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Weaning Blues....*sigh*

VirginnyVirginny
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We made it to a year. I'm so happy. I'd be even happier to continue nursing if we were to get pregnant; I'm even up for tandem nursing. However, I've still yet to get PPAF. I've cut down nursing from 3x a day when he was 12 months to 1x a day (for naps). Ben has been night weaned for about 2-3 weeks, although I do give in every once in awhile. And still no PPAF. We've been TTC for about 8 months now and I reeally would like our kids to be close in age.

The dilemma is that DS has always nursed for naps; it seems to be the only thing that calms him down. I've rocked him, I've bounced with him, I've strolled him, none of these seem to work. We have the same routine as bedtime, but he just seems to "need" to nurse to relax him...I can't blame him; it must be so comforting. Today, we let him try to soothe himself for a nap....it took him almost 1h 30mins before he finally just crashed. I felt so bad....it was practically his lunchtime when he finally fell asleep.

Part of me feels incredibly guilty to wean him, but the other part really wants my fertility to return so our little guy can have a sibling soon. Apparently, just seem to be one of those women whose cycles don't return if they are nursing even just a little bit. :( It's been weighing on me, but the decision to wean rules out in the end.

Anyone been through the weaning process and experienced the blues or a feeling of loss? Thanks.

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Re: Weaning Blues....*sigh*

  • sacey21sacey21

    I don't have any experience with this yet, but I have a feeling that I will be in the same boat as you in a few months. I'm already sad just thinking about weaning, but so far no PPAF and we also want our LO's close in age. 

    I understand why you have the blues :) 

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  • AzaleaMAzaleaM

    I know it's frustrating, but it may very well be right around the corner.  I was certain that my cycles would never return while nursing.  I didn't wean and ovulated first just after DD turned 12 months.  I knew I was ovulating at the time and kinda chickened out, avoiding that month.  My next cycle I got pg.  I think that's perfectly normal.  I don't know for sure if it was the key or not, but I took Vitex for several weeks before that first ovulation.  I was able to nurse DC #1 halfway through my pregnancy.

    That said, regardless of when you are weaning, it can be tough.  I don't have much to offer, but hugs to you.  My first time I think it was easier, knowing that another was on the way (plus hormonal changes made me DONE!).  I'm still nursing my almost-2 year old and I'm not sure when we will wind down.  He'll likely be my last and it's hard :(

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