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• LCB34 member

  February 2011

  You specifically said in a UO or FFFC a few weeks back that you think you have earned the right to be smug and judges people who didn't "try as hard as you did" to BF.

  That sounds like you feel superior to those of us who didn't try at all (gasp!) or who didn't try hard enough in your eyes.

  You can't really dig yourself out of the hole you dug with the statements you made.

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• monkiem

  February 2011

  LCB34:

  You specifically said in a UO or FFFC a few weeks back that you think you have earned the right to be smug and judges people who didn't "try as hard as you did" to BF.

  That sounds like you feel superior to those of us who didn't try at all (gasp!) or who didn't try hard enough in your eyes.

  You can't really dig yourself out of the hole you dug with the statements you made.

  No, when I read it back to myself, I realized I worded it wrong.  

  I am smug about it.   Yes...I admit that. Because I fought for what I wanted.  I knew if I gave up, I'd feel even worse.  Maybe that's just me.  I don't give up on things I believe in.  

  And LCB, I know you didn't even try.  I honestly don't care, and have never judged.  It's a matter of personal preference.  You either want to, or you don't.  If you don't want to, hey, it's your life, your child, and your boobs.

   

  

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• wife1014 member

  February 2011

  LCB34:

  You specifically said in a UO or FFFC a few weeks back that you think you have earned the right to be smug and judges people who didn't "try as hard as you did" to BF.

  That sounds like you feel superior to those of us who didn't try at all (gasp!) or who didn't try hard enough in your eyes.

  You can't really dig yourself out of the hole you dug with the statements you made.

  There are very few things I agree with LCB on, but I have to here. You tried backpeddling that day as well.  What you said was unfair.  As I said that day, no one can say that someone tried or didn't try hard enough! 

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• monkiem

  February 2011

  wife1014:

  LCB34:

  You specifically said in a UO or FFFC a few weeks back that you think you have earned the right to be smug and judges people who didn't "try as hard as you did" to BF.

  That sounds like you feel superior to those of us who didn't try at all (gasp!) or who didn't try hard enough in your eyes.

  You can't really dig yourself out of the hole you dug with the statements you made.

  There are very few things I agree with LCB on, but I have to here. You tried backpeddling that day as well.  What you said was unfair.  As I said that day, no one can say that someone tried or didn't try hard enough! 

  Point taken.

  I'm still smug for myself though!  I'm damn proud of myself.  
  

   

  

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• J+MS member

  February 2011

  LCB34:

  You specifically said in a UO or FFFC a few weeks back that you think you have earned the right to be smug and judges people who didn't "try as hard as you did" to BF.

  That sounds like you feel superior to those of us who didn't try at all (gasp!) or who didn't try hard enough in your eyes.

  You can't really dig yourself out of the hole you dug with the statements you made.

  Um, this.

  "Seriously, mommy forum people are some crazy ass bitches." New Year New You

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• wife1014 member

  February 2011

  monkiem:

  wife1014:

  LCB34:

  You specifically said in a UO or FFFC a few weeks back that you think you have earned the right to be smug and judges people who didn't "try as hard as you did" to BF.

  That sounds like you feel superior to those of us who didn't try at all (gasp!) or who didn't try hard enough in your eyes.

  You can't really dig yourself out of the hole you dug with the statements you made.

  There are very few things I agree with LCB on, but I have to here. You tried backpeddling that day as well.  What you said was unfair.  As I said that day, no one can say that someone tried or didn't try hard enough! 

  Point taken.

  I'm still smug for myself though!  I'm damn proud of myself.  
  

   

  And you should be proud!  But in no way should you make someone feel bad because you don't think they tried hard enough and that is what you were doing.

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• max1563

  February 2011

  monkiem:

  I'm not normally a fan of call-outs (unless it's the one for Tsurrel...she's always been an idiot - I agree with Wife).  But I feel the need to answer back at you for your accusation of me in that damn UO thread.

