If LO is your 1st ? Anyone over age 30?

carolinakiwi · February 2011

I was 31 when DS was born. I?ll be 32 in August and DS will be 1 yr old in October. I definitely want to have another child, and after that we?ll see what it?s like and if we want to consider having a 3^rd.

If you want more than one or even two children, would you let age and the medical field's warning of increased risks for high-risk pregnancies after age 35 affect your decision to have a 2^nd, 3^rd, 4^th, child or more?

And I want to say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with having kids and being pregnant in the late 30?s, 40?s or older. In fact, the older we are, the wiser we are, and I think better able to handle the struggles that are ?thrown? at us. However, then there is a factor of trying to chase kids around ? hehe! J

ladykibman · February 2011

I was 31 when DD was born and I will be 32 in June. We got pregnant very easily this time around and I had no complications. I can only hope that it will be as easy and bump-free the next time around. I never really thought of the age thing playing a factor or the high-risk after 35 warnings. Until now. Embarrassed I always thought we would wait a year or 2 before trying again. I hope my body complies!!

H&W05 · February 2011

Well, we started trying when I was 28, but it took us a while to get pregnant, so I was 31 when I had her. I would like at least 1 more, and start trying soon, but DH wants to wait. I'd rather have another before I turn 35, but we'll see.

hippotree · February 2011

I was 31 when DS1 was born and 33 when DS2 was born. We're done having kids now, but I wouldn't let advanced maternal age stop me from having more kids if I did want to have more. It's sort of even a "family tradition" to have babies at 40 in my family (my grandma, aunt and mom all did!) but I am not going to follow that tradition

anneimal98 · February 2011

I was just shy (2 mos) of 31 when I had DS. We got pregnant very easily and our plan now is to wait a 1-11/2 and then try again. Assuming it doesn't take to long to get pregnant again, we'll squeak in under 35. We will not have any more children after that (at least not on purpose) but not because of concern about age and more because my body does not react well to pregnancy (I had HG) and I am not interested in doing it a third time.

juliedooley · February 2011

I just turned 32. We weren't even "officially" trying yet when we conceived him, so age wasn't an issue for me...I always expected to wait until my 30s to start having kids. I think if you're healthy and take care of yourself and don't have genetic risks, you should be able to wait as long as you want. One of my cousins was 38 and 41 when she had her kids and they are all very happy and healthy!

I do think it'd be best to have a 2nd before I'm 36, but I'll have to wait and see how I feel. Right now I am in NO rush whatsoever to add to our family! I've told DH that in case we run into fertility issues/age-related risks, if I'm 36 or older before I get pregnant again I may be more interested in adoption for our 2nd or if we want to have more than 2.

MJHershey · February 2011

I turned 32 this past summer while pregnant with LO, and hope to have a second at some point. I am VERY aware of the whole '35" thing and told DH a long time ago that the factory shuts down then.

So I am thinking that when LO is about 18 months old we will TTC and hopefully it will be as easy as last time and I can squeeze under the 35 line.

MAtoMN · February 2011

I just had my first daughter a couple of months after I turned 35. I also plan on trying to have another child, so I'll definitely be older than 35. While I would prefer to have started sooner, I didn't get married until I was 33, plus had a miscarriage. It definitely concerns me, and I'll do more advanced testing if I am lucky enough to get pregnant again.

EllaSmella · February 2011

I was 31 when DS was born and will be 32 in September. We live in a HCOL area, so daycare (and everything else!) is very expensive, so we will most likely be waiting 2-3 years before trying for #2 (which means I will be 33-34 when we try again). I got pregnant quickly and had an easy pregnancy, so I'm hoping that bodes well for #2. It's hard when there are financial considerations in addition to everything else, but honestly, at this point I can't imagine being ready to try again for atleast another year, everything else aside.

carolinakiwi · February 2011

jordnsgrl:

I guess I'm going to be the old lady of the group so far I was 36 when DD was born and would like to be 37 (and hopefully be no older than 38) when we have #2.

Once I could keep a pregnancy (two early m/c), I had a really smooth one and can only hope that the next one goes the same once I get a BFP.

I had to switch OB's when we moved, so I'm curious to what their take is on testing and the high risk age factor when I see them next month.

Best wishes to you for your next pregnancy!!! It will be nice for your DD to have a sibling close in age....I'm sure they'll be close. That's great!

discobush · February 2011

C was born three days before I turned 34. I hope to start trying for another when she's a year old. So no, age won't affect our decision to have another, though I will likely get amnio for any future pregnancies.

tracey4228 · February 2011

Yeah, I'm the old one here. I was 3 weeks shy of my 40th birthday when DD was born. Obviously, I didn't let the "concerns" of post-35 affect my decision. My doctor had a nice way of looking at it (in my opinion) as the 35 is a statistical figure - every woman is different and some will have higher risks earlier and some won't.

Because I was AMA, insurance paid for additional ultrasounds and tests. We chose to have the NT scan done first. It was expected that it would return 'high risk' so DH and I decided to have an amnio performed. DD was free of any chromosomal abnormalities.

