Hmmm.... What to do?

thewayiam · February 2011

Next weekend is test weekend. Of course I'm hoping for a BFP. It's also a ski weekend - my DH and some friends that he knew when we lived in New York are planning a big ski weekend. I'm supposed to go, too, of course. But, if I get a BFN I don't think I'll be able to handle spending the weekend with 15 strangers (well, I know two of them) in a ski chalet.

And I guess if it's a BFP I don't want to be skiing, either, right?

Maybe I have my answer. What would you do?

opallover · February 2011

If you get a bfn it might help to take your mind off it for a bit? hmm, I dunno?

If you get a bfp I dunno if I would ski...

ETA: GOOD LUCK! [!!!!!! so excited !!!!!]

taurus424 · February 2011

BFN = go, have fun, and itll keep you busy

BFP= sinus infection, sprained ankle, migraine...etc (still go but dont ski)

twistedmetal · February 2011

If you get a BFN, then it may help take your mind off it, and if (hopefully) you get a BFP it'll be a celebratory weekend getaway. Are there other things to do there?

shanna82 · February 2011

I wouldn't ski if you get a BFP, but I would if it is a BFN---it might help put you in a better mood and you could have a really great time!

LilMaggs · February 2011

I'd do it. The hardest lesson of all for me to learn has been to not put my life on hold for what "might" happen. I've wasted three years holding back because I "might" get KTFU and I "might" not miscarry or I "might" have a BFN and want nothing to do with anyone. They've been the worst three years of my life. Is it hard not to think about it all the time? Yes. However, as I've really focused on getting out and about the last few months, I've found support in corners I never would have looked in otherwise. It's made facing the whole TTCAL process more doable. Not always easier, but more doable.

clauseka · February 2011

If I were you, I would go and find myself a cozy spot by a warm fireplace and read some good books and enjoy the scenery (with wine if you get a rotten BFN OR the richest hot chocolate if you get your BFP). Just for the record - I'm sending wishes for the hot chocolate your way! Smile

KaitySueWho · February 2011

taurus424:

BFN = go, have fun, and itll keep you busy

BFP= sinus infection, sprained ankle, migraine...etc (still go but dont ski)

THIS! FX for you to get your BFP

Izabella22 · February 2011

clauseka:
If I were you, I would go and find myself a cozy spot by a warm fireplace and read some good books and enjoy the scenery (with wine if you get a rotten BFN OR the richest hot chocolate if you get your BFP). Just for the record - I'm sending wishes for the hot chocolate your way!

Omg this... can I do this anyways?

sdlaura · February 2011

I went on a skiing/snowboarding trip with 14 people 8 days after my D&E at 21 weeks. The trip was planned when I was pregnant, and I was planning to do what was mentioned above and just sit in cozy places and read and relax. But it actually ended up being really awesome to snowboard for three straight days after everything we had been through, both emotionally and physically. So I was glad I went. But obviously you should do what makes you the most comfortable!

busterbeagle · February 2011

I agree with PPs, but it is important to follow your gut. If you are really worried that it will be too tough to handle (in either instance), maybe you should talk to YH about it. You might get more excited that way, but if not, I wouldn't feel too guilty about sitting it out. I like to be alone to brood when I'm upset about something, so I understand why you might not want to be with a bunch of people who don't have a clue what is up.

Hope you get the BFP, though!

crash916 · February 2011

trishiepoo:
taurus424:

BFN = go, have fun, and itll keep you busy

BFP= sinus infection, sprained ankle, migraine...etc (still go but dont ski)

I say this. Good Luck! I hope you get your BFP!

I agree with these ladies. Good luck testing!

starrynyt · February 2011

LilMaggs:
I'd do it. The hardest lesson of all for me to learn has been to not put my life on hold for what "might" happen. I've wasted three years holding back because I "might" get KTFU and I "might" not miscarry or I "might" have a BFN and want nothing to do with anyone. They've been the worst three years of my life. Is it hard not to think about it all the time? Yes. However, as I've really focused on getting out and about the last few months, I've found support in corners I never would have looked in otherwise. It's made facing the whole TTCAL process more doable. Not always easier, but more doable.

This. It's hard for me, but I've really tried to stop saying "what if I'm pg then?" I have a ton going on this year as both of my siblings are getting married, but I've decided that I'm just going to participate in everything and if I end up having to cancel last minute because I'm pg...well...I would love to have to do that. With skiing specifically, if you get a BFP I would come up with an excuse not to ski (feeling sick, pulled something the week before, etc.). Reading a book at a ski lodge while pg sounds glorious to me. Smile GL on your decision and more importantly on testing next weekend!!!

thewayiam · February 2011

starrynyt:

LilMaggs:
I'd do it. The hardest lesson of all for me to learn has been to not put my life on hold for what "might" happen. I've wasted three years holding back because I "might" get KTFU and I "might" not miscarry or I "might" have a BFN and want nothing to do with anyone. They've been the worst three years of my life. Is it hard not to think about it all the time? Yes. However, as I've really focused on getting out and about the last few months, I've found support in corners I never would have looked in otherwise. It's made facing the whole TTCAL process more doable. Not always easier, but more doable.

This. It's hard for me, but I've really tried to stop saying "what if I'm pg then?" I have a ton going on this year as both of my siblings are getting married, but I've decided that I'm just going to participate in everything and if I end up having to cancel last minute because I'm pg...well...I would love to have to do that. With skiing specifically, if you get a BFP I would come up with an excuse not to ski (feeling sick, pulled something the week before, etc.). Reading a book at a ski lodge while pg sounds glorious to me. GL on your decision and more importantly on testing next weekend!!!

Thanks for all of your input! If I get a BFP (trying to be positive) I would go. I don't even care if these people know why I'm not skiing, as I really don't even know them. It's the BFN. You're right, it'll probably take my mind off of it all, but I've been really upset the past two months and couldn't stop from crying all weekend long when AF arrived. It would absolutely suck to be out of control like that, so far away and surrounded by strangers. But the skiing/snowboarding could really help, you're right.

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