First depression.I need reassurance please.

Re: First depression.I need reassurance please.

• abovewedding

  February 2011

  Hey there! First of all, I'm sorry you're going through this, I know having a baby is tough in general and we planned to have our baby and its still hard. I do think that once you start getting better sleep and being able to go out more you'll start to see a difference. Also once your baby begins 'doing things' you'll see the rewards.

  Anyways, I noticed you're in Toronto too. Mt. Sinai hospital has a really great group program for moms with depression and anxiety. I'm actually starting it next week for my panic disorder. Ask your doctor for a referral, I think meds can be great but as someone who's taken them I'll say that therapy is really helpful.  

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• pug86

  February 2011

  My heart goes out to you sweetie.  My 2nd child was very hard, because I wasn't ready for another one.  I also had bad post-pardum after his birth.

  I am a FIRM believer in the fact that meds alone will not make it better... just like counseling alone won't.    You'll need both - medication to kick start your brain into dealing with issues at hand - and a support group/counselor that will listen to your problems and to look further down the road.    Depression causes you to see things in a fog - the medicine really helps your brain clear out the clouds.   Even though she was a surprise, you will come to never wanting to live without her (even with all the baggage babies come with!)

  I was VERY stubborn with my 2nd and didn't take meds til he was 9 mos. old.  DON'T do what I did. I needlessly hurt my husband and 1st sons with my anger, lack of sleep and sadness.   Get help now!   

  (p.s. I was on meds & counseling with my first and it was wonderful)

  Praying that you take that leap of faith and seek help!!
  

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• pug86

  February 2011

  I also forgot to mention that it can take up to 6 weeks for meds to regulate in your system.

  Hang in there!!!  Things WILL get better!!!
  

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• cloclo85

  February 2011

  Thanks very much for the support. I see that you really understand what im feeling...
  

  ''Every cloud has a silver lining.''

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• katyjones123

  February 2011

  I wanted to get pregnant when I had my first child, and still felt exactly how you feel right after having him. Everyone makes you feel like the time right after you have a baby should be the most joyous time in your life, but the reality is that it's really hard. For me, the bonding process took a lot longer than I expected and I felt a ton of guilt over that. It's OK - and completely normal - to feel detached, particularly when you are struggling with PPD. Hang in there, give the medicine time to work, and find someone to talk to.
  

  

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