Contemplating turning to Team Green

DarrenAndMelissa · February 2011

After talking with some friends who stayed Team Green until their baby's birth day, I'm contemplating on switching myself. Each woman said it was so cool to find out if their baby was a boy or girl at the birth, and it was exciting for the nurses and medical team too because it's a surprise for them too. For those who are on Team Green, what made you ultimately decide to wait until the birth day to find out?

Sara*n*Ryan · February 2011

All the things you mentioned. I just can't imagine a bigger moment in life.

Karma01 · February 2011

There aren't many surprises left anymore we really wanted this. Plus my husband said if we found out he didn't want anyone to know and I can't keep a secret.

MrsCase1 · February 2011

i've wanted to be team green since before getting pregnant. i think it is one of the few GOOD surprises we can have in life. i think it would make an already magical moment, spectacular. that said, i have never gotten so much grief over anything in my life. everybody feels they are at liberty to tell me how absurd of a decision it is. we're talking random strangers on the street as well as people i know intimately. i think it would be easier if my husband were not so sad about not knowing. i took an Intelligender to appease him, to no avail. if you can tand the unsolicited opinions, i'd say go for it!!!

homediva · February 2011

I am so excited to stay on Team Green! I love wondering and dreaming about if it will be a boy or a girl. I agree with the other ladies, plus...

I kind of think of it like looking forward to be a big Christmas present. If you have no idea what it is, it's SOOOOO exciting on Christmas morning. If someone slips and tells you what you're getting, it's still amazing to receive it, but you don't have that same surprised feeling! I have heard women say that looking forward to finding out was one of the things that helped them get through a long pregnancy! I know that finding out the sex doesn't make the arrival of your little one any less magical, but for us this is the right choice!

I also think it's an amazing moment for the daddy - for that brief moment in time, HE'S the one who gets to announce if it's a boy or girl. There aren't very many "daddy moments" in pregnancy and I think this one is special!

I was thinking it would be fun to have weekly team green check-ins!

c'mon over to the green side!

SethandMelissa · February 2011

I'm on team green because I think it's a fun thing to talk about. I like all the little wives' tales nad guessing of family members. Plus, I want gender neutral stuff at the shower for future kids. It's really tough with twins though, I might switch teams.

Meehanbride · February 2011

I am sure it is exciting to find out at an anatomy scan but I sorta love the suspense of waiting and being able to call everyone and tell them, We had a ......! We were Team Green with our DD and loved getting all the feedback from everyone and then wondering myself. 95% of people thought we were having a boy and they pretty much had be thinking boy too only to have the wonderful surprise at birth of a baby girl. It was just so much fun that we will be Team Green again.

I love the idea of a Team Green weekly check in! Join us!

andersjc · February 2011

I was not team green until 1-2 weeks ago when I finally decided it was the best decision. 1. I love neutral colors. 2. It's an amazing surprise 3. It stops the inlaws from buying way too much stuff 3. I love the guessing from everyone else even though I hate really talking about the actual pregnancy 4. MH was Team Green from the get-go so it works out well. Now I am really excited about the delivery and I let go of all my silly tendencies to plan too much.

dakota01 · February 2011

I have done it both ways. My first we were team green and my second we were blue. I really like not knowing better. Either way it was a surprise it just felt anti climatic when I found out but still had to wait to meet him. I did not bond any differently. And, shower wise I got so much more that I needed that I know does not usually happen at showers when the ppl know the gender. This time I'm on the fence, DH wants to know for practical reasons he says, I could wait.

kelkel2933 · February 2011

I'm so glad that we are not finding out! My SIL is acting as a gestational carrier and she also will not find out. We want the excitement of calling our families. Also, we've had such a hard time having a baby, what's another 6 months! Join Team Green!!

DarrenAndMelissa · February 2011

My hubby has wanted to be "Team Green" since we found out we were pregnant. I'm not very good at waiting so I didn't think I wanted to go that way. We are now switching to Team Green and very excited - hubby couldn't be happier! Thanks for your input ladies - and LOVE the idea of a weekly check-in, especially leading up to our 20-week ultrasounds. I heard once you leave the ultrasound room after NOT finding it, it gets much easier to wait.

SethandMelissa · February 2011

I just realized how similar our usernames are

rguinn75 · February 2011

In my mind there are just too few surprises in life and this is one of them... One of the OB's in my office has 4 kids and he told me they were team green for all 4... he said you don't know how hard it was to stay away from that part of the u/s... but it was sooooo worth it in the end... That is a very special moment.

jaredandjenny · February 2011

Most people have been telling us that it's the best feeling to wait until the baby is born to find out. My brother was the first. I haven't had any body say that they think we're nuts because we're not finding out. I get a little nervous sometimes because my doctor keeps referring to baby as "he" but she doesn't know yet either what it will be. Next appointment I need to make sure that she doesn't spill the beans.

