leaving a sick baby with a babysitter

PiRSquared330 · February 2011

so on a scale of 1 to horrible, how bad would it be for me to leave DD with a sitter tonight? She's had a constistant fever and has been lethargic. H has a big dinner tonight that he has to go to. Its a couples thing. Only 6 couples were invited and it was a big deal to be asked. Since there are so few people, its not like people won't notice if I'm not there.

So, normally I wouldn't leave her like this, but she will more than likely be sleeping the whole time we are gone. We have to leave at 645. Last night, since she wasn't feeling well, she went to bed at 6 and then didn't even stir until 6:30 the next morning.

I'm feeling a lot of mommy guilt, though, about leaving her even though she will probably sleep the whole time.

tomkat35728 · February 2011

I would feel bad too, but I would go. If the sitter knows and is okay with the situation, I don't think that it is that big of a deal so try not to worry.

Erika6504 · February 2011

I wouldn't leave her. If she had a low-grade fever and was acting fine it would be a different story, but since she's lethargic I'd be afraid something might happen.

Hip2Bsquare · February 2011

PiRSquared330:
so on a scale of 1 to horrible, how bad would it be for me to leave DD with a sitter tonight? She's had a constistant fever and has been lethargic. H has a big dinner tonight that he has to go to. Its a couples thing. Only 6 couples were invited and it was a big deal to be asked. Since there are so few people, its not like people won't notice if I'm not there.

So, normally I wouldn't leave her like this, but she will more than likely be sleeping the whole time we are gone. We have to leave at 645. Last night, since she wasn't feeling well, she went to bed at 6 and then didn't even stir until 6:30 the next morning.

I'm feeling a lot of mommy guilt, though, about leaving her even though she will probably sleep the whole time.

Does the babysitter have other children?

PiRSquared330 · February 2011

Hip2Bsquare:

Does the babysitter have other children?

no. She would be at our house with her. She is aware DD is sick.

lmpdjc · February 2011

It's the "lethargic" part that makes me nervous. If Dylan had those symptoms, the only person I think I would feel comfortable leaving him with would be my mom.

Melly Mel · February 2011

I would not leave her.

PiRSquared330 · February 2011

She's not super lethargic. She was really bad a month ago. Its not like that. She's just not her normal chipper self.

I'm probably going to wait to make a decision until I talk to the nurse at the pedi's office. Hopefully what she tells me (or the doctor) will give me more to base my decision off of.

Ugh.

valetdecoeur · February 2011

I would probably leave her, but give the sitter instructions to call me if she did wake up and seemed upset. I would worry less too if the sitter is your regular one, and LO knows him/her really well.

yankeebaby2 · February 2011

I would go. Your husband is counting on you and baby irish will be asleep anyway. If the baby is asleep anyway, there is nothing you can do for her that the babysitter can't.

In fact, it is the epitome of narcism to think you can cure her fever by wringing your hands next to her bedside. No keg stands.

PiRSquared330 · February 2011

yankeebaby2:

I would go. Your husband is counting on you and baby irish will be asleep anyway. If the baby is asleep anyway, there is nothing you can do for her that the babysitter can't.

In fact, it is the epitome of narcism to think you can cure her fever by wringing your hands next to her bedside. No keg stands.

I don't think I can cure her. I just feel guilty.

I'm catholic and a mom. Its a double whammy (sp?). I'm doomed to a life of guilt.

kategw · February 2011

I left DD with my mom on Monday so I could go to a funeral. She was also sick with a fever and just wasn't herself. But it was my mom, who is a nurse, and who I trust wholeheartedly with DD. If I had the same amount of trust and confidence in a babysitter, I would leave her. If not, I probably wouldn't.

kategw · February 2011

PiRSquared330:
yankeebaby2:

I would go. Your husband is counting on you and baby irish will be asleep anyway. If the baby is asleep anyway, there is nothing you can do for her that the babysitter can't.

In fact, it is the epitome of narcism to think you can cure her fever by wringing your hands next to her bedside. No keg stands.

I don't think I can cure her. I just feel guilty.

I'm catholic and a mom. Its a double whammy (sp?). I'm doomed to a life of guilt.

As a good Irish Catholic gal should be

yankeebaby2 · February 2011

PiRSquared330:
yankeebaby2:

I would go. Your husband is counting on you and baby irish will be asleep anyway. If the baby is asleep anyway, there is nothing you can do for her that the babysitter can't.

In fact, it is the epitome of narcism to think you can cure her fever by wringing your hands next to her bedside. No keg stands.

I don't think I can cure her. I just feel guilty.

I'm catholic and a mom. Its a double whammy (sp?). I'm doomed to a life of guilt.

I'm catholic too but the mommy guilt gene skipped me, thank god.

Can you just wear her to the party? Just kidding. I'm sure your pedi will tell you she;s fine and your sitter has your number.

kmick · February 2011

I think your ok to leave her. She will be asleep anyway and you said she's been sleeping fine at night so I wouldn't worry.

danto · February 2011

Take two cars. Explain what's up. Maybe leave after appetizers??

MexiCali · February 2011

If it was a normal family dinner, friends outing..etc I wouldn't go. Since it is an RSVP type thing I would go. I would probably throw in a disclaimer at dinner. "LO is not feeling well, so please excuse us if we have to leave". For me this excuses you to check your phone and be aware of any missed calls during dinner.

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