Did you have a witty comeback for all the due date check-ins?

umdbride · February 2011

Hey ladies, I'm starting to be really uncomfortable and on top of that I feel like everyone is picking this week to start "checking in" and asking how I'm feeling, a.k.a. "when is the baby coming?!"

My back is killing me most of the time now and I'm not sleeping more than an hour at a time because of the pain so I know I'm grumpier than usual, but its really starting to drive me crazy that everyone is looking for updates and I still have at least 2 weeks to go. I'm not sure I can stay being polite and cheerful to all the inquiries for much longer.

I know this happens to everyone, so how did you handle it? Did you have any creative comeback that made people stop asking??

Sofka · February 2011

only in my head "no, I'm not pregnant anymore, I had the baby but am wearing this fake bump so you could keep asking me if I'm still pregnant"

the worst were the "how many are in there" comments? esp. from women who were Moms

once you have the baby, no one will care about you anymore or ask about you - all the Qs will be about the LO

L'Etincelle · February 2011

First, I highly recommend making an appointment at a chiropractor near you for your back pain. Seriously, do not live with that kind of pain. You need as much rest as possible right now! I had terrible back pain in my first pregnancy, and it was gone after my chiropractic care. Don't live with the pain!! The last thing you want is to be misaligned and in pain BEFORE labor even begins. An adjustment will help you have a smoother birth, too.

As for people checking in, it is SO irritating, I know. As hard as it is to bite your tongue, people really do mean well, and are asking how you are feeling and are excited for you. Try to take a few deep breaths, and then be honest. Let them know how you are feeling - back pain, ready to have the baby, everyone asking about it. That way they get their answer, and you feel better too having had someone to vent (a little) to. Best wishes!! You are ALMOST there

mommmyz · February 2011

It's not witty, but once at about 38 weeks I finally snapped when someone said, "You're still pregnant?" and looked down at my belly, looked back up with an expression of shock, and said "WHAT? I had no idea! Thanks for letting me know!" They laughed, but it at least made me feel a little better!

Hang in there!

fatjavacat · February 2011

Try this...

https://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

Kewliegirl · February 2011

fatjavacat:
Try this...

https://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

Dear Fatjava,

B.R.I.L.L.I.A.N.T.

35 and counting,

kewliegirl

Kewliegirl · February 2011

fatjavacat:
Try this...

https://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

Dear Fatjava,

B.R.I.L.L.I.A.N.T.

35 and counting,

kewliegirl

cmh06 · February 2011

fatjavacat:
Try this...

https://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

Love it!

fatjavacat · February 2011

I wish I could remember where I found that little gem. It is bookmarked and ready for #2 when that day comes!

RomeRomance06 · February 2011

I hear ya. I'm almost 35 weeks and everyone is always asking me how many weeks I have left. Even if they asked me just a few days before. I know people are trying to find something to talk about and they really have no concept of time whereas you are literally counting down every day! I can see how that's going to get more and more annoying as the weeks tick by and the more uncomfortable I get. Let me know if you find anything good to say that works and I'll keep it on file.

umdbride · February 2011

thanks guys - even just commiserating helps

love the website! right now it's mostly people texting and emailing for updates and asking about when my next dr. appointment is....I'm trying to nicely explain that even the doctor can't predict when he'll actually arrive, that all she does is measure my belly and check for a good heartbeat at this point.

umdbride · February 2011

L'Etincelle:
First, I highly recommend making an appointment at a chiropractor near you for your back pain. Seriously, do not live with that kind of pain. You need as much rest as possible right now! I had terrible back pain in my first pregnancy, and it was gone after my chiropractic care. Don't live with the pain!! The last thing you want is to be misaligned and in pain BEFORE labor even begins. An adjustment will help you have a smoother birth, too.

thanks for this! I think it's just that he's "sunny side up" still and is pressing on my spine because if I get on all my hands and knees for a while I can get relief. It's just pretty hard to sleep or do anything much that way. I'll ask my midwife about a chiropractor at my appointment tomorrow though - thanks for the tip!

MrsNJSwimmer · February 2011

At work, I have a white board on the one wall in my office. I put my due date up there and then started a pool to see who could guess the date. Then if someone asked me, I just pointed to the board.

belizeitornot · February 2011

no, but in the last two weeks we finally told our parents point blank "stop calling us every day you are driving us insane. we will call when we have news" i'm not proud, but it worked. Wink

mssaint · February 2011

One of the unexpected benefits of delivering 4 weeks early was not having to get those questions! It was bad enough, though - I was on bed rest over the holidays, so I didn't work from 12/15 until January 3, and then only worked for a week before delivering the baby, so that week none of my coworkers had seen me for three weeks and I was noticeably bigger. So combined with answering questions about my health post bed-rest and then comments about my size, I spent that whole week deflecting inquiries about the pregnancy.

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