I just have a feeling it's a boy and have been dreaming it's a boy. But still won't know until baby makes the arrival.

Here's a story for you too... A friend from work was telling about when here daughter had a baby and the doctor said "didn't I tell you what you were having?" She said "no.." The doctor said "It's a baby!!!"

I had a good laugh at that one...

2BWEDN2007 · February 2011

We were Team Green with DS (our first) and there were a few things that contributed to our decision to wait:

1.) I wanted at least one of my children to be a surprise. My parents waited and found out at birth with all four of us so I figured I could be patient enough to wait for one!

2.) I was planning on doing a gender neutral nursery, regardless, that all of our children would use and I would then make each of them a "big boy" or "big girl" room once the newest baby arrived.

3.) Kind of selfish, but 99% of my friends found out what they were having and complained that instead of buying stuff off the registry, most of their guests bought clothes since they knew what they were having. I didn't want my baby to have 90 sets of 0-3 month outfits and not have a stroller or car seat. Yes, I realize this probably makes me sound greedy. Flame away.

Unfortunately, DS was born at 24w5d due to an IC and was transverse with a prolapsed cord. They had 3-4 minutes to get him out so I was knocked unconscious and DH wasn't allowed in the OR so we missed the "BIG" moment anyway. Either way it is a surprise whether you find out now or find out on his/her birthday.

andreagweir · February 2011

We are team green- but it is so funny how many people have their opinion on the matter when we tell them we are!!

oh well, do what works for you!

StefandTodd · February 2011

Most of my friends and even some family have been Team Green. So most people are super supportive of our decision. I love the people who think they know us so well they have decided we'll surely find out, only to learn we will not. It all just makes me laugh.

I've had such a strong boy feeling ever since my BFP, and I was thinking that I would feel that way all the way through pregnancy, and be SHOCKED if we had a girl...but then last night, I totally dreamt we were accidentally told in our gender u/s that it was a girl...and I woke up feeling like, "i bet it's a girl!"...it's so fun to go back and forth, to not know. It's so fun. I'm so excited to find out on the baby's birthday!

emailneely · February 2011

I swear I change my mind every day about whether or not I want to know. I better decide in the next few weeks!

You all made such persuasive arguments as to why it's a great thing. My hubby and I definitely plan to keep things pretty neutral anyway - neither of us is super into the pink and blue thing anyway. Ack - what to do?!

Fuzzy21 · February 2011

DH and I have been Team Green even before we were TTC. I really have no drive to find out early. I am already tired of people asking what it is, and I love when I can easily say, "I don't know." My sister and her hubby wanted to find out the sex when they were PG. They tried to keep it a secret from the family. Both of them slipped up right away. I don't want that. I want that little moment at the birth where it's just DH and I who find out at the same time before anyone else.

Side note, my sister is a labor and delivery nurse and she told me that the doctors and nurses in her hospital get SO excited when parents-to-be come in that don't know the sex. They say it doesn't happen very much anymore, so it is something that they look forward to.

mantle · February 2011

We did it for DD and this one too. We loved not knowing. The surprise was exciting. We didn't want a pink or blue explosion of a room waiting for the baby. Near the end it was amusing to watch other people get so mad that we weren't finding it. The hospital staff said they love getting to be part of the surprise too.

We don't have an 'ultimate' because we both always planned to have it a surprise.

SoxFan777 · February 2011

I'm still on the fence. I'm going to have them write it down at the ultrasound and seal the envelope and then I'm going to just wait and see. We're DEFINITELY going to wait till after the shower, because I want the gender neutral stuff that we need... I'm way too practical... But after that, I'm not sure.

We were actually thinking of announcing AT the shower, but then the guys in the family, like my dad and grandfather, aren't there...

So yeah, we may stay team green, we may not...

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · February 2011

The real reason I stayed Team Green is I was scared it would be a girl (my mom and I had a rocky relationship for a while and I was afraid the same would happen between me and my daughter, hence why I was scared of having a girl). I figured I'd be so happy/relieved/tired after giving birth I'd be less likely to be upset to find out then than at a u/s. Worked for me because my heart busted with happiness as soon as the Dr said "Congratulations, it's a girl!"

However, I have a friend who chose to find out for the exact same reason. She was scared of having a certain gender and figured finding out ahead of time would give her time to prepare herself.

I am choosing to stay Team Green this time around because I LOVED the excitement of not knowing until the end. It drives everyone around me batty though lol. And since everything I have is gender neutral, it doesn't matter if we have a boy or another girl.

Oh and for the record, I really don't care what we have this time around. Of course it'd be nice to have a boy, but honestly? We are so in love with DD that having another girl would be just as much of a blessing.

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