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My mom to DS: "Is she ever going to feed you?"

AuburnBride06AuburnBride06
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So my mother has been harping on us that DS should be eating cereal/solids for the last 2 months or so. I've tried talking to her, she doesn't care, they "raised 4 kids and did a pretty good job". Yes you did, but it was a hell of  a long time ago. I'm 27, my bro is 42 and my sisters are 46 and 47. Yes I was a surprise. ;)   Things have changed a bit since you last did this, TYVM.  So last night she asks DS if we were ever going to feed him.   "he's not getting enough nutrition" Huh?

The definitely not solicited parenting advice gets so old. 

Just needed to vent. She thinks she knows everything and it's beyond annoying.

I am really excited to give him solids though.  Just bc I can't wait to see how he does and THEN maybe she will shut up.  Nah, thats wishful thinking. She will just go on to something else.

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  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    The unsolicited adice never stops unfortunetly. It is hard when people think that they "know better". I just smile and kind of let it go in one ear and out of the other.
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  • firsttogofirsttogo
    That is so hard, and it is never ending! They always find something! He is getting so big! And certainly looks healthy and fed! You are doing a great job, so whatever you are doing is working!!
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  • charmcitygirlcharmcitygirl member

    Ugh!  I hear you!  Luckily, my brother had 2 kids before me so they kind of broke my parents in with all the dumb comments they could be making about how parenting has changed.

    FWIW - in my baby book it says that I was being given rice cereal at 2 month old and I was on meats (MEATS!) at 4 months.  WTF were they thinking?

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  • OrangeSmokeOrangeSmoke member

    If I'm reading your siggie right - Noah is just over 4 months right?  Still really (now days) to be giving solids!

    My MIL has been telling us to give the boys cereal since they were 2 months old!  We managed to hold out until 5 months, and honestly the boys were not ready any earlier than that.  Babies will eat whenever they are ready!

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  • krissyh21krissyh21 member
    I always get the 'when your sister was a baby' speech whenever my mom dis agrees with me and when I reply 'that was 27 years ago, standards have changed' I get the 'well none of my kids are dead yet, are they?'...
    Yeah okay, whatever!
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  • PeachyKatePeachyKate
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    Ugh!  I hear you!  Luckily, my brother had 2 kids before me so they kind of broke my parents in with all the dumb comments they could be making about how parenting has changed.

    FWIW - in my baby book it says that I was being given rice cereal at 2 month old and I was on meats (MEATS!) at 4 months.  WTF were they thinking?

    My mom was looking at her baby book a few months ago and she was on meat at 2.5 months!  It is crazy how much guidelines change over the years.   

    This is my MIL to a tee.  It is never ending.  My MIL said to Jax at her father's funeral "I don't think your mom feeds you enough" in front of everyone there.  I was fuming mad and embarrassed.   I have been doing my best to completely ignore her although I am sure it is much harder when it is your actual mother.  ((hugs))

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  • BeccaLandesBeccaLandes member

    My mother-in-law was like that, too.  I just told her that these days babies don't get solids til about 6 months, and that for the first year, solids are for fun and learning and not for actual nutrition.

    My MIL also used to tell me about how she gave baby food meat to my husband when he was 2 months old, and how my boys were crying because they were breast fed.  OY. 

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  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    imagecharmcitygirl:

    Ugh!  I hear you!  Luckily, my brother had 2 kids before me so they kind of broke my parents in with all the dumb comments they could be making about how parenting has changed.

    FWIW - in my baby book it says that I was being given rice cereal at 2 month old and I was on meats (MEATS!) at 4 months.  WTF were they thinking?

    My mom and I were talking about this at the holidays. We pulled out my baby book and I was on solids at 6 weeks!!! Totally on baby food by 3 months. I asked her what she was thinking and she told me that is what Dr's. recommended at that time. It is amazing how things change.

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  • AuburnBride06AuburnBride06
    I shouldnt get irritated with her bc I know she means well but she doesnt think we know what we are doing. She tells everyone how I never listed to her. Oh  and she also said last night that  "the internet is the worst thing to happen to new moms". That made me mad. I'll say "the AAP says....." and she will say, "the internet is wrong". It's not the internet mother!  Oh and I stopped mentioning our board or if I ever ask my IRL mommies advice. BC she takes that VERY  personal.
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  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    She does mean well and thinks she is passing on good advice to you. I got a book after Hayden was born wieth AAP recommendations. This might be something you might want to look into. If you can get one, give it to her so she can see that you are not full of it or the internet is "wrong". Your mom is probably intimidated by other moms or "our board". You are taking advice from others besides her and some people are very threatened by that.
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  • MrsKolasaMrsKolasa

    **big eye roll**

    So frustrating. My MIL and my Grandma are really good at telling me how I'm "ruining" my baby. 2 weeks ago it was that he has me all figured out because I wouldn't let him cry in a pack'n'play at a house we'd never been to, at bedtime. Instead we went home. She actually used the word "ruining" OMG, shut up woman.

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  • LIAngelLIAngel member

    Oh yes my mom did this too.   I had started N on sweet potatoes right before he turned 5 months, but he didn't seem ready so I stopped.   She thought that was ridiculous that by 4 1/2 months he should be eating solids.    She didn't believe in the whole "he's not ready" argument. 

    So I just nodded and let it go in one ear and out the other.

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  • LSUBride3LSUBride3

    I'm totally going to be that grandmother.

    **hangs head in shame**

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