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I'm on vacation with my ILs (no DH)

anna7602anna7602 member
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I've decided that it is really hard to forget all the reference points you acquire through years of dealing with your own family. Despite having been married for almost a decade, I am so surprised by how different my ILs' concept of vacation is versus my parents. I grew up coming to Florida all the time. Our vacations consisted of lots of beach and pool time, and meals like sandwiches on the beach. Is that the only way to do things? Of course not, but it has been so disappointing to get to Florida and realize that my MIL doesn't even own a bathing suit. She hates the water! My FIL reluctantly put on some trunks Wednesday and then DD fell in the pool on his watch. As a result, she is now terrified of going back to the hotel pool. So now I am stuck with 3 people who have no interest in doing what I was most looking forward to about our trip (beach/pool time). And all my ILs want to do is check out a bunch of restaurants and then encourage DD to take a late car/stroller nap so she's "refreshed" for dinner. This means she then goes to sleep for the night close to midnight, hardly relaxing for me. I'm really just venting. I know I need to learn how to say, "I'm doing this today, have fun exploring the town with DD," but again, that is the total opposite of what I picture when I think "family vacation." I've never taken a vacation with my own family in which everyone just does his/her own thing.
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  • konaboomomkonaboomom
    I am so with you on the vacation thing. My idea of a vacation involves the water (ocean or pool) and a fruity drink. I  hope you are enjoying it even though it's not going perfect to plan. And have a fruity drink for me! :)
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  • Harper'smomHarper'smom
    My first thought after reading your post title was "and to you extend my greatest sympathy". I fear the day a combined family vacation is suggested! Hang in there. Were you able to add the other leg of the trip to visit your relatives?
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  • glasgow_girlglasgow_girl

    We've taken vacations with my side of the family, but they are all so easy going it was never an issue.

    With my in-laws, it's all about the eating.  And the arcades. Which I can't stand at the best of times, but certainly not something I want to do when the weather is glorious and I am at the beach.

    Hope you can strike a compromise and eventually get to relax on your vacay!!

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  • QuazelQuazel member

    DH and I are actually the opposite.  We are not beach/pool people at all.  When his family wants to lay out for a few hours, we go exploring.  We figure a few hours to ourselves each days is actually great time with DS, or alone time prior to him.  Even when we go places like Las Vegas, we try to do everything everyone wants to but if we can't or someone really doesn't want something, we will spend time to ourselves or in small groups.  I love vacationing that way, it is the best of both worlds to me and no one annoys anyone else.

    Refreshed for dinner and then bed at midnight?  I don't understand that at all.  If possible, I would try to keep your normal bed and nap times even if that means doing something different.  GL, I hope you can enjoy it!

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  • anna7602anna7602 member
    UPDATE: My very awesome best friend is driving down from Miami this weekend with her DH and DS. They should be here late tonight or midday tomorrow, yay! Harper's Mom: tagging Argentina onto this trip got too complicated, so now we're going to Buenos Aires in March. Still a nice deal, overall.
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  • LouiseB2001LouiseB2001 member
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    UPDATE: My very awesome best friend is driving down from Miami this weekend with her DH and DS. They should be here late tonight or midday tomorrow, yay! : , .
    Awesome, have fun.
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  • KateLouiseKateLouise member
    I'm impressed that you're on this vacation with inlaws without your DH. This would never ever happen in my world.
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