T&P sent your way, I was in a similar situation, reguarding my quad screen blood work results... and it sucks, not knowing for sure and the anxiety of everything, hang in there!,No matter what the result you will love your baby more than anything
#1 DD June 2009
#2 DS July 2011 #3 DD June 2014 CP December 2015 M/C 8/2016 Rainbow & Babe #4 EDD 7.28.18
Also, I just wanted to let you know that if it is a worst-case scenario... it's not the end of the world. My first cousin has Downs Syndrome, and he's a healthy 24 year old man who has a job with a work program and is on a waiting list to live in a group home where he can be more independent than living with his family. He has some language issues, but the physical side effects are so easily controlled nowadays that he never had a big problem other than needing tubes in his ears.
And despite the mental problems that do come with Downs, he is one of the sweetest, most wonderful people that I know in my life. Absolutely loving and caring and so eager to get involved in things; he's currently part of the local theater company's stage crew because he kept going to rehearsals with my uncle who's in the local plays.
I won't lie and say it's easy because I know my aunt and uncle did have to make a lot of sacrifices, and the education they got for my cousin didn't come cheap. But I can absolutely guarantee that they wouldn't have traded him for anyone else in the world.
Congratulations on your little boy. I am so sorry that you have to wait until the 24th to get more information. I hope the next week goes by quickly and that everyone turns out ok. We are here for you!
Ditto. T&Ps coming your way.
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T&P for your families peace of mind. Congrats on your little boy!! You will be proud that his is your little boy, you can't imagine how much you will love your child.
*hugs* I'm so sorry. Hopefully your baby boy will be fine. Even if he isn't, though, my DH worked with kids with downs and has a cousin with downs, and they are such special people. They are challenging, but have hearts big enough to hold the whole world. So while I hope your baby is healthy, happy and normal, know that Downs, while difficult, can also be wonderful. T&P, of course.
Sending you big hugs, that's a lot to worry about. I hope everything winds up being just fine. Having to possibly deal with a disability you aren't ready for is really, really scary, but if it comes to that, I know you'll do just fine. Keeping you in my thoughts for good news.
I just went through the same thing. Different soft marker, two markers, also for Down's. I did do the quad screening, my ratio was 1/3200 for risk of Downs. It felt like a long wait until my appt which ironically was today. Though those markers are still present they determined my risk of Downs to be 1/2000.
It took two weeks for my appt to arrive and the perinatologist said my markers were common in 3-5% of all babies. With all of the information he said that I had a 1/2000 risk of having a baby with Down's. He also said because the risk is low and that the markers are seen in normal babies, he did not think further testing was warrented and officially giving me a 'normal' scan result. SIGH OF RELIEF.
But my best friend really put things into perspective when she asked,
'would you do anything differently for the rest of your pregnancy?' I
guess keeping the baby. Of course I am way too attached to my little
guy now. And I would never be able to do anything but deliver my baby
and provide him a loving family/home, etc.
I'll say my prayers and be thinking of you, but I hope this info may help to ease your mind a bit.
Try not to be too worried. Short femur is a soft marker. I assume they saw a nasal bone, which 2/3 of babies with DS do not have. The fact that they saw nothing else is reassuring. My first son had kidney issues, which is also a soft marker of DS, and it ended up fine: he was born healthy and still is. I also have heard the measurements can be off, depending on how much the baby is moving and its position. Hopefully, they will have you come back for another look and all will be well.
Hugs and T&P's headed your way. We are kind of in the same shoes but we got our scare from the blood test. We will find out Friday if our LO has Trisomy 18 or not. REMEMBER, there are more false positives then positives.
Congratulations on finding out that you are having a boy. Good luck with the rest of the tests and I will pray that they will come back with a healthy baby.
Mother to beautiful 7 year old son, and little girl born in July
T&P!! One thing to remember is that the quad screen does give a lot of false positives... so even if it doesnt give you the result you want, do your best not to get too discouraged. I have a friend who had a similar situation and the Quad indicated that they were at risk for downs, and they were heartbroken, but their little girl is perfectly healthy. Good luck and like I said before, lots of T&Ps coming your way!!
T&P and hugs!! He will be just as precious and great either way but that is definately scary. Sorry you have this stress and let us know. We're all here to suppoert each other
I'm so sorry to hear that you had bad news. I had a similar thing happen last Wednesday at my anatomy scan and understand what you're going through.You just dno't expect news like that. I know it's a shock at first and you can't keep it off your mind, but each day will get better. I hope you get answers soon. If it's any encouragement, only having one soft marker is a good thing. Many of these markers occur on healthy babies. In fact, the majority of babies with a "soft" marker like this are fine with no chromosomal problems. Our little girl has two soft markers and we are waiting 3 more weeks to get a more detailed ultrasound to check out the heart. It's such a scary thing, but I will pray that they will re-measure and that they were wrong in the first place! It's very likely...a lot of times these measurements are off. You have a lot of prayers and support!
