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DS doesn't like DH when I'm home.

erinkate23erinkate23
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DH is a SAHD. 

Whenever I'm home, DS wants nothing to do with him.  Like, nothing.  Not even a minute.  If I'm home, he's attached to me like a barnacle - he has to go with me to the bathroom, and be physically touching me pretty much nonstop.  If DH tries to play with him, hold him, or anything, he either cries or bee-lines straight for me.

I can tell that it hurts DH's feelings a little bit.  

Any thoughts to share?  SAHMs, any advice to offer?
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Re: DS doesn't like DH when I'm home.

  • HollySC13HollySC13
    I read that this is normal when one parent is a SAH and the other works. It's nothing personal, the child has just became satiated on the SAH parent's attention. They also eventually grow out of it. I'm not sure if it's true, just something I read. I can let you know in August when I have to go back to school and our LO (who will be around 4 months by then) is home with his SAHD!
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  • sapgirl76sapgirl76 member
    I'm in the exact same same situation and it breaks DH's heart.  No words of wisdom, just commiseration.
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  • kegallaghkegallagh member
    My husband is also a SAHD, and we go through periods of this. Right now he's pretty 50/50 about whose attention he wants if we're both home, but we definitely go through phases of 100% mommy. It's exhausting for me and sad for my husband. I don't really have suggestions; I just wanted to let you know we're in the same boat.
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  • mandyclaire579mandyclaire579 member
    No offense, but duh!! Stick out tongue DS has been away from you all day. Of course he wants to attach himself to you. And you're his mom. It was the opposite when DH was at work and I was at home. He would be all over DH and I would get a break at the end of the day. Kids crave the time with each parent, alone. There is absolutely nothing to worry about. He is with one parent all day, the other comes home so he catches up with that one.
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  • erinkate23erinkate23

    imagemandyclaire579:
    No offense, but duh!! Stick out tongue DS has been away from you all day. Of course he wants to attach himself to you. And you're his mom. It was the opposite when DH was at work and I was at home. He would be all over DH and I would get a break at the end of the day. Kids crave the time with each parent, alone. There is absolutely nothing to worry about. He is with one parent all day, the other comes home so he catches up with that one.

    LOL, true.  I don't mind at all.... I like that he misses me, and I certainly love having all the attention (though it would occasionally be nice to poop solo).  DH feels a little sad when it's Sunday and he hasn't even gotten a hug in 2 days.  DS won't let DH wear him, hold him, feed him, hug him, change him - anything.  I just feel bad when I see that, and I know DH feels a bit rejected.

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  • SinafeySinafey member

    I SAH and the hubby works from home but only sees DD for 1 or 2 minute intervals during the work day.  The second DH picks Catie up she hates me.  If he even has her facing me she screams.  It would be kind of comical if it wasn't also heartbreaking :*(


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