Trying again after late loss

jcarleo1 · February 2011

I was wondering if anyone tried again after a loss and how soon they tried? I don't want to jump right back in but we do want to try again eventually.

jertie · February 2011

I'm in the process of TTC. My loss occurred at 30w5d in July. The doctor advised that we wait 2 cycles, then could begin TTC. We decided to wait 3 cycles to begin trying again and right now I'm on TTC #4. Best of luck to you!

Jackie2200 · February 2011

I lost my twin boys at 19 weeks (on 2/2/11). Yesterday, I was told to wait 4 weeks to BD and at least 1 full cycle before TTC.

sweetface83 · February 2011

It's been 6 months since my loss @ 18 weeks. Mentally, I feel ready again, but we want to wait. I need to get my knee operated on and my dr. said it was possible my weight issues contributed to my loss. We also want to build our savings back up. They've been depleted since I've been out of work with my knee.

taurus424 · February 2011

not sure what our time frame will be...i have another appt next week so we will find out then.

Nurse27 · February 2011

We had our baby girl at 20 weeks and she had anencephaly, where the brain and skull fail to form before you even find out your pregnant. My doctor put me on a high dose of folic acid and I have to be on that for 3 months and then we can start trying again. GL and I am sorry for your loss.

ekmOC · February 2011

I think the answer would depend on several factors. Did you have a D&E or D&C after your loss? Did you deliver vaginally? Any issues for risk of recurrence that need to be addressed?

If there are no major issues to deal with, probably just a couple of cycles, from a physical standpoint. I think it is important to build up your nutritional reserves, too.

You should ask your OB for some guidelines.

sdlaura · February 2011

We decided to TTC again after my first AF.

I terminated for medical reasons on 1/12, and had a D&E at 21 weeks. My doctor said that there's really no research on what is safe in terms of trying again with our particular situation (no chromosomal defects, no known cause for the heart defects). He recommended waiting two cycles in case my uterus lining needed to build up, but kind of left it up to us. I had an exam 8 days after my D&E and he said my cervix looked great and cleared me for all exercise and sex.

I got AF four weeks after my D&E. We are leaving tomorrow to go to Hawaii on what was supposed to be our babymoon, and we should be there while I O, so we're going to TTC while there.

I think one thing that led to our decision to TTC again right away is that I recovered really quickly physically (other than some breast engorgement, I have felt physically great since the surgery). I have been taking a large amount of folic acid everyday because I figure if my body is deficient in anything from being pregnant recently, that's probably it. So, our fingers are crossed that it happens again quickly.

magdalina.h · February 2011

ticker warning!!!!!

Our son was born at 28w4d via emergency c-section. We were told to wait 6 months, but at the 4 month mark my OB called and said we could start trying then. I'm glad we waited those 4 months because we both were in a much better place. I (and many other women that I've talked to since losing Aidan) went through a roller coaster of emotions when it came to wanting to try again. At first I wanted nothing to do with it. The thought of putting our hearts into another pregnancy was terrifying. Then we both wanted another baby (we promised Aidan to give him siblings and never once thought of it as replacing him) so badly that we wanted to wait. That pattern went on for 3 months and honestly it has continued throughout this pregnancy, but it turned into guilt.

I think you'll know when you're ready, but don't rush anything. Be open with your H.

SweetBaby2004 · February 2011

It's been five weeks since our loss at almost 22 weeks and we go back and forth on this. In no way do we want to replace our son.

My husband does not want to try because he said 40 weeks is a long time to worry and I understand that; I don't know how I will manage the stress/paranoia that I know will be part of that pregnancy (I have had two early losses also and know the relief I felt when I made it past those milestones - this time, I will not feel that there is a "safe" time).

DH has also said that if I decide I want to try again, he will support that. I believe that I will want to try again. Dr told me to wait until at least April to try again so we will wait until at least then, if not longer.

I delivered vaginally and then two weeks later had to have a D&C and I have not had AF yet.

Good luck to you!

mdluv21 · February 2011

I am not sure when/if we will try again. I hope one day I am brave enough to do so but right now I just don't know.

We will be parents though even if it means adopting.

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