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2nd Trimester
yougrindmygears
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Because im in an irritable cow today...
yougrindmygears
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You know what really pisses me off??? When people want to meet you and hang out with you to talk to you about what you *should* be doing once your baby is born. Example..
Yesterday my MIL calls me up and asks me to come over because she has a friend who had a baby 11 months ago and she wants to meet me. I had nothing better to do so I agree. Little did I know that this was going to be a " I have had one child in my life so I have all the answers and listen to me" intervention. This lady starts going on and onnn about how I should be stretching my vagina every day, that bedsharing is the only way...to breastfeed until you can't any longer. The worst one was when she lectured me for 45 minutes about potty training from birth. She starts saying how diapers are sooo disgusting and that if you actually care about your childs hygene you would start to potty train from birth. And my MIL is sitting there nodding her head like she has every idea what this woman is talking about, saying stuff like " you should really take her advice" and " well, shes done research".
Holymotherfuckingfuck. I felt like I was in the twilight zone. Who actually has the time and energy to be training their infant to sh*t in the toilet?? I really want to hear some other stories about crazy advice so I don't feel so alone...
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Re: Because im in an irritable cow today...
Not from birth, but DS has been potty trained since about 8 months. It's called Elimination Communication. It's pretty stinkin' awesome. It's like potty training a dog, and to be perfectly honest took no more effort or time than potty training my 2 chihuahuas.
As for the ambush. It's stereotypical MIL garbage, isn't it?!? Seriously, every.single.subject this "veteran mother" gave you advice about is instinctual. You will know if BF'ing is right for you. You will know if bedsharing is right for you.
See, the problem that I had was not that she wanted to give me information...it was that she was saying things like " if anyone cares about their child they wouldnt let him/her sit around in crap.." that kind of stuff. Like pretty much saying that anyone who chooses to have their kid in diapers is a bad parent. Kinda turned me off lol..
hahaha, your post made me laugh out loud but I know what you mean...
My husband and I just moved here to the US a year ago and while we're still settling in etc, I decided that at almost 31 years of age and with a pending green card, I might as well use the "free" time and have a baby!
My reasons (and they sound perfect enough reason to me) are that once I get back on the career ladder, I probably won't have time to have a baby until MUCH later and frankly, I don't want to be an older mother!
Husband is also crazy for kids and def wants kids, he has a 4 year old son already but he and MIL sometimes can't help themselves say "you're mad", or "you have no idea what it's like" and since he's had a horrible experience with his son's mother, he kinda thinks that I'll be whining 24/7, become a nightmare etc - all lightheartedly of course. I don't blame him - alarmingly, his son is STILL using diapers at 4 years! Breaks our hearts that DH has almost no control on raising his son and I'm sure she's a good mother deep down but I sure as hell will be doing a hell of a lot more than what I hear of her!
So what's the point of stressing about hardship now? There'll be a whole lotta love waiting for my peanut! I have all the time in the frickin' world to breastfeed, change diapers, wipe off poo, bathe a peanut, play, love - all of it! And the best thing is I can't wait.
I really believe that there never is a right time to have babies and if it isn't motivation enough to make it as right as possible for your child, I don't know what is.
I think my slight annoyance at being painted with the same brush has hit home because I don't hear it much anymore!
Don't know about her, but there's no such thing as being a lazy Mama in my family - after all, my mother had 9 of us!
ITA she's a total asshat. Opinions like that totally enrage me. Actually, unsolicited advice just turns me off.
I think I would have come at her with we plan on FF, CIO from birth and using disposable diapers.
Not that there's anything wrong with 'sposies, but they seem to be the exact opposite of elimination communication.
This, except we did EC with my youngest from 5 months on. I completely agree with it being awesome! :]
As for that lady...what right does she have telling you what's right for you and your baby? That would of pissed me off! So sorry you had to deal with that...