Had a dream I had to get IVF and then adopted.

Dori722 · February 2011

last night I had a dream that I was told I would have to start IVF and then got nervous about it so decided to adopt. It was a weird dream but after having it, I guess it's safe to say I'm starting to have anxiety about how long it's taking to conceive baby #2....and we all know anxiety is not good for TTC. Our DS was conceived on cycle #1 last time and I know I am able to conceive a healthy child...

This will be cycle #8 for us and I am just starting to get worried. I'm sure I'm not alone in this but am wondering if I need to go get checked out, have husband get checked out (even just for piece of mind) or if I just need to accept that I was simply lucky with DS. I know "it takes a healthy couple a year" and we haven't reached that mark yet but I spoke with a RE who told me that he really tests women at 9 months and I'm pretty damn close to that.

If you were me would you just relax and give it more time or start some testing?

romigu · February 2011

i think its natural to start to feel anxious about conceiving at this point but , like you said, you're still within the year average that it takes most couples without fertility problems. From what everyone says on this board, most insurance companies don't cover an RE until after a year. I know its hard, but try not to worry until there's something to worry about..if that makes sense.

siple1am · February 2011

If I were you, I would wait. If you got KU on cycle #1 with DS, I would wait the full year. You are clearly able to get pregnant on your own, so I wouldn't rush it..

Actingdiva09 · February 2011

I used to be all freaked out and nervous too... Around the year mark, I really started to look at how I was living... TTC had consumed me... I picked up a hobby, started pursuing it, and haven't looked back since! Sure, I still get down when I think about how long it's been or whenever AF shows, but it doesn't consume me like it used to. Photography really pulled me out of the proverbial gutter and gave me something to clear my head!

We're not going to start testing until a full year charting (July) because that's when I'm due for my annual... When I think about it, it sometimes makes me crazy thinking that I'm going to wait that long when something could be wrong, but then I usually calm myself down when I remember how our timing was really awful when I was using the calendar method, because I wasn't Oing when I thought I was.

So all of that is to say, don't let it get you down, and try and let something else consume your time (seriously, I would stare at my chart for HOURS after I O'd to see if it would tell me if I was pregnant or not!!!). GL and hold off on the testing until it's been a year Wink And my bad dreams like that have completely gone away since I stopped focusing only on TTC! Smile

tosh24 · February 2011

I know how hard it is waiting for #2 when it was so easy to conceive #1. That said, I would really wait the full year. If you think TTC is consuming your life now because you are on cycle 8 and you think about it all the time, wait until you start testing and treatment - it will consume your life. Weekly appointments, blood draws, ultrasounds, pill popping, injections etc. are very stressful. It is mentally and physically taxing, and ups the stress factor by about 1000 %.

Enjoy the next 4 months of babymaking on your own. If it gets to that point, start testing at a year.

Good luck.

twocents6708 · February 2011

By the looks of your charts, you are having regular cycles and are ovulating so I would say wait a little while longer. But that is IMO.

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