I'm a bad friend

StarlitRN · February 2011

My best friend got engaged last night. She is over the moon.....I just want to cry. They have been together for almost 4yrs and she has been dying for the ring but everyone who knows them knows that this is not a good idea!

. He is a nice guy but is extremely childish (in no way ready for marriage..he proposed b/c she pushed so hard) and he is extremely selfish (never thinks of her it is always what HE wants). They don't agree on any of the big flags (finances, children...) and she hates his very meddlesome family (they live 2 blocks away and he is upset that they are "so far").

ugh! She is pushing for a short engagement and I know she is going to want a baby soon (she is the only one in our group without a baby). She deserves so much better

{. I hate that I'm not happy but aaagghh!

Sorry I just had to vent! Time to swallow my feelings, put a smile on my face & help her plan.

kwinters87 · February 2011

I know the feeling. The same thing happened with a friend of mine.

Look at it this way, you should be there now to support her and make sure that you are there to pick her up if/when things fall apart.

glasgow_girl · February 2011

I agree, make sure you stick with her, just in case. Try to steer clear of "I knew it", or "I told you so" if things do head south - I learned that one the hard way!

Kersbear · February 2011

It's frustrating, but there is only so little as a friend one can do. The same thing happened to friends of ours. Luckily, she realized it before marrying him and ended the engagement/relationship.

someflower6 · February 2011

i know the feeling hun. it doesn't make you a bad friend to have your concerns.

StrawberryAlarmClock · February 2011

This makes you a good friend. They say the best bridesmaids are the ones who will bring Ben & Jerry's when the groom screws up. You're being a real friend. Be supportive and optimistic and ready with the B&J