My heart is with you, your husband and your baby right now. Were you given an option of an amniocentesis (which gives you a definitive answer on Down's) ? I had one about two weeks ago because of my age (37) and my husband's family has a genetic disorder. An amnio can either help you plan for a special needs child or it can give you total reassurance.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I know it's hard, but try not to worry too much right now. I'm sure the specialist will be able to give you more specific information. I would imagine that the scan results aren't definant and that there is a very good chance that you'll have a 100% happy and healthy baby. If you do end up having a baby with down syndrome I know it will be life changing but please know that I'm positive you could handle it. I am a special education teacher and I am very close with my student's families. Many of them have shared there stories with me. In the beginning, it was very difficult for them. They grieved the "perfect" child they dreamt of. But now, they realize what a blessing that child has been and they can't imagine their lives without them. If you find yourself facing this situation your family and friends will support you. You will get support from early childhood interventions. You will learn how your child learns, communicates, and socializes.
Stay positive and know that we are all thinking about you!
That is scary and SO overwhelming, I can't even imagine what you feel. Congrats on your baby BOY though! And please know, I have worked with many Downs people who are the happiest, most loving people with the biggest hearts I've ever met. If it is worst-case senario and he does have Downs, it doesn't have to be a terrible thing. He will be wonderful and can be just as happy and perfect as a "normal" child.
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I will be thinking of you! Congrats on the baby boy. I am sorry to hear the news that accompanied it was not so happy. Hopefully, you will get some answers soon. Waiting is surely the hardest.
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Re: Bad news at Anatomy scan... T&P needed
#3 DD June 2014
CP December 2015
M/C 8/2016
Rainbow & Babe #4 EDD 7.28.18
Many T&Ps going your way!
Also, I just wanted to let you know that if it is a worst-case scenario... it's not the end of the world. My first cousin has Downs Syndrome, and he's a healthy 24 year old man who has a job with a work program and is on a waiting list to live in a group home where he can be more independent than living with his family. He has some language issues, but the physical side effects are so easily controlled nowadays that he never had a big problem other than needing tubes in his ears.
And despite the mental problems that do come with Downs, he is one of the sweetest, most wonderful people that I know in my life. Absolutely loving and caring and so eager to get involved in things; he's currently part of the local theater company's stage crew because he kept going to rehearsals with my uncle who's in the local plays.
I won't lie and say it's easy because I know my aunt and uncle did have to make a lot of sacrifices, and the education they got for my cousin didn't come cheap. But I can absolutely guarantee that they wouldn't have traded him for anyone else in the world.
TTC#2 since 11.2012 * DS born 7.2011
Ditto. T&Ps coming your way.
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I just went through the same thing. Different soft marker, two markers, also for Down's. I did do the quad screening, my ratio was 1/3200 for risk of Downs. It felt like a long wait until my appt which ironically was today. Though those markers are still present they determined my risk of Downs to be 1/2000.
It took two weeks for my appt to arrive and the perinatologist said my markers were common in 3-5% of all babies. With all of the information he said that I had a 1/2000 risk of having a baby with Down's. He also said because the risk is low and that the markers are seen in normal babies, he did not think further testing was warrented and officially giving me a 'normal' scan result. SIGH OF RELIEF.
But my best friend really put things into perspective when she asked, 'would you do anything differently for the rest of your pregnancy?' I guess keeping the baby. Of course I am way too attached to my little guy now. And I would never be able to do anything but deliver my baby and provide him a loving family/home, etc.
I'll say my prayers and be thinking of you, but I hope this info may help to ease your mind a bit.
Hugs and T&P's headed your way. We are kind of in the same shoes but we got our scare from the blood test. We will find out Friday if our LO has Trisomy 18 or not. REMEMBER, there are more false positives then positives.
Good luck and keep us updated.
T&Ps headed your way.
In the meantime, take care of yourself as much as you can. (hard, I know...)
6/14/10 BFP; 6/30/10 Dx ectopic
11/16/10 BFP #2; DD born 7/26/11
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I know it's hard, but try not to worry too much right now. I'm sure the specialist will be able to give you more specific information. I would imagine that the scan results aren't definant and that there is a very good chance that you'll have a 100% happy and healthy baby. If you do end up having a baby with down syndrome I know it will be life changing but please know that I'm positive you could handle it. I am a special education teacher and I am very close with my student's families. Many of them have shared there stories with me. In the beginning, it was very difficult for them. They grieved the "perfect" child they dreamt of. But now, they realize what a blessing that child has been and they can't imagine their lives without them. If you find yourself facing this situation your family and friends will support you. You will get support from early childhood interventions. You will learn how your child learns, communicates, and socializes.
Stay positive and know that we are all thinking about you!