Most bizarre birthday party invite ever

Stacyc625 · February 2011

So DH's direct report invited us to his DD's birthday party. She is turning 3 shortly.

The party is 7pm on a Tuesday night.

WHAT WHAT WHAT???

DH inquired about the time/day and they said- well since she co sleeps- she goes to bed when they do- so that time works for them.

Its an Indian restaurant.

Who has a bday party for a 3yr old at 7pm during the week???

Mrsboom · February 2011

And at an Indian restaurant!! That's crazy, it's probably cheaper then a weekend but still!! Crazy

Mom2Toddler · February 2011

Or at an Indian restaurant? I bet so much for all the 3 year olds that are going to show.

JAM2000 · February 2011

um, wow! That is just bizzare. 7pm and at an Indian restaurant. I'm an adult and I'm not an exotic eater so I wouldn't even like an Indian restaurant. The 3yr old set is into chicken fingers, pizza, & mac and cheese- not Indian food!

So strange. I'd just send a small gift and say sorry we can't make it.

JOEBunny · February 2011

I think people do that who don't want anyone to come. I am always happy to skip one of the 30+ birthday parties we are invited to, so I have no problem saying, "thank you so much for including us, but we can't make it." I have even ask the teacher how tight DD is with certain kids because I have no desire to go to the parties or even drop her off, unless it is one of her best pals. I am also of the mind that a 3 year old doesn't need more than 4 kids at the party. Clearly, I am in the minority on that one.

Daisy77 · February 2011

That is odd! Same goes for the Indian restaurant...she eats pretty much anything but that probably wouldn't fly with my 3 year old, lol.

One of my friends was recently invited to a bday party for a 5-6 year old kid that went from 8pm-10pm. It was a Friday night, but still. She said their son had a meltdown not long after they arrived so they didn't stick around long anyway...

EnglishMajor03 · February 2011

JOEBunny:
I think people do that who don't want anyone to come. I am always happy to skip one of the 30+ birthday parties we are invited to, so I have no problem saying, "thank you so much for including us, but we can't make it." I have even ask the teacher how tight DD is with certain kids because I have no desire to go to the parties or even drop her off, unless it is one of her best pals. I am also of the mind that a 3 year old doesn't need more than 4 kids at the party. Clearly, I am in the minority on that one.

I, personally, don't think a 3 year old needs any friends at a birthday party but we're in incredibly close proximity to aunts/uncles/cousins who always attend the parties.

As for the birthday party- that is bizarre. But, if they're celebrating the LO's birthday ON her birthday it could be a Tuesday and going to bed later seems a reasonable enough explanation. I just don't know why they'd invite so many people....

hellopoppyseed · February 2011

I know it would be really hard for us to go to a party like that since both babies are in bed by 7. I say get the child a seriously nice gift and explain that it is difficult with the new guy to be out that late.

alli2672 · February 2011

I can imagine doing that. We haven't really invited other kids to b-day parties so far. It has been my parents, DH's parents, and my brother and sister and their dates. No kids. I can see deciding to have a mostly adult party in the evening when everyone can make it and having it at a nearby restaurant, espcially if my kids were typically up late.

I can also imagine my DH being totally clueless and inviting a co-worker who also happened to have a three year old, not giving any thought to the fact that this isn't a typical children's birthday party.

Then again, maybe they are just weird.

Stacyc625 · February 2011

The choice of restaurant doesn't bother me in the least. I just chalked that up to American kids have parties at McDonald's ~ and Indian family does it their way. All good.

The time however SUCKS. Both of my kids are down or going down by 7pm. I think we will just be sending a gift.

smittie417 · February 2011

Good for you, that is the weirdest thing I've heard all day.

wifeandmama · February 2011

My BIL and SIL had a 6:30 on a Monday party for our 3 year old niece... we so did not go. Who the heck does that?!

JaysonandKristin · February 2011

EnglishMajor03:
JOEBunny:
I think people do that who don't want anyone to come. I am always happy to skip one of the 30+ birthday parties we are invited to, so I have no problem saying, "thank you so much for including us, but we can't make it." I have even ask the teacher how tight DD is with certain kids because I have no desire to go to the parties or even drop her off, unless it is one of her best pals. I am also of the mind that a 3 year old doesn't need more than 4 kids at the party. Clearly, I am in the minority on that one.
I, personally, don't think a 3 year old needs any friends at a birthday party but we're in incredibly close proximity to aunts/uncles/cousins who always attend the parties.
As for the birthday party- that is bizarre. But, if they're celebrating the LO's birthday ON her birthday it could be a Tuesday and going to bed later seems a reasonable enough explanation. I just don't know why they'd invite so many people....

ITA, as well regarding the number of guests at at party for a small kid.

Anyways, OP, sounds like you've got a great "Thank you, but we won't be able to make it" RSVP in your future.

lms_bride · February 2011

Could just be cultural differences too. I'm guessing the parents are Indian (your husband is in IT, right). Maybe that isn't so unusual for them. I don't think we'd be going... you'd be home at 9 at least.

Agreed, completely bizarre from what we are used to.

Stacyc625 · February 2011

lms_bride:

Could just be cultural differences too. I'm guessing the parents are Indian (your husband is in IT, right). Maybe that isn't so unusual for them. I don't think we'd be going... you'd be home at 9 at least.

Agreed, completely bizarre from what we are used to.

That is what I kinda chalked it up to- hell 9pm is late for me now adays for an ADULT party. Now how lame is that? lol.

lms_bride · February 2011

Stacyc625:
lms_bride:

Could just be cultural differences too. I'm guessing the parents are Indian (your husband is in IT, right). Maybe that isn't so unusual for them. I don't think we'd be going... you'd be home at 9 at least.

Agreed, completely bizarre from what we are used to.

That is what I kinda chalked it up to- hell 9pm is late for me now adays for an ADULT party. Now how lame is that? lol.

Yeah same here! Sad but true. If I am in bed by 9:30 I am a happy camper.

MrsBalletStar05 · February 2011

If THEY are Indian, then I get having it at an Indian restaurant. Also, in my experience, I've found that other cultures stay up later than we do. If Tuesday is her actual birthday, or they have all sorts of other stuff going on later that week, then I get that as well.

spiritenergy · February 2011

It doesn't bother me. My son loved Indian food at age 3. I remember trying to plan a birthday party for my son when he was turning 3. We were trying to find a time on a weekend that his 2 friends could attend (we do not have family in the area.) I could have pulled my hair out trying to work around everyone's nap schedule and what other plans they had. We are also late night people, so 7 doesn't bother us.

mandymack · February 2011

That is so late for us as Emily is also in bed by 7pm b/c of Preschool.

twh2006 · February 2011

Yeah I don't see anything wrong with it. I have our birthday parties tailored around our needs as a family not to please others. So yeah...I don't see the issue.

babypuplove · February 2011

twh2006:
Yeah I don't see anything wrong with it. I have our birthday parties tailored around our needs as a family not to please others. So yeah...I don't see the issue.

Well, I guess if you don't expect to have guests at your party, then not thinking of the needs of others should be just fine!

twh2006 · February 2011

After the last big blow out we had where no one RSVP'd and almost none of Dh's family came. That's the last time I will ever worry about anyone else's feelings. Ever.

I've found over the years your true friends will be there reguardless of time. We have the same bunch at all our parties, and at 3, they aren't old enough to worry with "best friends" anyway.

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