Will I ever be worry free again?

Haribo1 · February 2011

After getting my BFP, it seems all that I do now is worry. Will the baby be ok? Do I have "enough" symptoms? Am I doing the right things? Will I be a good mom? I remember the last time DH and I felt carefree which was a few weeks before my BFF, and I wonder if that stress free feeling will ever come back again. Or does being a mom mean you will never be free of worry again?

LovieBear · February 2011

Thats exactly how I feel.

Temp878586125009588 · February 2011

I can definitely relate to that worry feeling!! That's how I feel, I also thinks that's why my sleeping hasn't been the greatest either. But I've been trying hard to not worry and just be so grateful and thankful that I am pregnant. And DH does a pretty good job of trying to help me relax when he is home. Take a nice bath, read a non-pregnancy related book every once in a while, take a few deep breaths outside. Sometimes those things help me. I hope one day, I'll be worry free, but I just don't know!

KateCollins11 · February 2011

Daysie:
I can definitely relate to that worry feeling!! That's how I feel, I also thinks that's why my sleeping hasn't been the greatest either. But I've been trying hard to not worry and just be so grateful and thankful that I am pregnant. And DH does a pretty good job of trying to help me relax when he is home. Take a nice bath, read a non-pregnancy related book every once in a while, take a few deep breaths outside. Sometimes those things help me. I hope one day, I'll be worry free, but I just don't know!

Great advice. I went for a long walk with my dogs today it it just made me feel like a new person. Reading a non-pregrancy related book followed by a nice bath sounds like a fantastic idea. I think I'm going to do that tonight.

mizrunzou · February 2011

I am a nervous wreck. To add to the fact that we had a loss in october, I have also been spotting for about 3 weeks off/on. There are days I have to try VERY hard to pull myself out of the funk and tell myself that right then and there I AM PREGNANT. I also have to remind myself that there is nothing *I* can do if something is going to go wrong. DH just a pretty good job of comforting me when I finally open up to him - but part of me doesn't want to worry him.

I'd like to think we just all need to make it to the 2nd tri and all of our worries will go away!

julieb1218 · February 2011

I feel the same way. I think its probably bc of my loss so I just am expecting something to go wrong since something did last time. I am just praying every day for peace that my baby is ok. You are definitely not alone in your worry though.

carrie3303 · February 2011

I know how you feel. It's worse that I haven't seen the Dr yet, and I don't know what to expect this time around. I don't know what additional tests will be ordered and all.

Lambie. · February 2011

No. But whether it consumes you is up to you.

mizrunzou · February 2011

Lambie.:
No. But whether it consumes you is up to you.

This is true, but much easier said than done.

Lambie. · February 2011

mizrunzou:
Lambie.:
No. But whether it consumes you is up to you.

This is true, but much easier said than done.

I guess it depends. At some point I had to start having faith that no matter what happens, things will turn out ok and surrender to the experience.

Haribo1 · February 2011

PappsMcgee:
Lambie.:
mizrunzou:
Lambie.:
No. But whether it consumes you is up to you.
This is true, but much easier said than done.
I guess it depends. At some point I had to start having faith that no matter what happens, things will turn out ok and surrender to the experience.
I agree with this....I feel that if I just go through this pregnancy being worried, I will look back and be disappointed. While I know I won't completely stop worrying, I am trying to live in the moment and just know that as of this moment, I am pregnant

I really hope I can do this. It makes complete sense when I read it, but I need to learn how to apply it in my daily life. I agree that I don't want to look back and be disappointed that I did not enjoy this special time in my life. I just wish I knew how to do it! I like what pp said about doing non-pregnancy related tasks like reading other books or mild exercise.

cfitz16 · February 2011

My sense so far is no.....

mabst196 · February 2011

No, and it doesn't end after the baby is born either. There is always new things to worry about. Once a parent, always a worrier.

FmrAFBrat · February 2011

julieb1218:
I feel the same way. I think its probably bc of my loss so I just am expecting something to go wrong since something did last time. I am just praying every day for peace that my baby is ok. You are definitely not alone in your worry though.

This....the worry is always there esp once something has gone wrong.

MomToTGH · February 2011

To answer your question, nope. I thought I would worry much less when after I gave birth to my son, because I would be able to "see" him and know he was ok, as opposed to being in my uterus. Big Smile

Ummmm, yeah... not so much. Parenthood is wonderful but the worry of being a parent and wondering if your child is ok never goes away. However, it's the best "worry" you will ever have, guaranteed.

SpinningJess · February 2011

Basically, no. You will never be worry free again. You get past the first trimester and are relieved but still worry throughout the pregnancy. Worry that labor and delivery will go ok, that baby breathes ok, etc. Then you worry about dressing baby right for the current weather, worry about strapping them into the carseat for the first trip home properly, worry that they don't stop breathing in the middle of the night. Worry that they are getting enough milk. Then they start moving....and you worry about them crawling onto something and falling off. Or falling down the stairs. Etc, etc, etc.....my son is 15 months old and I can see that as long as I'm alive I'll never stop worrying about my baby! But the worry is all woven into beautiful, precious moments of joy and love, and it makes it ALL worth it! True, pure love....to be a mother Smile

PinkLadyRN1 · February 2011

My worry comes and goes. I just blame it on hormones..haha!

soon2Bmrs.AGEE · February 2011

SpinningJess:
Basically, no. You will never be worry free again. You get past the first trimester and are relieved but still worry throughout the pregnancy. Worry that labor and delivery will go ok, that baby breathes ok, etc. Then you worry about dressing baby right for the current weather, worry about strapping them into the carseat for the first trip home properly, worry that they don't stop breathing in the middle of the night. Worry that they are getting enough milk. Then they start moving....and you worry about them crawling onto something and falling off. Or falling down the stairs. Etc, etc, etc.....my son is 15 months old and I can see that as long as I'm alive I'll never stop worrying about my baby! But the worry is all woven into beautiful, precious moments of joy and love, and it makes it ALL worth it! True, pure love....to be a mother

This!! Every word of it!

soon2Bmrs.AGEE · February 2011

SpinningJess:
Basically, no. You will never be worry free again. You get past the first trimester and are relieved but still worry throughout the pregnancy. Worry that labor and delivery will go ok, that baby breathes ok, etc. Then you worry about dressing baby right for the current weather, worry about strapping them into the carseat for the first trip home properly, worry that they don't stop breathing in the middle of the night. Worry that they are getting enough milk. Then they start moving....and you worry about them crawling onto something and falling off. Or falling down the stairs. Etc, etc, etc.....my son is 15 months old and I can see that as long as I'm alive I'll never stop worrying about my baby! But the worry is all woven into beautiful, precious moments of joy and love, and it makes it ALL worth it! True, pure love....to be a mother

This!! Every word of it!

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