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intimacy issues?

J+L2006J+L2006 member
in Babies: 6 - 9 Months

So I know most everyone is in the "pfff, what sex" club these days, but I'm starting to get worried.

I know that I haven't been in the mood- but what's concerning me is that DH hasn't either.  Once I started having AF again, I think my hormones have given me the green light to "do it" again- but DH won't initiate.

In the past two months (since I've been interested again) it's happened 3 times.  All on a Saturday afternoon during DS' nap, and each time it's been over and done with absolutely no romance.

If I try to initiate, I get, "not tonight, I'm tired" or even "I have a headache"- I thought those were supposed to be MY excuses- not his?!?  I've even tried the pretty lingerie trick- and was still turned down.

DH is realllllyy shut out about this sort of thing (as in he won't talk about it to anyone- even me), so I'm afraid to say anything.  But I can't help but start to worry about things....

 

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Re: intimacy issues?

  • ricejlricejl member
    I'm in the same boat as you. I haven't tried all the tricks you have but it has become a joke between my DH and I. We say the next time we get it on will be to get pregnant for the next kid. This may not be that much help to you but I wanted to let you know you're not the only couple not getting it on. I hope things get better for you.
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  • Tippy05Tippy05 member

    Us too.  Between his two jobs and going back to school and me feeling fat and flabby and tired all the time, it's just not there anymore, so you're not alone!

    I know you said he doesn't like to talk about it, but if it's bothering you that much I think maybe you should.  At least tell him how you're feeling and maybe he'll open up.  Good luck!

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  • angelame1979angelame1979
    Ditto-We have not DTD since before DD was born!  To tired, no time and just not interested.  I am trying but well, you know.  Oh-we did try once and I got frustrated about something and it stopped.
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  • kayteatrudeaukayteatrudeau

    DH and I have been getting back into the mood but had many discussions about why we were both not in the mood.

    I didn't want to for a long time because of exhaustion and he felt rejected so he stopped asking.

    I recommend not bringing it up for a bit and then jump him. If men feel nagged it's a huge turn off for them.

    Could it be he has issues of his own getting turned on? Totally normal. Men have a hard time with that one too.

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