I don't know if we will have more. I'd like to give DD a couple of years as our focus so biologically I may not be able to get pregnant after that. It's a personal decision but I wouldn't (and didn't) let the post-35 figure factor into my decision making.

drewiekc · February 2011

I was 32 when DD was born. We want to wait at LEAST until she's 2 before we start trying again, probably closer to 2 1/2. We just dont want our children really close together. So assuming I get pregnant relatively quickly, that would put me at 35 when #2 is born. However, it took us 20 months to get pregnant with DD, so there is no telling what will happen the second time around. But we are pretty sure our troubles were due to my thyroid, and with that under control, we're hoping #2 will happen a little (lot!) quicker. We're not really factoring my age into the equation too much, although we might be if we planned to have more than 2.

However, my DH is 40. His age plays a bigger role in our thought process than mine. He is already feeling like he's going to be the "old dad" and we dont really want to push that out any more than necessary. He's in great shape and his health is just fine, but I think mentally it kind of screws with him to think that he'll be almost 60 when DD graduates from HS.

adanceteach · February 2011

I was 31 when she was born and turned 32 a month later. I plan on having one more hopefully before or around 35! I also got pregnant easily and had a really great pregnancy and delivery! I hope I'll be that lucky again:)

mocklerja · February 2011

I was 32 when I had DS (31 when I got married) and have worked in prenatal genetics, so I feel like I know more then I should. We want to have a second and don't want to wait too long. I don't want to have to deal with the "35" thing. After DS is 1, I think we are going to start the process again. We only planned on 2 anyway.

Jodi2008 · February 2011

I was 35 when DS was born and we're trying for #2 already. It would be our last LO for sure. I had an extremely smooth pregnancy and DS is completely healthy but going forward, we are a little concerned about the risks of choromosomal abnormalities, etc. Not overly concerned, but it is in the back of our minds.

I turned 35 during the last month of my pregnancy so they gave me weekly ultrasounds, which was nice!

topbirdsix · February 2011

I was 39 when LO was born, and am 40 now. I elected to skip any additional ultrasounds due to my age.

I was just discussing it with our family doctor at E's 4 month appt. His take is that I had a trouble free pregnancy, birth experience and health child. Why should I stop?

For the record, DH and I haven't decided yet, but if we do have another we'll start trying very soon.

Also, our first was the result of IVF, and we have agreed that another would be conceived the old fashioned (and more fun) way.

historychick79 · February 2011

I just turned 32 last month. We're definitely keeping age a consideration. DH is 5yrs older than me (and dad's age can be a factor too). Unfortunately, I had 2 missed m/c's before DS came along, so it took 2 1/2 unexpected years to have our first. We're now holding off on #2 due to finances, but feel that if we're going to have another baby, it should be on the way by the time DH turns 40. Besides the medical issues, we know how tired we are taking care of DS now; I can't imagine how people do this in their 40's! It's sort of disappointing to think we may be 'one and done' but if it's the right choice for us financially and age-wise, then it may just be meant to be.

That.Just.Happened · February 2011

I was 32 when DD was born. We will definitely have at least one more, and preferably 2 more. My age won't keep me from having the number of kids I want but it will make me keep the ages fairly close together.

kmfrey · February 2011

I was 36 when my DS was born after trying for 1 1/2 years and will be 38 when we try for a second ( I would like to have them 2 1/12-3 years apart). Our thought is, if we are unable to have a second child for whatever reason then we are very happy as a family of 3. We are aware of the risks due to me being 36 with the first but they are not enough to deter us from trying for a second one.

krbell22 · February 2011

DS was born 1 month prior to my 33rd b-day. If (big if) we decide to have another, we'll wait until DS is at least two y/o, which would put me at 35ish. Age was never a concern...both of my parents were 36 when they had me and it's very common in my family to wait until 30+ to have kids.

veronicacorningstone · February 2011

I turned 31 a couple of months after we got married, so we started trying right away. Obviously, that didn't work for us. I turned 34 a couple months after the twins were born. We will probably do an FET in a couple of years.

angelame1979 · February 2011

I was 30 when she was born and turned 31 a week later. I dont' plan on having anymroe but if I didn't have a child by 35 I was not going to because of the risks. Luckily we got pregnant within 6 months.

Brian'sWifey · February 2011

I turned 30 in August and DD was born in September. I do take the warning of high-risk pregnancies after 35 seriously. I want to try to have all our kids before I'm 35. (We're only thinking of having 2 right now but we might change our minds and have 3 later on down the line who knows).

MSC03 · February 2011

I'm not terribly worried about turning 35 and suddenly my eggs becoming Eggs of Doom. Sure, I don't plan on waiting *that* long to finish firing out my spawn but I don't think a magical timer clicks and we're reproductively expired. It's more of a gradual process than that.

Anyway, I had Lilly right before I turned 31. Ideally we'll pop out another maybe in 2012 and then we'll probably wait two years or so before #3. Lord only knows if I can be talked into a 4th. Depends on how the next two go.

So anyway, I plan on wrapping up/closing up shop around 36. But I guess we all know what they say about the best laid plans... ;-)

sjstrickland · February 2011

I turned 34 a month after DS was born and we plan on another one but not sure how soon! I would like to start when Jax is around 1 so that kind of puts me in the "risky" age group.

Danaz1 · February 2011

I will be 35 next month. We are planning to start trying this summer. DH wants like 4 kids but most likley it will stop at 2 or 3

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