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May 2011 Moms
Both my Grandmas are dying
My Maternal Grandma has an aneurysm and she's too sick to operate on. I would like to go see her, but she's been delirious and doesn't recognize anyone. I live 3 hours away, otherwise I would try and go see her.
My Paternal Grandma has terminal lung cancer. She went through chemo and radiation treatment. The cancer has returned to her liver and lungs since treatment. When she was diagnosed they said she would be lucky if she lives until Easter with treatment. It's bittersweet as the birth of my daughter draws near, my grandmother is dying.
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Re: Both my Grandmas are dying
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kikijbird ~ Erica (aka Kiki) & Paul ~ 24 April 2010
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Wow, talk about an incredibly difficult time for your family.
You're all in my prayers.
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I went through a similar situation several years ago. My sympathies to you and your family. It is truly bittersweet when an elderly family member is in poor health. You don't want them to suffer long, but you don't want to say goodbye.
My grandmother had congestive heart failure and was in hospice care late 2003, they had told us she wouldn't make it past thanksgiving (these things always seem to happen at the holidays =/) but she held on for a while longer.
My grandfather, in an effort to take care of my grandmother had been ignoring his own symptoms. He was on heavy pain killers for his chronic arthritis, and it wasn't until he was visibly yellow that my mother and her brothers confronted him about it.
In the end, he had cancer, which was now all over his lungs/pancreas, etc. and he was having liver failure.
They kept my grandfather alive through Christmas 2003 by doing blood transfusions. They stopped the transfusions and he passed on a couple of days after Christmas. My grandmother was devastated. They had been married for 64 years.
Within 2 weeks of my grandfather's death, she had a stroke while being cared for at my mother's house and we lost her also.
I haven't had any living grandparents since my father's mother passed in 2006. It saddens me that my daughter will never get to meet them or my father. I just hope I can recall enough of the stories I was told growing up to give her a sense of what kind of fantastic people they were.
I don't expect hearing this will make you feel any better about the situation, but I hope you can take some solace in knowing that you're not alone.
Pink, I am so sorry you are going through this. I had the same experience one year ago, but both happened very suddenly.
Saying goodbye can be hard, but was so important to me. I only got to say goodbye to one grandmother and I wish I could have been with both before they passed, even if just for a moment.
I hope you have strength and feel lots of love during this difficult time.