DH and I are throwing in the towel on TTC

BensWife · February 2011

This is only our second cycle trying for baby #3, but I just don't think I can continue TTC anymore. It is bringing back all the emotions and disappointment when we were TTC#1 and #2. We had years of infertility, testing, painful procedures, failed IVFs, a m/c, and major cost trying to get our kids. Now, I have 2 beautiful boys, and yes I would LOVE to have a 3rd child, but at what cost? My sanity? I'm a crazy wreck all during my 2ww and then when it doesn't happen (like my BFN today) I'm all depressed. I'm not the type of person to just "go with the flow" because I know my body, know when I ovulate even if I don't use an OPK because I can feel it, and can't just relax while in the 2ww. There is no money for assistance from our RE and even if we had the money, I don't think I can do shots, egg retrieval, etc again. It is just too hard. DH and I thought about waiting until the summer to continue TTC to give me a break, but I'm not sure anything will change. Besides, at 37, I'm not getting any younger. TTC is such a hard journey, especially when trying for a long time and having month after month of disappointment. I would have tried forever to get a baby, but now that I do have 2 wonderful little boys, I'm not sure I am willing to go through all that emotion and month after month of disappointment. I wish everyone trying luck, and hope you all get your BFPs soon!

Tea712 · February 2011

Sounds like you and your DH know yourselves very well and have thought this through. Maybe just wait and see how you feel in a few months and don't make any final decisions for a while? Good luck to you whatever you finally decide.

greeneyed_bride · February 2011

I'm so sorry. Sad

I wish you guys the best.

branmuffin2112 · February 2011

I'm so sorry, hope you have a surprise BFP soon. Take care!

RocknHoney · February 2011

Im sorry

. I wish you and your husband the best of luck! It really is an emotional roller coaster to say the least and you know yourself better then anyone else. Taking a break and then reevaluate over the summer when you are considering again may be the best since you seem to have thought it through. If you are charting keep doing that, I hope things work out for the best.

Kellyinpink · February 2011

This is the perfect situation where you get a surprise BFP!! Stay hopeful and good luck.

brithil · February 2011

I'm sorry to hear about all of your difficulties, but am happy to hear you have two wonderful sons. Enjoy them!! Best of luck in whatever your future brings.