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robinsokj · February 2011

I do not understand why some people are not ok with drinking around kids. How is one glass of wine at dinner going to harm your children. I would think that drinking in moderation would show them a good example of how to properly act with alcohol. Anyone care to enlighten me?

PiRSquared330 · February 2011

Exactly. I think its a million times worse to actively hide it from your kids. If you don't drink, thats one thing. But I think its giving kids the wrong message if you do drink but you are sneaky about it.

I'm a big fan of modeling good, responsible behavior.

Shortycube · February 2011

i don't drink, ever. but i don't side eye people that have a glass of wine with their children around.

tessab2515 · February 2011

ITA. I don't know how having a beer, or a glass of wine equates to not being able to get through the day without alcohol. Daisy must have passed around her stick.

homebird · February 2011

I'm just not a fan of drinking around kids. I didn't realize this was such an absurd idea. If you're cool with it that's fine. I honestly don't judge a parent who enjoys a glass of wine with dinner while their kids are around. It's just not something I'm going to do.

I DID side-eye the parents who downed three pitchers of beer (who were clearly more than buzzed) around their two small children at the bowling alley last night.

kateoats · February 2011

I grew up in a house where I didn't see anyone drink. I have a drink maybe once a month, but it's just not my thing. Although, I have no issue with someone having a drink around DD. DH has a beer every once in a while, and when we have people over we have wine/cocktails out. I totally agree with showing them how to be responsible with alcohol.

tessab2515 · February 2011

Here ya go.

pleasebeonsale · February 2011

Shortycube:
i don't drink, ever. but i don't side eye people that have a glass of wine with their children around.

That's where I'm at as well. I didn't read any of the posts about this, seeing the little red star and imagining the drama was enough for me...

Lanny02 · February 2011

Seriously. FI drinks every night when he comes home from work. I will have a glass of wine or something maybe twice a week. I see nothing wrong with it. It's not like I'm getting plowed and running around with knives while holding my kid.

lmpdjc · February 2011

I didn't see the post that inspired this, but I can't imagine anyone getting all uptight about it! This would only happen on TB.

SoCaliAli · February 2011

ITA. I see nothing wrong with having a drink in front of LO. My parents always drank in front of me, but they were never irresponsible about it. We are even going to have alcohol at DS's birthday party ::gasp::

DrinknDerive · February 2011

If they were vegetarian-friendly, I would give out Jello shots at Claire's bday party. Alas, we're stuck with plain old tequila, salt and lime.

tessab2515 · February 2011

DrinknDerive:
If they were vegetarian-friendly, I would give out Jello shots at Claire's bday party. Alas, we're stuck with plain old tequila, salt and lime.

Stupid me didn't realize jello wasn't vegetarian. I really don't think I want to know why...

DrinknDerive · February 2011

tessab2515:
DrinknDerive:
If they were vegetarian-friendly, I would give out Jello shots at Claire's bday party. Alas, we're stuck with plain old tequila, salt and lime.

Stupid me didn't realize jello wasn't vegetarian. I really don't think I want to know why...

Gelatin no es bueno. Pectin is gelatin's animal-friendly counterpart.

emsumm · February 2011

Yeah, I grew up watching both parents responsibly imbibe regularly. I still stock up on wine when they come to visit. I also really enjoy a mimosa after they are in bed, but I see no problem with some wine during dinner or a drink in front of them. I agree with a pp, I really think that because I watched my parents enjoy, but never abuse, alcohol, I have always done the same thing.

Danikat15 · February 2011

DrinknDerive:
If they were vegetarian-friendly, I would give out Jello shots at Claire's bday party. Alas, we're stuck with plain old tequila, salt and lime.

I hate you. I just had to look up why it's not vegetarian friendly and Jell-O is forever tainted to me. I just won't be able to enjoy a nice strawberry Jello-O shot without thinking about Babe.

DrinknDerive · February 2011

Danikat15:
DrinknDerive:
If they were vegetarian-friendly, I would give out Jello shots at Claire's bday party. Alas, we're stuck with plain old tequila, salt and lime.
I hate you. I just had to look up why it's not vegetarian friendly and Jell-O is forever tainted to me. I just won't be able to enjoy a nice strawberry Jello-O shot without thinking about Babe.

Marshmallows too. Smile

homebird · February 2011

There are sanctimonious attitudes on both sides of the issue.

I know people whose parents drank responsibly in front of them. Some of those children grew up and drank responsibly, others ... not so much. I was never exposed to alcohol consumption at all and I consider myself very responsible with alcohol. I can also think of people who grew up like me and are alcoholics.

I suppose what I'm saying is: I think there's more than one way to teach your child to be responsible. I don't need to drink in front of her to be a good parent. And I don't need other people to make me feel bad about that decision.

robinsokj · February 2011

homebird:
There are sanctimonious attitudes on both sides of the issue.
I know people whose parents drank responsibly in front of them. Some of those children grew up and drank responsibly, others ... not so much. I was never exposed to alcohol consumption at all and I consider myself very responsible with alcohol. I can also think of people who grew up like me and are alcoholics.
I suppose what I'm saying is: I think there's more than one way to teach your child to be responsible. I don't need to drink in front of her to be a good parent. And I don't need other people to make me feel bad about that decision.

If you don't drink that's one thing, but if you wait until after LO goes to bed ad hide it is another.

homebird · February 2011

robinsokj:
homebird:
There are sanctimonious attitudes on both sides of the issue.
I know people whose parents drank responsibly in front of them. Some of those children grew up and drank responsibly, others ... not so much. I was never exposed to alcohol consumption at all and I consider myself very responsible with alcohol. I can also think of people who grew up like me and are alcoholics.
I suppose what I'm saying is: I think there's more than one way to teach your child to be responsible. I don't need to drink in front of her to be a good parent. And I don't need other people to make me feel bad about that decision.
If you don't drink that's one thing, but if you wait until after LO goes to bed ad hide it is another.

I really don't see how that's different, sorry. I think we should just agree to disagree here because I have no intentions of swaying your opinion on the matter.

robinsokj · February 2011

Homebird-can you explain to me how those two things aren't different b/c I really don't get that.

homebird · February 2011

Also, I said I don't have a problem with people who do drink around their children, I'm just not planning to do that. I don't understand why you're so concerned about this. Are people not allowed to have parenting styles/opinions that differ from your own.

I feel like I need to stop posting in this thread anyway. I feel confident in my decisions as a parent and I'm not sure why I feel the need to defend them to random people on the internet.

robinsokj · February 2011

homebird:
Also, I said I don't have a problem with people who do drink around their children, I'm just not planning to do that. I don't understand why you're so concerned about this. Are people not allowed to have parenting styles/opinions that differ from your own.
I feel like I need to stop posting in this thread anyway. I feel confident in my decisions as a parent and I'm not sure why I feel the need to defend them to random people on the internet.

Dude, you need to chill. I really don't understand how those two things arent different.

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