  I don't think I'm better than the next person because I BF.  I know I don't BF 100% of the time, and formula is NOT the devil.  I like the convenience of BFing. But...I have struggled to get to the point I'm at.  In the thread I spoke of this, I said I judged women who tried to BF, but did not continue because of whatever reason - but continued to feel guilty about it.  My point was "if you want something bad enough, you will do it, no matter what".  I wanted this so bad, that I fought for it.  Had I stopped, I would have felt guiltier than ever, and I would have ended up judging myself for not trying hard enough...the constant 'what if'.

  To reiterate, I don't think I'm better because I BF.  I just wanted it badly enough.  Had I not gotten past a certain amount after a certain point, I certainly would have given up.  But I'm glad I didn't give up with the stupid lactation consultant from my hospital simply told me "you're probably just stuck with a low supply" without even meeting with me.  Giving up at that point, would have been made me feel worse. 

  And I'm not one of those BF zealots, who say breast is best.  To me, it was a matter of convenience.  
  

  That is not true for everyone that tries to BF, by any means.  That attitude should not apply when it comes to BFing, and I am an EBFer.
  

  
  
  

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• monkiem

  February 2011

  max1563:

  monkiem:

  I'm not normally a fan of call-outs (unless it's the one for Tsurrel...she's always been an idiot - I agree with Wife).  But I feel the need to answer back at you for your accusation of me in that damn UO thread.

  I don't think I'm better than the next person because I BF.  I know I don't BF 100% of the time, and formula is NOT the devil.  I like the convenience of BFing. But...I have struggled to get to the point I'm at.  In the thread I spoke of this, I said I judged women who tried to BF, but did not continue because of whatever reason - but continued to feel guilty about it.  My point was "if you want something bad enough, you will do it, no matter what".  I wanted this so bad, that I fought for it.  Had I stopped, I would have felt guiltier than ever, and I would have ended up judging myself for not trying hard enough...the constant 'what if'.

  To reiterate, I don't think I'm better because I BF.  I just wanted it badly enough.  Had I not gotten past a certain amount after a certain point, I certainly would have given up.  But I'm glad I didn't give up with the stupid lactation consultant from my hospital simply told me "you're probably just stuck with a low supply" without even meeting with me.  Giving up at that point, would have been made me feel worse. 

  And I'm not one of those BF zealots, who say breast is best.  To me, it was a matter of convenience.  
  

  That is not true for everyone that tries to BF, by any means.  That attitude should not apply when it comes to BFing, and I am an EBFer.
  

  And you were one of those people who helped me get through those dark days of having a non-nursing baby, and pumping a whopping total of 2 ounces a day.  All I said, was I wanted it bad enough, so I fought tooth and nail.
  

  

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• max1563

  February 2011

  monkiem:

  max1563:

  monkiem:

  I'm not normally a fan of call-outs (unless it's the one for Tsurrel...she's always been an idiot - I agree with Wife).  But I feel the need to answer back at you for your accusation of me in that damn UO thread.

  I don't think I'm better than the next person because I BF.  I know I don't BF 100% of the time, and formula is NOT the devil.  I like the convenience of BFing. But...I have struggled to get to the point I'm at.  In the thread I spoke of this, I said I judged women who tried to BF, but did not continue because of whatever reason - but continued to feel guilty about it.  My point was "if you want something bad enough, you will do it, no matter what".  I wanted this so bad, that I fought for it.  Had I stopped, I would have felt guiltier than ever, and I would have ended up judging myself for not trying hard enough...the constant 'what if'.

  To reiterate, I don't think I'm better because I BF.  I just wanted it badly enough.  Had I not gotten past a certain amount after a certain point, I certainly would have given up.  But I'm glad I didn't give up with the stupid lactation consultant from my hospital simply told me "you're probably just stuck with a low supply" without even meeting with me.  Giving up at that point, would have been made me feel worse. 

  And I'm not one of those BF zealots, who say breast is best.  To me, it was a matter of convenience.  
  

  That is not true for everyone that tries to BF, by any means.  That attitude should not apply when it comes to BFing, and I am an EBFer.
  

  And you were one of those people who helped me get through those dark days of having a non-nursing baby, and pumping a whopping total of 2 ounces a day.  All I said, was I wanted it bad enough, so I fought tooth and nail.
  

  I'm glad it was successful, but you should know better than anyone that not every woman CAN BF no matter how hard they try. Sad, but true.
  

  
  
  

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