Announcing pregnancy when things arent perfect.

[Deleted User] · February 2011

hi Girls,

I see other girls annoucing pregnancy on facebook and I want to also, but how do I announce if I'm not sure of the outcome? I've kept it pretty quiet because I wasnt sure if I was going to miscarry or not, but now getting more comfortable/confident and have told most close friends and family. Since I've been stuck in my house the majority of this year, most people havent seen me or heard from me in a while. Any ideas? Would I announce my delicate situation or just avoid it?

-C

ChrissyDipi · February 2011

I would announce it. There is something to be said for positivity and happiness. I think the amount of joy you will have from shouting from the roof tops - I'M PREGNANT! won't hurt a thing.

Go ahead Mommy Tell the World

Marcy248 · February 2011

I still haven't announced mine on Facebook. Guess it's going to be interesting when I post pictures of a baby.

buggles · February 2011

Marcy248:
I still haven't announced mine on Facebook. Guess it's going to be interesting when I post pictures of a baby.

For me, it's this.

I've only announced it to close family and friends just because of my past history. I figure either word will get out just before I deliver or soon after when my H posts the pics with my name tagged to them.

lemen99 · February 2011

we announced - were excited, happy, and asked for T&P for a healthy 40 weeks!

[Deleted User] · February 2011

Another issue, my Dad is so excited about his first grandchild he is on the verge of telling everyone if I dont. It made me regret even telling him, but with all the bedrest there was no choice to let most family know why I cant come around anymore. My brother is tough to get a hold of, partially because hes stationed at GTMO Bay now and partially because thats just how he is- so my Dad actually posted about my pregnancy to his facebook a couple of weeks back. I was slightly annoyed but I am not going to try and control everything. I would like the words to come from me first, either by phone, the net, or in person.

calm_angel_2003 · February 2011

IMO it made it seem more official when i announced it on fb but I told my family members on the phone first. I think it goes over better when you tell family first so they are not shocked and get upset when they read it on fb. GL trying to get ahold of your brother. Think positive thoughts about the LO and take it easy

hollerjeepgirl · February 2011

ChrissyDipi:
I would announce it. There is something to be said for positivity and happiness. I think the amount of joy you will have from shouting from the roof tops - I'M PREGNANT! won't hurt a thing.

Go ahead Mommy Tell the World

THIS! Pregnancy is so awesome you should be happy about it and not worry about what others say or think

KarlsSweetie05 · February 2011

We were worried too about announcing given our history. Its sooooo hard to be happy and optimistic after so much loss and heartache.

We didn't do it on FB though. We ended up just telling close family/friends in person or via phone around 14-15 weeks. A huge FB annoucement didn't feel right for us. That was "too normal" for us, if that makes any sense.

By telling people verbally, we were able to convey some of the "apprehension" we were feeling and explain while we were overjoyed to be that far along, we still were being cautiously optimistic. We weren't Debbie Downers, but after everything we have been through, its just protection and survival instinct to protect yourself from further heartache. At the same time, we did want people to be happy for us and for us to act a little bit like a normal expecting couple. Its a hard position to be in and no one really understands why you can't throw caution to the wind and just be happy... unless they have been there too.

We figured at that point (14-15 weeks) that if something happened, we were going to need their support anyway and we'd need family/friends to know. So we went ahead and shared the news.

So far, knock on wood, things are progressing well and I hope they do for you also.

MommaA117 · February 2011

everyone knows because we didn't have complications until after 20 weeks. I am barely showing though and am on bed rest now. Our neighbors never see me and we never told them. Imagine the surprise when then see a baby all of a suddden one day. lol

SoulChild · February 2011

I didnt announce my pregnancy on FaceBook until I was about 6.5 months pregnant. All I did was post a pregnant pic of myself with a title of "New look...baby bump". I got lots of happy comments.

I would not go into detail on your High Risk situation on facebook though. That is private business in my opionion. Smile

monica92603 · February 2011

I never announced my pregnancy on FB. I announced the birth of our daughter. Some of my closest friends found out that way. It was actually pretty cool. After our loss in 2009, we decided to lay super low for the 9 months. People were so unbelievably excited for us. The responses were amazing.

Do what you are comfortable w/.

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