When did you tell people you were matched?

amm78 · February 2011

We are not matched yet, but I was wondering when you told people you had a match. Did you just tell close friends and family... or did you just wait and let people be surprised when you brought home a baby?

silliestbunny · February 2011

A little of it all

Close friends and family knew when we matched. But it was a fantastic surprise for others when we announced her birth through our Christmas card.

I couldn't have handled the barage of questions that would have come from extended family and friends. It worked well for us.

MrsKolasa · February 2011

Everyone knew Big Smile

Mostly because there was nooooo hiding our excitement. Also because if it didn't work out, we were going to need the support. For me, it was really nice to have people excited for us, just like they would be if we were pregnant.

firefightersgal · February 2011

We are doing foster/adopt, so it is a bit different. We'll probably get a call a few hours to a couple of days before the child comes into our home. On the other hand, if it is a situation where we adopt from another foster home, we will have several meetings with the child before they come to live with us.

If we get a baby straight from the hospital (please, Lord!), I would theoretically like to take a couple of days just to ourselves before we let the cat out of the bag. I'm sure I'd be calling my mom as soon as our social worker hangs up the phone, though.

Dr.Loretta · February 2011

Our situation was a little different than most, because DD was already born when we were matched. Her BM had her on a Wednesday morning, spent Wednesday choosing an adoptive family, and we met her on Thursday. We took DD home on Friday.

Our SW said there was an outside chance DD's BF would contest the adoption, so she cautioned telling the world. But work knew as soon as The Call came, and we told our parents on both sides and let the news percolate.

Had we been matched with an e-mom, we likely would have told immediate family and appropriate work people, with the caveat that things could change.

butterflygrooves · February 2011

We've been matched for almost a week but we don't have details on the case yet so we aren't sure if we will move forward once the details come in, I called my Dad and let him know so that he could pray for us. My wife has shared the news with her boss, another coworker and a friend of ours.

We are trying to keep it from our families until we get the info we've been waiting for and know if we are going to adopt.

The last match we had didn't work out and we had already told our families, they weren't much support when we called back to let them know it wasn't going to happen so we are protecting ourelves more this time around.

sw_in_kc · February 2011

We told our immediate families and our good friends. Our friends have been so supportive of our TTC and adoption journeys, and they continued to ask for updates, so we couldn't hide it. We did caution everyone that they is always a chance things won't work out, so they offered continued thoughts and prayers and support. We did shock a lot of people though when we shared that she was home!

AuburnBride06 · February 2011

MrsKolasa:
Everyone knew Mostly because there was nooooo hiding our excitement. Also because if it didn't work out, we were going to need the support. For me, it was really nice to have people excited for us, just like they would be if we were pregnant.

This. And it's part of the process. We didn't want to miss out on any of it.

alisonemma · February 2011

We told people almost right away. We felt very confident about the situation early on due to the birthmom's previous choices and lifestyle. We'll see! I hope everything goes according to plan!

FinallyMrs.G · February 2011

We told family and most of our close friends the day we were matched, we were very excited and couldn't wait to tell. We waited until DD was home for a couple of days to let everyone in on the news though. We needed our time before getting bombarded.

amm78 · February 2011

AuburnBride06:
And it's part of the process. We didn't want to miss out on any of it.

That's pretty much how we're feeling right now. We know we will never have a sure thing until TPR and everything, but we feel like we don't want to miss out on the excitement of awaiting a baby's arrival just because we're too scared of what may or may not go wrong.

sh4602 · February 2011

we told our parents and my brother right away. once he was born and we had a good feeling about the bm not changing her mind we called everyone.

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