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RP from Toddlers-WDYT?

MelissaMc22MelissaMc22
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DS is a nurseaholic. He would nurse 25 times a day if i let him.

Currently, he goes to bed between 7:30- 8 very easily. He wakes every morning at 5:30ish to nurse, then backto sleep and up for the day around 7:30.

We have been trying to get rid of this early feeding so we can all sleep better, but are having problems.

DH has been going in there when he wakes up, telling him it's time to sleep, comforting him a bit, then leaving. He may fuss for a few minutes and cry for me, but usually he goes back to sleep. The problem is- he is up again 20 minutes later, then fusses, then back to sleep, then up again a few minutes later. This goes on until I give in and go nurse him at around 7 ish, or we just get up for the day.

I am thinking he really might be hungry... why else would he continually wake up?

Do you think I should keep trying to wean him of this, or just give in until he grows out of it?

FWIW, he eats TONS and nurses before bed, but he is a very very active toddler.

Thanks!!

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  • becca070707Kenbecca070707Ken
    Maybe try pushing his bedtime back to 8:30-9:00. He may sleep longer through the night and may not even wake for that early feeding. But then again you do what is best for you and your son.
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  • AgathiP04AgathiP04 member
    I think it's a habit.  He should be able to sleep through the night without a feeding.  At least that is what my pedi tells me.  It may be a CIO situation.  It is good that your DH goes in there and tells J it's time to sleep.  Niko has been waking up around 6am...but I hear his crib toy come on and usually he soothes himself back to sleep.  It is stressful, but probably a good idea to wean him from this feeding.  I really feel that nutrionally he doesn't need it. 
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  • pinkylupinkylu member
    I really doubt he is hungry.  DD goes from 7:30pm-8:30pm without a bottle and she does not wake up ravenous.  She is also very active.  I know you've posted about this before, so it must really be wearing on you.  The only advice I can give is to make a plan and really stick with it.  J is smart enough to realize that you will give in and come nurse him if he fusses enough.  I would never tell you when it is time for you to stop nursing, but you might have to face the reality that as long as you nurse, he is going to be waking up wanting you.  With that said, I feel like weaning him is probably going to be very difficult for the both of you, so an early morning wake up might actually be the less arduous choice. 
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  • sistrkatesistrkate

    I agree with Agathi and Pinkylu.  He knows you will eventually get tired of coming in there and will get him out of bed to nurse him.  Justin currently goes to bed between 7:45 and 8:00, and sleeps till between 7-7:30 AM.  We nurse before bed and shortly after he wakes up.  Sometimes on weekends he doesn't nurse until an hour after he gets up, and he's fine with that - so I think as long as his solid intake is OK (which I know it is) -- he isn't that hungry at 5:30 AM.

     

    I don't think putting him to bed later will resolve anything.  Anytime we have pushed Justin's bedtime back, it's bitten us in the butt and he just gets up EARLIER.  Does Jack have any toys or books in his crib?  We've gotten to the point now where Justin will play with his stuffed animals and crib music for a good 45 minutes before he wakes us up in the morning.  Maybe if Jack has some things to amuse himself when he wakes up, you can get a little more sleep.

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  • curlypie1curlypie1

    I don't think he's hungry either. I think he just knows you will give in and come and nurse him. Nora was that way to until I had to go through a very short phase of letting her fuss and go back to sleep.

    We put a cup of water in Nora's crib. I'm certain she drinks from it because it's always less than I put in the cup. Maybe you could try that. I make a big deal of her preparing her cup of water with me before bed and she carries it into her room and I let her toss it into her crib.

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  • vbmegvbmeg
    When Ryan was waking up at 4 or 5 when I was still nursing, I came to realize that she wasn't really hungry and it was a comfort thing. Our pedi recommended letting her cry for at least 15 minutes first and if she didn't settle down, to offer her a sippy of water. For a few days she would take a little bit of the water and go back to bed. After a few days I think she realized that she wouldn't be nursed so she stopped waking up. Every once in a while I hear her fussing around that time but it is never longer than 5 minutes and she goes back to sleep. Now she sleeps from 7:45 or 8 until 8:30 or 9 without waking up. Good luck because I know it is hard.
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  • AgathiP04AgathiP04 member

    I like VBMeg's idea better than mine (CIO) of offering a sippy 15 mins later.  If you still want to bf, what if you just kept pushing it further into the morning...don't go in for 15 mins, 30 mins, 45 mins...

    the PP is right, J is smart.  Niko is in his crib now saying "Good job, Niko, you tried nap!" haha...he thinks if he pretends for 20 mins he gets to play.  J knows that it wears on you and you may give in.  Good luck!

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