  • Birdies08Birdies08 member
    I have no real life experience, but my understanding has been that extra sleep accessories are not needed and possibly dangerous. Depending on how your bed is set up, you may want a guard rail to prevent LO from rolling out of bed. Here's a good Dr. Sears article about safety concerns with bed sharing: https://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/t070600.asp
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  • pepomntpatpepomntpat member
    imagekwinters87:

    It's perfectly safe to bedshare without the use of any device if you feel comfortable doing so.  Just be sure to read up on the "rules" of bedsharing before hand.  :)

    This. We don't have any gadgets in the bed.

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  • happyhooplahappyhoopla member
    We didn't have any extra gadgets in bed with us. Just make sure that blankets are pulled way down (around your waist at the highest point) and there aren't pillows near LO. My method of sleeping was to lay on my side facing LO with my bottom arm out in a "C" shape, wrapped around her, putting her head right under my armpit. I felt comfortable knowing that she couldn't go anywhere and I wouldn't roll, plus I could feel as soon as she started to wake up. Also being cuddled like this made her nice and secure, so she was sleeping very well right from the start (6+ hours at 2 weeks).
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  • BFab11BFab11 member
    imagekwinters87:

    It's perfectly safe to bedshare without the use of any device if you feel comfortable doing so.  Just be sure to read up on the "rules" of bedsharing before hand.  :)

    This. I used a pillow from the beginning, but had LO's face at boob level, and my arm between him and the pillow so he was never near it. I use blankets, but they stay at LO's waist or lower. In the very beginning he was sick and spit up a lot, so I had him use my arm as a pillow to keep him reclined a bit. If you are aware, safe, and comfortable doing it, you can bed-share without a co sleeper.
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  • ananas19ananas19
    We use a bed rail on my side of the bed, and LO sleeps between me and the rail. It is a great arrangement for us, but I suggest trying whatever arrangement you think works best for your family, and tweaking as necessary (for example, DH likes his blanket pulled pretty much over his face while sleeping, so putting LO in the middle didn't work well for us for safety reasons.)
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  • ambicklionambicklion member
    Thank you all for your insight.  Much appreciated.
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  • babyonemoretimebabyonemoretime

    imagehappyhoopla:
    We didn't have any extra gadgets in bed with us. Just make sure that blankets are pulled way down (around your waist at the highest point) and there aren't pillows near LO. My method of sleeping was to lay on my side facing LO with my bottom arm out in a "C" shape, wrapped around her, putting her head right under my armpit. I felt comfortable knowing that she couldn't go anywhere and I wouldn't roll, plus I could feel as soon as she started to wake up. Also being cuddled like this made her nice and secure, so she was sleeping very well right from the start (6+ hours at 2 weeks).

     

    This exactly. Then when he was older and I quit BF, we put him in the bassinet style pack and play next to the bed and slowly moved him out and into the nursery. Now he's 8 months and in his crib, sleeps all night, and loves to be worn! :)  

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